Mar 16, 2007
We always wanted a wedding in Hawaii, but were begged by my mother to reconsider so that her family could attend. We figured we'd try to have the best wedding we could in NorCal, given our budget. We originally planned our wedding for April 2008, at Ruby Hill Golf Club in Pleasanton, CA. We booked DJ, flowers, photog - the whole kit and kaboodle. As the guest list increased in number, so did the costs - and the stress in planning!
Finally, I approached my father and brought up the idea of a small, intimate Maui wedding. After running the numbers ($$), he agreed - so here I am, starting all over again! Thankfully, my FI, his family, and my family are all excited for this "new and improved" wedding. And best of all, we get the wedding we always wanted!!
We will be having a beach ceremony at the Grand Wailea Resort in Wailea, Maui. Following the ceremony we will have a champagne toast and cake at the gazebo of the Chapel Lawn.
Our good friend is officiating. We originally had a relatively large wedding party (5 BMs, 5 GMs) - but have since decided to elope to Maui. We will be wed in the presence of our immediate families, my grandmother, and the bridal party (and their significant others). My MOHs Amanda (sister) and Catherine (best friend) will stand by my side, and his best man Andy (best friend) will stand by his side.
In Vietnamese culture, a couple is not engaged until the official engagement ceremony (dam hoi) is held. The groom's family asks the bride's family for permission for the groom to propose to the bride. After the bride's family accepts, they then ask their ancestors to bless the engagement, and the subsequent marriage. The groom then proposes to the bride. It is an especially important ceremony for the bride and her family.
Our dam hoi was held in April 2007 at my parents' home. Both Bates and myself wore traditional ao dai (Vietnamese outfit) and khan don (headpieces we call halogen lamps, ha ha). After this ceremony, we were engaged in the eyes of my extended family and Bates also became a member of my family.
We were talking about our "timeline" for our life together and Bates told me that he wouldn't be able to afford a ring until early 2007, as it was an "unexpected expense". As such, I asked if it was still alright to start researching vendors and venues since the good ones book so far in advance.
Much to my surprise, Bates proposed at our home in November 2006. He started by asking if I loved him and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. I believe I said, "Yeah - duh! What are you talking about?". He then proposed (with a ring), and my first response was "YOU LIED!!". He then asked if that was a yes - and amid the tears of joy, I said yes.
Since the proposal was surprise, Bates picked out the ring all by himself. I think he did a wonderful job! There is a great deal of hand detailing on the sides of the band - and it's also bigger than I expected. Always a plus!
Most of our free time is spent with our fur baby, Rambo (nickname: Bos). Odd name for a female, huh? Well, she a rescue pup who suffered a great deal of abuse from her previous owners and has the scars to prove it. In spite of her physical scarring, she is the most beautiful, sweetest, most loving, and most loyal dog we could ever ask her.
Ann likes to cook, spend time with her family and friends, and add to her shoe and purse collection.
Bates likes to eat Ann's cooking, golf, spend time with his buddies, and watch sports.
Rambo likes to eat, eat, eat, run, chase her toys, chase the neighborhood squirrels, and eat her mom's cooking (home-made dog treats).