Who did/is going to "hold out"

I'm not trying to criticize, but genuinely curious what reason people have to stop a few months before the wedding? I understand that for those who have held out the whole time, it may be a religious thing, but why would you not after you've already done it?

It's getting you excited for it again(even though it's not going to be the first time, it will be the first time for awhile).  I think that is why most people try to wait again. I know that is why I want to.

WOW!  I applaud you girls who are holding out.  It wasn't ever something that had crossed my mind as a crazy teen.  :(  Later in life, I wish that I had made "better" choices!

FI and I are not holding out nor are we taking a sabbatical from lovin! :)

Wow! I'm actually pretty surprised at how many people are waiting until they are married to be intimate.  So much of the time I get looked at like an alien when I tell people we are waiting.  It hasn't been easy, but it will be well worth the wait, and our honeymoon is gonna be awesome. ;)

We waited for I dunno a month or so.. It kind of creates that anticipation if that answers your question Ashley..

For those that waited, I just can't help but ask.. what if he is horrible in bed?? I guess it wouldn't break a marriage because you love them but oh man you wouldn't know what pleasure you were missing out on... I know there were a few guys that I just wasn't sexually compatible with and I thank God I wasn't stuck with them for life lol not to be disrespectful but just very curious.. are any of you girls who waited a little nervous that the physical compatibility won't be there???

miss-bling: we knew each other well enough, and talked about it a LOT.. I also knew that we'd be blessed b/c of our decision to wait; so I wasn't worried about a little thing like that.  He had been with 3 other gals before me... I was with one other guy before him; so we also had "experience".....

I do'nt feel that "sexual compatibility" should even be an issue.  You're marrying him for his heart and your future together, not his performance in bed...

I think sexual compatibility is HUGE.  It may not be the whole enchilada, but it's definitely a main ingredient, at least in my cook book ;)

And I agree that the added "anticipation" is the reason for holding off a little.  We were long distance for almost two years, so we know all about anticipation.

Ooh this thread has super peaked my interest. I had only given minimal thought to the idea before, now the more I think about it, I think that holding out might be a good way to amp up the anticipation ;)

Shesh I tend to agree with you, as a teenager this thought never crossed my mind, and wish that I had more foresight. What a great gift to give to your husband.

PS - I travel for work a lot so take it from me - anticipation is a wonderful thing ;)

This is a GREAT topic! I love it! So me and my FI live together, and I really never thought about this before, but it makes sense in so many ways. I would say a few months before the wedding. Im letting him know tonight. LOL... I'll let you know what he says. :)