who is invited to your bridal shower?

do i invite the women on my FI's side that i have never met?

i would think so but don't want them to think i'm just out to get gifts :)

I just invited some of his Aunts all that I knew from his dads side- for his moms side Im not close to his Aunts so I didn't invite them... I doubt they even noticed.  Their not expeted to anyway, its just the closest girls in your life- unless you want to give it an opportunity to meet them before the wedding and get to know them some???

Other then that it was just my bridal party girls, moms, and closest girl friends (one I invited out of obligation haha)

- HMM: )

yeah i struggled with that... i was invited to my future sister in laws wedding and honestly i felt a mix of oh how sweet to be included mixed with oh shoot, another gift. but still it's a small gift. but if you've never met them. could you ask your future mil? feel out how it's handled in that fam?

I just invited my family, his close family, and my nearest and dearest friends. 

   I am SO frustrated with the whole bridal shower thing right now. 2 of my aunts decided to throw it for me, and thats great, except for today i get an email from one that was totally bitchy. 

The shower is on Sept 6th. People started recieving their invites in the mail the last few days of July, with an RSVP date of August 25th. Which is what, like 14 days from now?  But the email i got from my aunt was a rant about how half of my friends haven't RSVPed yet, and she wants to rent tables and chairs, and how the hell is she supposed to do that if she doesnt know how many people are coming.

So, she tells ME to call all of my friends and ask them to please RSVP ASAP.   I'm sorry but they thought that they still had 2 weeks left to rsvp, thats why you havent heard from them yet, and i had to write all these awkward emails and make all these weird phone calls, and totally confuse all of my friends as to what the issue was.  And now some of them may not be able to come because they were waiting to see what work was like, and what school was like, and since they dont know they cant come.

PLUS, my bachlorette was supposed to be the same night, and the aunts okayed that, said we would be done by 5, no problem, and now they are calling it a "double booking snafu", and saying that theres no way the shower will be done by then, and how rude that i think i can cut out early when they are doing all this work. THEY OKAYED IT EARLIER!

  So i'm pissed that she was all bitchy with me, embarassed that i had to contact all those people even tho they had 2 FULL WEEKS left to rsvp, and sad that because of this, some cant come, and my poor maid of honor has to replan my bachlorette party now. GRR!!!   sorry, guess i kind of just had to vent!

I am just inviting everyone so the older woman can meet and have things to talk about at the wedding reception. The young girls will only be invited to the bachelorette party.