Who did/is going to "hold out"

we live together but we'll probably cut it off a month or so beforehand. He doesn't see the point but I want to look forward to SOMETHING on my wedding night.

I think if you wait communication is super important.  My FI and I aren't afraid to talk and teach each other about what we need sexually.  I know that we might not be right at great sex at the beginning, but we are willing to learn what the other needs.

miss*bling: We are waiting and part of it is like what Goff said about being blessed for waiting. But also, we just know it will be good. I know this is TMI, but everything so far has been good. He is not a virgin, I am. So I don't have anything to compare it to. We've talked about it a lot. I think we'll be just great in the sexually compatible department. Sorry I know that's TMI. 

Toby and I have lived in different continents for the last year so needless to say it was on a force hold...i will see him on Saturday (WHOO HOO) but we have discussed continuing this hold out.....we only have 17 days until our wedding.....

::clapping hands:: I applaud you ladies for holding out!

We are "holding out" for 2 weeks lol.... It was the max time he agreed on and even this horrified him. We live together and it has only been a few days since we started and it is already difficult.

Honestly for me the physical compatibility is very important also. I guess if you have not been with anyone else, you will not really know to compare =] It can be a pretty great thing I figure =]

I personally always knew that I would need to "test drive my car".......

I know what you mean olga I knew a girl that waited until she got married and HATED it. She said it was the most awful thing she'd ever been through(poor guy). however, they found out she has some female issues that may have contributed to it but last I heard she still didn't enjoy sex like she should. I still think it's great for girls to wait I sometimes wish I had waited but don't regret not.

I'm not! I want to enjoy my husband as long as I can before he turns in to my husband. SOunds weird but he will never be my fiance again

As of July of this year, my hormones ARE SCREAMING AT THE TOP OF THEIR LUNGS!!! We decided to hold off..actually after a post just like this way back when.  We are going to wait until our wedding night.  It has been REALLY...no EXTREMELY difficult since we do live together.  We have set rules...no wearing "the cologne/perfume" no naked walking (boxer/panties included) and no movies with a lot of sexual content.  UGH!  BUT, we are very proud of ourselves.  I know that our wedding night will be amazing...and i need to get off this subject now! Thanks!

LOL, a Great Aunt of mine once said to me "always taste the wine before you buy it". 

At any rate, mad props to those who made the decision to wait.  I (also) sometimes wish I'd made better choices as a younger woman, but nothing I can do about it now.  Chemistry is huge, but I agree COMMUNICATION is key, and if you are already madly in love with him, you're 99% there.

Like erudolph (erude, if I may), I too prayed for God to send me a good man, and for my part decided to abstain.  It worked, He sent my my wonderful Fiance, for whom I am grateful for every day.  We've lived together for three years, and won't likely "hold out" prior to our August 2010 wedding (except for maybe the week or so prior when his family is in town and guests are all up in our house 24/7), but it is an intriguing idea!