We wanted to enjoy this part of our lives and not have be so stressful with planning. I also didn't want to rush planning.. We are still in the period when nothing is finalized so I can still change my mind (which I have), which I'm glad I gave time for.

I don't hate when people ask, but its the tone people ask in. Some people say it in a way that make you seem insane. Or that you can't get your FI settled..Or you aren't ready to commit...things like that.

I agree with you inspiritedbe..., it's the tone that people ask you! Once I explain why, than everything is understood.

But, we decided to wait till 2011 for three reasons:

1)We wanted to get married on our dating anniversary and it lands on a Friday in 2011 (vs a Thursday for 2010, and definitely can't wait till 2012 for a sat :) )

2) Didn't want to be stressed out with planning and really wanted to enjoy the process and due my due diligence in finding the best deals to work within our budget

3) Needed time to save :)

Just like most of you we are also waiting because of money. We are also trying to buy a house before we get married, which my fiance says has to be our first priority. I know it's true but I can't help but think about the wedding. I am also in school right now, which makes it even harder for us. I am trying to save for the wedding by paying more attention to my small home business. I sell accesories, brand name straightners and perfumes, whatever profit I get from my business I am planning on saving on a seperate account for the wedding. We are also planning on cutting some of our cell phone minutes and we promised ourselves to limit our outings. Most weekends i'm swamped with schoolwork so that is helping us to limit our outings. I am also taking a class in event planning and one in floral design which are helping me learn where I can save money and prices that I could negotiate with vendors.

To all of us that are trying to save money in order to have the kind of wedding we dreamed of, I congratulate you for not settleling and trying your hardest to get your dream wedding.

It gives us enough time to save and plan! We are paying for most of the wedding ourselves so having a somewhat long enagement will give us enough time to save!

We decieded 2011, about 4 months after we started dating, we weren't engaged yet but marriage talk was well in the works. I say we got enaged in Jan this year however, I only got my ring in Sept, and he offically asked when I got my ring. So its hard to say when it was "offical". Either way, 2011 was to make sure our relationship was right, strong and that we have plenty of time to save money, and get on our feet. We've been struggling very much lately with my medical conditions and not working. So we just stuck to 2011.

Torn between 2010 and 2011...

I want it to be warm when i get married. so i am leaning more towards april/may or august/ september..... April/may 2010 is WAYYY to close, April/May 2011 thanks to the military does not work for the FH's brother (groomsmen)

There is only one date available in august/september 2010 dates && that is august 21st, 9 months away.... that will be hectic planning!! Originally i was stubborn and refused to push it back to august/september of 2011, but the more i think about it, the more i want to push it back. Reasons.... 1) to save money to pay off the bills we have now 2) Save money for the wedding, so i can afford everything we want 3) to save money to buy a house 4) $$$$$$ 5) no stressful planning 6) finish school first 7) and having the money to travel.

I am sure i could continue to list but really it boils down to $$$$  

We're saving money to buy a house :)

MONEY!! LOL... we just bought a house together earlier this year so it's a bit hard to save for a wedding... and especially when the FI made it a point that he never wanted to get married so I thought that we would never have a wedding!! LOL so now I've gotta stop all my shopping spree, get a second job and save!!! =P

We decided 2011 for 2 reasons. One, because I've always wanted a long engagement. I've spent so long dreaming about my wedding day, and we really want to enjoy this stage in our lives, without being stressed with details. Two, because I'm taking two bar exams--one in July 2010 and another in February 2011, and he's taking boards, so we don't have time to get married in 2010!! :)

In the end our engagement will have been about 14 months (got engaged in late October, getting married January 1, 2011.) That's about the longest I would want to wait (I always thought a year was the max, but what's another 2 months, right?)

My fiance is going to take a night class in the spring to get EMT certification and is hoping to change careers. We want him to have time to make that adjustment and hopefully start earning more money, or at least have better benefits.

We needed to pick a time of year when certain family members could be there---our options were mid-summer or during winter break. We could have done summer, but that seemed a little too soon to me, plus my mom doesn't do well in the heat and I want her to enjoy our wedding, too! So, winter break it is.

January 1 is because our first date was on New Year's Eve, it's a Saturday, and it's the anniversary of my grandparents' wedding (they were married over 50 years before my grandfather passed away, so it worked for them!) People should have some time off from work and be able to travel and have a day to get home before work starts back up.

We're trying to get the big things (church, reception venue, photographer) nailed down by the end of this year--then we will have a whole year to save money, shop for deals, and get all the details together.

To be honest, I don't think there's such a thing as taking TOO much time before getting married. All it can really do is make your relationship stronger, right?