Mar 14, 2009

  • Last updated on April 6, 2009 at 11:12 am
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Bridal Party Entrance:  We let the DJ decide and it worked out well!

Bride/Groom Entrance:  We actually didn't have an entrance song but just let people clap as we came down the staircase.  DH came to get me on the other side of the staircase...kissed my hand then led me down and to the staircase.  As we approached the bottom of the stairs...the DJ started playing our first dance song.  He suggested that it would be awkward if we went straight from fast to slow, and we agreed.  It also shaved off a couple of seconds from the "everyone staring at you" dance =).

First Dance: The Sweetest Love, Robin Thicke

Father/Daughter:  Isn't she lovely, Stevie Wonder

Mother/Son: Somewhere over the Rainbow, Israel Kamakawiwo 'Ole' 'IZ'

My growing up pics/family/friends: Something, The Beatles
DH's growing up pics/family/friends:  Dream on, Aerosmith
Couple pics:  Let's stay together, Al Green

The rest we just let our DJ groove out to and it worked out fantastically! I don't even remember what he played for the cookie cutting, etc.  We were in our own world =).

  • Last updated on April 6, 2009 at 9:46 am
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*This section is not meant to discriminate or push my religion onto anyone, it is merely here to help those who are planning a Catholic ceremony.

                             Wedding of Sandra  & Chad

Processional:       Cristina C                       Juanita B
Parents:             Sonia and Vince Q           Lil V & Gloria B
                                                           Jr. Groomsman:  Jake H    

Bridesmaids:        Sabrina A                       Groomsmen:      Alan B
Veronica D                                            Chris H
                        Maureen Q                                            Tony Q
Frank W

Maid of Honor:    Vicki Q                           Best Man:         Erik F     
First Reading:  Tobit 8:4b-8, Gloria C, Sandra’s Godmother
Responsorial Psalm:  Taste and See
Second Reading:  Romans 12:1-2, 9-13, Richard M, Chad’s Godfather
Gospel Acclamation:  Celtic Alleluia-O’Carroll
Gospel:  John 15:9-12
Exchange of Consent & Blessing of Rings
Prayer of the Couple
Unity Candle
Veil, and Cord (El Lazo): As part of the ceremony to symbolize unity, a strand of rosary beads or Lazo is placed in a figure eight shape around the necks of the couple after they have exchanged their vows. The symbolism of the lazo is to show the union and protection of marriage. This act is symbolic of their love, which should bind the couple together everyday as they equally share the responsibility of marriage for the rest of their lives.
Coins (Las arras):  The groom gives the bride thirteen coins as a pledge to always support her and as a sign of his trust in her. By accepting the coins the bride indicates her faith in her husband's ability to provide for his family and that she will use his provisions wisely. The number thirteen is used to symbolize Christ and his twelve apostles.
Offering to Mary
Prayers of the Faithful:  Jessica V and Loren S

We’d like to thank all that joined us today for celebrating our Sacrament of Marriage.  Thank you to our Wedding party for all their help, and to all our readers, and sponsors. We’d also like to acknowledge and thank those that contributed to our wedding, making it the beautiful day we envisioned, including: Aunty Lorna S, Grandma Cristina C and Maureen Q.  And to our parents, without who, we would not be here. Thank you for supporting us through our lives as individuals, through our lives as a dating couple (11 years!), and now, as we step into the roles of man and wife.  Muchos besos!!


FIRST READING: Tobit 8:4b-8

A reading from the book of Tobit

On their wedding night Tobiah arose from bed and said to his wife,

            “Sister, get up.  Let us pray and beg our Lord
             to have mercy on us and to grant us deliverance.”
             Sarah got up, and they started to pray
             and beg that deliverance might be theirs.

They began with these words:                

“Blessed are you, O God of our fathers;
            praised be your name forever and ever.

            Let the heavens and all your creation
                        praise you forever.

            You made Adam and you gave him his wife Eve
to be his help and support;
                        and from these two the human race descended.

            You said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone;
let us make him a partner like himself.’

            Now, Lord, you know that I take this wife of mine
                        not because of lust,
but for a noble purpose.

            Call down your mercy on me and on her,
                       And allow us to live together to a happy old age.”

They said together, “Amen, amen.”

The word of the Lord.

SECOND READING:  Romans 12:1-2, 9-13

A reading from the Letter of Saint Paul to the Romans

 I urge you, brothers and sisters, by the mercies of God,
            to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice,
            holy and pleasing to God, your spiritual worship.

