I am so annoyed right now.

We went to dinner last night at FMIL/FFIL's house - it was just supposed to be the 4 of us. Of course, FSIL has to call and come right over bringing her new 2 month old - who is very cute, but I digress. She waltzes in, plops him on me, passes him around...then proceeds to change his dirty diaper on the kitchen counter where we are preparing dinner (WTF??), then, well, of COURSE we have to halt everything to give him a bath - in the kitchen sink. "ooh...I brought my camera so we can take pics of gramma giving baby a bath" ->which obviously delays dinner. You couldn't have done that before you came? Or did it the next morning? You HAD to do it right then and there??!! And of course 90% of what comes out of FSIL's mouth has to with the baby - which is fine, but really, we're not at the stage where we care (at all) about babies - and we were there to watch the grey cup and visit with FI's parents - not you and the baby, kwim?

The icing on the cake was when she told me she was bringing the baby to my shower next weekend. She goes, "I didn't want to take away anything from you but I was requested to bring him to show him off". Really? I don't care at all that you are bringing the baby but I do mind that your sole intent is just to "show him off". She JUST had a "Meet the Baby" party 2 weeks ago with her entire family....not to mention the fact that she is supposed to be helping to host the shower. So, my sisters are going to be stuck doing all the work b/c you had to bring the baby??

yuck...feels good to get that off my chest!!!

Poopy diaper on the kitchen counter and bath in the kitchen sink while you're fixing dinner???  Yuck!!!

I can't say much about the self-involvement of new moms because I was probably the same way and may be again someday, but I do think that's way over the top!  And I'm super baby crazy!

My advice; Remember how you feel right now when you finally do become baby crazy and have one of your own, lol.

I always took mine to another room to change him...that's just gross.

Emily.....I think you know where I stand on this.  You know my situation.  I 100% understand and agree with your frustrations!!!!

so gross.  what is she thinking?  that is not OK!

yeah Brianne... i have to remember how i feel about kids attending weddings, showers, etc ... when i have my own, lol.

don't get me wrong - I obviously have no problem with her being excited, I am excited for her - but there is a time and a place. And e.v.e.r.y.t.h.i.n.g. doesn't have to be about you and the baby all the time.

I know I sound like a total brat but why would you use my shower as an excuse to show him off to everyone??? Your ENTIRE family has JUST met him...I mean, c'mon.

Changing a baby anywhere in the kitchen is just gross .... and the child should have been bathed at home ...just my opinion ....I understand your frustration and I am a mom ..... just remember  ...at the shower it will be the baby getting attention ... not her :)

Personally, I would ask her to leave the baby at home for the shower after a performance like that.  Tell her you're worried about sanitation even.  There's no excuse for that level of self-involvement.

*ugh* Em. I can totally relate. And let me add - it doesn't change. Both of my nieces (who I love to bits and pieces) are almost TWO years old and it doesn't change. Seriously. My upcoming wedding and everything NON-BABY related gets the shaft and ALL that is ever talked about at dinners and get togethers is how so and so is talking. Or what so and so did to some other snot faced kid. Or how so and so pooped a big turd.

Seriously..it never changes.

SORRY!

I hope that if and when FI and I have kids we don't act/behave that way. There is life outside of children.

End Vent.

Emily you are hilarious I could not possibly agree more with what you said! (like 150%!) And I am the one who talks non-stop about wanting a baby, and I am the first one to ooh and aw and cuddle the new baby, but this is over the top.

I am feeling a spin off thread coming on involving my cousins... but I will leave it be.