Wow Im with TigerGirl on this one and actually amazed by the responses here....

Why I say this:

I lost my virginity at age 14 and was very promiscuous (I was also sexually abused as a child.) I was "fast" up until I met my FI and during the beginning of our relationship - but always faithful. FI does not have as strong as a sex drive as me and he taught me ALOT about myself. I love sex but he taught me what intimacy was. We can have an amazing time, without actually having sex and I have never felt more close to anyone in my life. Sure, we could just have sex all the time, but sex is not always intimate, and I prefer it this way. I used to tell him I "needed" sex and he would say to me " You dont need it, you want it. Lets cuddle." I never thought anything was wrong with him, and I learned that it is OKAY and that he still loves me, even if we dont have sex 24-7.

I think that if you would even consider leaving him for this, then you need to step back and look at yourself and your relationship. Sex should not be a breaking point for your relationship.

I do agree that sitting down and talking about HOW this makes you feel should help, but I think it should help YOU more than him, to understand WHY you feel sex is SO important.

About the friend comment - Sex is not what determines the difference between a friend and lover - becuase isnt your FI/Husband your best friend? ANd WAY more than that but not based on sex...

Also, if you want to do it, and he doesnt....you can always try to pleasure yourself in front of him - 9 times out of 10 he will want to join in!

I hope I wasnt too harsh, just honest!

I agree that marriage, unless agreed in advance, is generally expected to have a sexual component and that that DOES make that relationship different from others.  However, just because you go for a little while without sexual contact does not mean it's over or you're not still married.  That said, it is unacceptable that he make a unilateral decision for both of you without any discussion or agreement on your part. 

I think you need to see a counselor.  Ideally, you should both go together.  If he refuses to go, then you go alone.  Quite frankly, to me, the worst part is not his disinterest in sex (as that can have a physical or psychological cause) but that he would be so dismissive of your feelings and needs.  That, to me, is a much larger breach of your relationship and requires a professional counselor's assistance.  Again, ideally, he should come with you (if for nothing else than to show he DOES care for your feelings and needs and did not intend to be so dismissive of you). 

As others have said, this can change, but it requires effort from both of you!  Good luck and I'm so sorry you're in this position. 

Well that's a little strange....

If my FI told me that, I'd automatically assume he was cheating and didn't find me attractive anymore. Our relationship would not work if we didn't want to have sex with eachother anymore... Sex isn't everything but it is a big part. Even if he told me he wasn't cheating, I'd still think that.

Sorry this happened to you! Maybe it really is just a medical thing... he needs to see a doctor. Something could be really wrong b/c it just isn't normal!

sorry to hear about that..i don't know what i would do in that situation...i know i love my fiance and would always stick it out thru it but that would be really hard for me...i would say maybe just say ok and be cheerful about it for the time being but try doing something like sending him a text message of u in sexy lingerae or topless or something when he didn't expect it to his phone. or wearing one of his oversized t shirts to bed with no pants and just acting non interested....or maybe lay in bed and start playing with yourself in front of him if u can be bold enough to do that...i know would be easier said than done but he might quickly change his mind then