Do not conform yourselves to this age
            but be transformed by the renewal of your mind,
            that you may discern what is the will of God,
            what is good and pleasing and perfect.

Let love be sincere;
            hate what is evil,
            hold on to what is good;
            love one another with mutual affection;
            anticipate one another in showing honor.

Do not grow slack in zeal,
            be fervent in spirit,
            serve the Lord.

Rejoice in hope,
endure in affliction,
            persevere in prayer.

Contribute to the needs of the holy ones,
            exercise hospitality.

The word of the Lord.

COUPLES PRAYER: (Excerpted from the book they gave us and we ammended it a little to our situation-- we said this together aloud in front of the congregation after our vows)

All-powerful, ever-living God, we thank you for your many blessings, and your hand in bringing us together some 11 years ago. We thank you for letting our love—and each other grow to be the best people and partners we can be. May you continue to bless us with growth, compassion, honesty, openness, humor, trust, and perseverance, and  be ever-present in our lives. Protect us from anything which might harm this marriage, give us courage when burdens come our way, and teach us to forgive one another when we fail. We ask your assistance in becoming the best spouses, friends, and parents, we can be. Finally, may you bless us in our old age, that we may love one another as deeply and cherish each other as much as we do at this very moment. May you grant these wishes which we offer through your Son, Jesus Christ our Lord.

: (Again excerpted from the book, but added our spin to several)
The response is “Lord, hear our prayer.”
For leaders of Church and state
           for heads of institutions,
           for heads of homes and households…
           that they will lead us and guide us
           in the search for God and the good life,
           in the search for peace and joy, and
           in the search for love among us
           Let us pray to the Lord.
All:  Lord hear our prayer

For those who are sick, lonely, discouraged, or oppressed
           that they may be strengthened by God’s help and aided by their friends
           Let us pray to the Lord.
All:  Lord hear our prayer

For married persons
         that they may continue to give, be able to forgive,
         and find happiness deepen with the passing of each day
         Let us pray to the Lord
All:  Lord hear our prayer

Jessica:  For Sandra and Chad, now beginning their life together,
             that they may have divine assistance at every moment,
             the constant support of friends, the rich blessing of children,
             a warm love reaching out to others, and good health until a ripe old age,
             Let us pray to the Lord.
All:  Lord hear our prayer

Loren:  For our relatives and friends who walk with us on life’s journey,
          for those that could not be with us today,
          and for those who have gone before us to the other side of life 
For the fulfillment of all their unfulfilled desires—
          Let us pray to the Lord
All:  Lord hear our prayer

 Jessica:  For these personal needs which we mention now in silence

              Let us pray to the Lord
All:  Lord hear our Prayer

Priest to speak

Entrance music:
       Entourage processional:  Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring- Bach
       Bridal processional:        Canon in D-Pachelbel

Responsorial Psalm: Ps. 34   Taste and See-Moore
Gospel Acclamation:             Celtic Alleluia-O’Carroll
Unity Candle, Veil, and Cord: When love is Found-Wren
Offering to Mary:                   Ave Maria-Schubert
Recessional:                        Ode to Joy- Beethoven

Taken from our church's website suggestions. 

Check it out...you can hear music samples and get a list of possible music here: http://saintjosephmsj.org/wiki/tiki-index.php?page=Pre-Approved+Music+Suggestions.  (You may have to copy and paste the link)

  • Last updated on April 6, 2009 at 9:15 am
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I've seen a lot of posts lately about timelines, so I thought I'd help by sharing ours.  Please note that we had a church wedding with a reception at a different location, so this may not work for you.  However, if you have the reception and ceremony at the same place....everything from cocktail hour on should work for you. 

I gave a copy of this to our videographer, photopapher, coordinator, moms, and bridal party.  It really helped fill in all the last minute Q's that popped up.  (I had it done at least a week and a half in advance).  Our MOH brought a copy and it was neat to look at it at the reception and see we were ahead of time!  It was also nice to see what was coming next.  Helped ease the Type A in me.

Deciding on the timeline was actually quite a headache. The tricky part was deciding when to get picked up by the limo, and how much time we wanted to wait at the church-- or if we wanted to get pics at the church before the ceremony at all.  The second tricky thing was the photography and videography arrival times.  We only had so many hours contracted, but I really wanted the prep time on film, so we had to push it back as much as possible so they could still stay late enough into the night.

