We didn't tell anyone while were TTC because I would have been hounded with the typical questions and I didn't want that. Which is why PW was so valuable to me!

When we got our BFP - we only told immediate family. But they were on orders to keep mum until we were past the 1st Tri. That was the longest 8 weeks of our lives but I think it was harder on my Mom than it was me! Now it's killing my Mom not yet knowing what we're having! LOL

I agree with a lot of you that I want to tell my immediate family early on for the support. I just don't need my aunts, co-workers, etc supporting me. Just those closest to me - a small tight knit group.

The plan was to keep TTC a secret...but it didn't seem right to lie to our family and friends when they asked when we going to start a family. And I'm thankful we were honest, because now that it's taking longer than anyone expected, everyone is kind enough not to torture me with subtle questions about how long it will be until we have a new baby in the family.

As far as pregnancy goes, I will tell my Mama right after DH. She's a nurse and I would want her support if anything went wrong, and I know she could keep it to herself until we told everyone else.  Ideally we would like to keep it a secret from everyone else until we've seen/heard a heartbeat, but there's no guarantee that Nick's family won't guess and call me out. I work with my MIL and both of DH's aunts, so if I start loosing my breakfast every morning there will be questions. Lol.  

My sister is the only person who knows that we are TTC. She will also be first to know (aside from DH of course) when we get our BFP. I'll probably end up telling her soon after, but we are planning to wait until the second trimester to tell everyone else. I'd love to tell my mom, and have her support, but she is terrible at keeping secrets.

Well we were 6 weeks when we told out parents in December and 8 weeks when we told everyone else to only MC days later, telling them was more of a blessing to me bc everyone was sooooooo supportive. With that said I think I will tell my mom and a few really close friends before 2nd tri, just to have the prayers and support from my friends.

My Mom and my twin sister are the only ones who knows that we are TTC. My sister will also be the first one (sure, after DH *lol*) when we will get our BFP because she is a midwife and I love to have someone besides me when I have questions / need help. We will tell the rest of our family and friends after the first trimester

@ CountryGirl ~ mom's who can't keep secrets are the funniest!  Especially when you know it is something they'll be so excited over.  We'll tell my mom (even though she isn't good at secrets), but I know my dad will help keep her quiet!

After having a MC at 7 weeks I thought for sure that I would never spill the beans until 12weeks.  Looking back, I'm glad my family and in-laws knew.  They were supportive and now we don't get the 'when are you having kids' question like we used to.  That question would've killed me in the months after that. 

 I can't keep a secret anyway and we were just so excited after trying for so long.  When we get our BFP we will definitely tell my grandparents, DH's parents and my sister.  Then tell friends at 12 weeks. 

This is really good!  I like hearing how it is recommended to tell some people early on for a support network. A close friend of mine thinks it should be totally private between a couple until 12 weeks, but I feel it's nice to let some people know.  Ones who will be overjoyed, and supportive if you need it.  But even if you don't MC you may need support with morning sickness, etc.  I know if I have horrible morning sickness my mom would be cleaning my house, feeding DH, etc while telling DH to just take care of me.

We took the "if it happens it happens" approach with people when TTC. However I told my closest girlfriends that I had stopped taking birth control... which is an obvious sign of TTC. But when family or anyone else not in my inner circle would ask when we were going to have a baby, I would respond "oh, maybe in the next year or so... we dont really want to plan for it". It worked.

After I got my BFP, we kept it to ourselves for like a second :) We then told our parents/siblings & I told only my best friend. We then started casually telling bosses & other people at 10ish weeks. I still havent told a lot of people that I am pregnant. Our core group of friends and family knows, thats all I really cared about telling. I am not a huge facebook/twitter person, so I dont plan on posting anything specific unless a picture is posted of me or something that is an obvious pregnancy pic.