Oct 23, 2010
Here are some pre-wedding pictures.
My dress. I actually bought this dress from eBay from a person who was closing down her bridal boutique. This was a floor model dress that had been tried on before but had never been bought and worn in an actual wedding. I got it for ONLY $50! A total steal, right? Of course, it was too small for me so I took it to my seamstress who charged me $700 to alter it. Wince. The end result was so beautiful, however, that I almost didn't mind the high cost of the alterations.
My Matron of Honor, helping me get dressed.
My hair and makeup.
Here are me and my bridesmaids, leaving the hotel to head to the ceremony site.
Me and my bridesmaids are waiting for the ceremony to start! :-)
Me and my daughter.
It’s official! My hubby and I got hitched on October 23, 2010 and we loved it. In case anyone is interested, Here is the breakdown of our wedding.
We had our ceremony and reception in one place, Wedgewood Banquet at the Metropolitan Golf Links in Oakland, CA.
They were provided by our venue, Wedgewood.
Vera Lynn Joyce
Minia’s Bake Shop
Florist (for center pieces)
Bloomies on Main
Florist (for personal flowers)
A Perfect Impression
Wedding colors: red and purple with accents of silver..
Theme: Flourish motif with double hearts
Matt proposed to me on Christmas Day in 2009. We had been dating for several months and knew from almost the beginning that we were going to spend the rest of our lives together. When he was ready to propose to me, his parents passed on a diamond ring to him that his dad had given to his mom as an anniversary gift. Matt had the diamond set in a band setting that he knew I would like and when he presented it to me, I fell deeply in love with it.
Our wedding party consisted of four bridesmaids and four groomsmen. I wanted red to be my primary wedding color and purple and silver to be the accent colors. So I had my Matron of Honor wear a purple dress and Matt’s Best Man wore a matching purple tux. The rest of my bridesmaids wore red dresses with silver heels and the rest of the groomsmen wore black tuxes with red vests and bow-ties.
My 14-year-old daughter didn't want to be a part of the wedding but we really wanted her to be a part of our very special day. We finally convinced her to be a "flower girl escort." So she wore a purple dress (to match my Matron of Honor) and graciously escorted our flower girls down the aisle.
My parents are traditional Asians so they're not very affectionate. They also aren't well-versed in American customs so I knew that if I asked my father to give me away, he would absolutely do it but it wouldn't mean anything to him. So I asked someone else give me away, someone who has been like a second mother to me. I call her "Mama Judy" since she's known me since I was a little girl, and she has loved and supported me the way a mother does. It was so touching and wonderful to have Mama Judy give me away.
We incorporated many unique elements into our wedding. My husband is Mexican/White while I'm Mien (Southeast Asian) and we tried to represent both of our heritages at our reception. We had a money dance that is a tradition at Mexican weddings. During the money dance, I wore a cultural sash that had beautiful Mien embroidery on it. Not only did the sash represent my heritage, it also gave our wedding guests a place to pin money at since I didn't want them pinning money on my beautiful dress. :-)
For the garter toss, I wanted to incorporate my “something blue.” Well, Matt loves the San Jose Sharks hockey team and their colors just happen to be teal and black. Thus, I decided to get a Sharks garter, but it’s so beautiful that I didn’t want him to toss that one into the crowd. So I made sure to get a generic (but still pretty) white garter for him to toss. It was funny because when he started digging underneath my skirt for the garter toss, he popped his head out and asked me which one he was supposed to toss. I promptly replied, “The white one!” Lol!
We have a lot of talented friends who contributed their skills to our wedding. My friend Lawrence is a graphic artist and he helped duplicate the flourish design of my wedding invitation so that I could use it on our program, party favors, and name cards. He also designed the candy bar wrapper we used for our party favors.
Our friend Tina is a talented florist who gave us a VERY good price on our bouquets and personal flowers. I suspect she only charged us up to a certain amount, then paid out of pocket for some of the costs. She definitely donated the time to make the beautiful bouquets, boutonniere, and corsages. The center pieces were provided by a florist that came with our reception package, but those flowers actually matched the ones in our personal flowers.
My hairstylist was actually a good friend who did my hair, and some of bridal party’s hair, for free. You can see her helping me with my veil in some of my wedding pictures.
My niece Koy is a professional wedding coordinator and she donated a lot of time to help me plan my wedding. On the day of our wedding, she did everything she could to ensure that things ran smoothly so that I didn’t have to worry about a thing. As a result, everything went as planned and I was able to fully enjoy my special day.
One of the unique things we decided to do was have a pie buffet on top of our wedding cake. My husband Matt doesn’t like cakes but he LOVES pies so I decided to give him a groom’s pie instead of a groom’s cake. My niece Angela is a talented pie baker so I asked her to bake a Dutch apple pie for Matt. However, as I discussed the idea with friends and family about a groom’s pie, everyone wistfully stated that it’d be great for every wedding guest to have a choice between cake and pie, so I decided to just have a pie buffet. So on top of our 3-tiered cake (top layer: strawberry; middle layer: red velvet; bottom layer: chocolate), we also offered 7 different types of pies. Flavors included apple, Dutch apple, pumpkin, lemon meringue, and blueberry. Everyone definitely had enough to eat at our wedding.
Due to budget limitations, we had a lot of DIY projects. I designed the wedding program myself and printed them all out. Lawrence gave me the design for the name cards and candy bar wrappers but I printed them all out. The tissue pomanders for my wedding ceremony were ordered from Etsy.com but I had to put them together. Thankfully, my bridesmaids and friends helped me assemble everything so I was able to get everything done in time.
Instead of the traditional sign-in guest book, we put a huge red poster board with four of our engagement photos in the middle. Guests were invited to use the provided silver pen to write their comments in the red area.
For the card box, I bought a trunk that seemed to have a wedding theme on it. It had red flourishes on it, which matched my wedding theme, and the words “Love” and “Hope” on it. It was too perfect to pass up so I immediately bought it. Thought it came with a clasp, there was no slit at the top for guests to put cards in. I didn’t want to post someone by the card box all night so I asked my father-in-law, who’s a machinist, to create a mail slot at the top of the box. He agreed and he did a wonderful job on it. He told me that he made sure that the slot wouldn’t impede the box’s designs in any way. I was able to just put a lock on the box and leave it on the welcome table.
All in all, I’m very pleased with how beautiful and wonderful our wedding was. My husband and I thoroughly enjoyed ourselves and based on the feedback we got, our guests had a great time, too. :-)