Hope this helps!

Pre Wedding Timeline:
8:00am:        Hair stylist arrive at Hyatt Summerfield, Pleasanton, 94588
                   Hair:  Sandra ($125), Vicki, Mo, Sabrina, Veronica ($70each), Mom, Grandma, Gloria (~$40?)

9:00am:        Makeup Artist arrives at hotel
Makeup: Sandra, Sabrina-Eyes only ($30), Vicki-Eyes only ($30), Mom ($60)
11:15am:      Florist bring corsages & boutonnières to Hotel, Gloria may bring them to boys
12-12:30pm: Videographers and Photographers arrive at the hotel and at boys location

11:15:          Boys arrive at Alan/Erik’s house to get ready, Adress: __________________
12:15:          Boys putting on suits/getting ready,
1:00pm:        Boys leave for Mission San Jose in their own cars, carpool

1:30pm:        Boys arrive at the Mission. *GROOM: Please move to side of the church to avoid seeing the bride.
1:00pm:        Limo to pick up girls at Hyatt and take to Mission (Videographer, mom and grandma to ride with)

1:30pm:       Girls arrive at Mission San Jose *Church coordinator to pin all boutonnières/corsages
1:30pm:       Groomsmen greet guests in front of church

 Ceremony Timeline:
1:30-2:00pm: Prepare to Walk Down Aisle:*Boys will greet guests out front and girls to wait in the limo or 
                    neighboring church.
2:00-2:45pm: Ceremony

2:45-3:45pm: Family Pictures—Loren to assist with Groom's family pics, Sonia to assist
                   with Bride's family pics

3:45:            Limo to leave MSJ for Ruby Hill with all Wedding Party

Reception Timeline:
4:15-5:40pm: Wedding party and bride/groom pics
5:00-6:00pm: Cocktail Hour

5:50pm: *DJ to announce for guests to be seated and have a drink with them for toasts.
6:00pm: Bridal Party Announcement

        1.Chris (Chad's bro) & Jake (Chris's son, Junior GM)
        2. Alan, Steve & Sabrina
        3. Frank & Veronica
        4. Tony & Maureen
        5. Erik (BM) & Vicki (MOH)

Bride and Groom: Mr. and Mrs. Sandra & Chad B__________
6:15pm: First Dance
6:20pm: Blessing: Vince (father of the bride)
6:30pm: Salad Service
6:35pm: Johnann’s Hula Dance
6:40pm: Toast: DJ Notes: Please do not open mic to anyone not listed below.
            Father of the bride: Vince
            Best Man: Erik
            Maid of Honor: Vicki
7:10pm: Dinner Service Begins
7:50pm: Slide Slow
8:00pm: Table Greetings
8:20pm: Cookie Cutting by bride and groom  *This is in lieu of cake cutting. The bride and groom will cut the cookie and feed it to each other, then the cookie buffet will be open.
8:30pm: Father/Daughter and Mother/Son Dances
8:35pm: Open Dance
8:40pm: Cookie Bar Opens
9:00pm: Money Dance –*Money bag will be hung on the back of the brides chair.
11:00pm: Party Ends

  • Last updated on March 27, 2009 at 7:22 am
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This is a work in progress.  I'll add to it as I think of things so that hopefully my experience could be of some use to you!

Leading up to the day:

  • Distributed list of vendors and timeline to the Wedding party a week and a half ahead of time.
  • I am soooooo glad we let our moms, the maid of honor, the best man, and others know what we expected from them that day way ahead of time, and gave them some duties. That way it made it so much easier when we asked them to do something-- it wasn't a surprise and they were happy to be of help.
       Mom's-Bring bouquet for the blessed mother, bring marriage license, bring programs, collect Unity   
                candles after ceremony, man the guestbook table and hand out photosharing cards, make sure
                everything got collected at the end of the night (cards, guestbook, gifts, cardbox, etc.)
       Best Man- act as liason to groom (freq calls with MOH), distribute boutenierres, make sure boys got
                 there on time, carried our tips and distributed, carried checkbook
       Maid of Honor- act as liason to bride (calls to BM, called vendors to let them know what room we were
                 in and check on their arrival), checked us out of hotel room, make sure bride was hydrated,
                 carried tissue for bride during ceremony, got people to dance at reception
  • At our photographer's request, we put together a bride's family photo list, and groom's family photo list.  We asked a responsible family member to collect the people that were to be in the next photo, and not let them wander off.  The responsible family member was given this list a week ahead so they could print it out and bring.  Made everything verrrry smoth.

