I can totally relate! I'm not going to go into much detail cause it stresses me out too much...lol...but I'm right there with you!

That sucks!  I would be bummed about a newborn baby coming to my shower.  They cry all the time!  :)

I'm really glad my friend who had a baby right after my wedding is nothing like your FSIL!  I guess it's just a reminder that not all moms lose their identity when they have their first baby!

This thread is sooooo funny to me .... As a mom I have never brought my babies to showers etc .... A few times I was TOLD to bring them and that is different .... but I treasured the "me" time so I would always get a sitter .....I will agree there are some moms that aren't just really proud moms .... they are really proud of THEMSELVES and want all the attention BECAUSE of the baby .... and that is different and certainly sounds like what we are dealing with in the OP .... 

However ...it cracks me up how everyone is saying "I hope Im not that kind of mom" .... LMAO !!  ..... when you are a mom ,  at certain times you definitely will be!! .... there is nothing that makes you feel more love than a child!  .... And you will think your baby is the most wonderful thing EVER ... and will expect everyone else to notice this .... LOL  ..... most of us know when it is appropriate to gush over our babies though ...and someone else's shower or wedding isn't usually the place

ugg...I would be so po'd.  She didn't even ask YOU if you minded the baby coming to the shower.  Your Bridal Shower is a once in a lifetime thing and the attention should be mainly on you and bonding with YOUR family and friends.  I;m so upset for yoU!

Wow.  I must agree with you.  Luckily I have never had this happen to me.  I love babies to death, like can't get enough of 'em.  But if it's someone that isn't in the family, I'll have a coniption.  FSIL is pregnant so I understand if that's all she talks about for a while.  All I talk about is school and FI, so I totally understand.  But god lord, have some decency to change your baby elsewhere or atleast make an attempt to lead a normal life while pregnant and after having the baby.  Yikes.

Edit: Niecy, that was so well said.  I must agree with you a ton on that one.