Who did/is going to "hold out"

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11/03/2009 at 01:50 pm

I'm not trying to criticize, but genuinely curious what reason people have to stop a few months before the wedding? I understand that for those who have held out the whole time, it may be a religious thing, but why would you not after you've already done it?

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11/03/2009 at 02:03 pm

It's getting you excited for it again(even though it's not going to be the first time, it will be the first time for awhile).  I think that is why most people try to wait again. I know that is why I want to.

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11/03/2009 at 02:19 pm

WOW!  I applaud you girls who are holding out.  It wasn't ever something that had crossed my mind as a crazy teen.  :(  Later in life, I wish that I had made "better" choices!

FI and I are not holding out nor are we taking a sabbatical from lovin! :)

11/03/2009 at 02:35 pm

Wow! I'm actually pretty surprised at how many people are waiting until they are married to be intimate.  So much of the time I get looked at like an alien when I tell people we are waiting.  It hasn't been easy, but it will be well worth the wait, and our honeymoon is gonna be awesome. ;)

11/03/2009 at 02:54 pm

We waited for I dunno a month or so.. It kind of creates that anticipation if that answers your question Ashley..

For those that waited, I just can't help but ask.. what if he is horrible in bed?? I guess it wouldn't break a marriage because you love them but oh man you wouldn't know what pleasure you were missing out on... I know there were a few guys that I just wasn't sexually compatible with and I thank God I wasn't stuck with them for life lol not to be disrespectful but just very curious.. are any of you girls who waited a little nervous that the physical compatibility won't be there???

 

11/03/2009 at 03:00 pm

miss-bling: we knew each other well enough, and talked about it a LOT.. I also knew that we'd be blessed b/c of our decision to wait; so I wasn't worried about a little thing like that.  He had been with 3 other gals before me... I was with one other guy before him; so we also had "experience".....

I do'nt feel that "sexual compatibility" should even be an issue.  You're marrying him for his heart and your future together, not his performance in bed...

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11/03/2009 at 03:15 pm

I think sexual compatibility is HUGE.  It may not be the whole enchilada, but it's definitely a main ingredient, at least in my cook book ;)

And I agree that the added "anticipation" is the reason for holding off a little.  We were long distance for almost two years, so we know all about anticipation.

11/03/2009 at 03:18 pm

Ooh this thread has super peaked my interest. I had only given minimal thought to the idea before, now the more I think about it, I think that holding out might be a good way to amp up the anticipation ;)

Shesh I tend to agree with you, as a teenager this thought never crossed my mind, and wish that I had more foresight. What a great gift to give to your husband.

11/03/2009 at 03:19 pm

PS - I travel for work a lot so take it from me - anticipation is a wonderful thing ;)

11/03/2009 at 04:25 pm

This is a GREAT topic! I love it! So me and my FI live together, and I really never thought about this before, but it makes sense in so many ways. I would say a few months before the wedding. Im letting him know tonight. LOL... I'll let you know what he says. :)

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