say you find out that you cannot carry your own babbies, whats your plan? adoption? surrogate??

Ugh... I dunno my best friend Ashley used to say when we were younger that she would surrogate for me but I'm not sure what I'd do.

its sooo scary to think!! At first Fi was VERY against adoption (for us, not in general) but the closer we get the more hes open to it. Wed love to have a surrogate, but its soooooo much more expensive if you have to "hire" someone. and I dont know anyone that would be willing to do it for us...or anyone that I trust ya know?

My husband and I joke that we will have my twin sister be our surrogate.  I think that would be a messy situation.  We're both open to adoption.  Our first choice would be a Vietnamese child in the U.S., our second choice would be a Vietnamese child from Vietnam.  Obviously, if it gets to that point we won't have first and second choices, we'll just want a healthy baby!  I'm glad that we talked about it though.  I think for some men it might be the case of "if its not mine, I don't want one."  I'm so thank ful DH is not like that.

adoption

We are thinking about the Foster to Adopt program.

bluebride-thats exactly how men are!! I think hes worried about all the issues well have and regret it? Hes just worried about not loving it as much, which I know would not happen, but they get scared about the "what ifs" Its totally a sticky situation, id be suuuch a control freak! lol. I'd drive my surrogat craazzzzzzy, especially if it were a friend.

Have you seen the movie Baby Mama? Hilarious, but it does make you scared about surrogacy, although I'm certain a Tina Fey movie should not be used as evidence of the reality of surrogacy. We'd likely adopt, but I'll leave all options open.

we've discussed adoption as our alternative. i don't think either of us would ever be comfortable with surrogacy though

we were actually talking about this tonight. We will adopt after trying for five years. My dad was adopted and I'm all for it if we need to.