The day of:

  • I took JDWeddingday's advice and had my mom bring snacks for the girls as we got ready.  It was a LIFESAVER!  We had just little munchies since we couldn't sit down and eat a meal.  Things like pretzels, grapes, cheesesticks, water, and salami were included.  Extras were brought for our vendors (hair, mua, photogs, videogs) and I saw their true appreciation.  (Plus they were more energized to work harder for us ;) )
  • Brought a big bag for all the ladies.  This may not apply to you if you are getting ready, having the ceremony, and having the reception at the same place.  But for me, I needed a big bag to follow me around that had:
    • Mints, gum, snacks, deodorant, perfume, my hair flower for the reception, water, my pashmina for later, my sandals for later, emergency kit (thread, needles, sewing scissors, extra dress tape), makeup, list of vendors, timeline, and clutch
  • Brought our checkbook!  Turns our DH hadn't paid everybody I we thought we had, so we ended up having to write a couple checks.
  • Brought our timeline and list of vendors.  Even though I had distributed these to everyone well in advance, turned out we needed it a couple times (to call a vendor, to talk to DJ about order of events).  It was also kinda neat to look at our timeline during dinner and see what was coming up next and the fact that we were ahead of schedule!


If I could do it again:

  • I would've gotten a floral mockup or drawing at least.  Even though I brought photos of what I wanted, there were still miscommunications that ended up with me dissapointed in the final result.
  • I would've sent pictures to the lighting guys to show how blue I wanted it, and then they could make recommendations/advice.  I relied too much on descriptors and trusted too much that what I saw in pics was actually doable in my venue.  My venue had such high celiengs-- that the lights didn't bounce back like I wanted to, giving very little impact
  • I would have more people to help me remember things.  Like we forgot a whole case of cookies! We packed up the car too fast the day before and nobody double checked to see if we forgot something.
  • I would've spent more time on alterations, and closer to the wedding date.  My dress was still slightly big and we had to tape it down on top.
  • Last updated on February 25, 2009 at 4:07 am
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Before we headed out to our mini-moon we stayed in the GORGEOUS Rose Hotel on Main Street in Pleasanton.  We had a bouquet of roses for us, petals around the 2 person jetted tub, a bottle of chilled champagnes and turn-down service.  It was divine!  I have never been to such a luxurious suite! (complete with his/hers robes, take-away slippers, and Aveda products no less ;) ).  It had a gourmet breakfast buffett and who did we see there but John Madden?!  DH was bragging about it later at our Sunday brunch.  Here are some pics:
  Wedding night Mini Moon photo 1  Wedding night Mini Moon photo 2
Wedding night Mini Moon photo 3Wedding night Mini Moon photo 4

I am soooo excited for our mini-moon!  Since we are not leaving for our honeymoon until April due to my Spring Break, we are taking a couple days from Sunday-Tuesday after the wedding to go up to the critically acclaimed Kenwood Inn and Spa in Sonoma.  It has everything we wanted--- not too far, with large jet tub, spa on-site, wine bar on-site, and luxurious rooms.  I want to get the breakfast in bed and couples massages in room.  Ahhh I can't wait!

Wedding night Mini Moon photo 5  Wedding night Mini Moon photo 6

Wedding night Mini Moon photo 7Wedding night Mini Moon photo 8

Wedding night Mini Moon photo 9

  • Last updated on February 3, 2009 at 4:39 am
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Instead of doing numbers, we'll be doing names of our favorite activities along with descriptions.  My sis is printing out a horizontal label with our blue as a backdrop, and white font blocked out for our text.  She's doing them in the Persimmon text we had on our invites.  Then we're going to doublestick tape them to some glossy white tented cards and put 2 per table.  Here are our activities:

1.  rocky
we love our nearly four year old chihuahua, rocky.  he loves his walks, treats, bathing in the sun, sitting on laps, and howling to the piano. 

2.  wine
wine tasting
has been a growing interest for us.  we've gone to several local wine festivals, wine bars, and have gone to napa twice.  california is such a great area to live to serve our love of vino!

3.  golf
sandra has been learning chad's game of golf.  they've taken lessons- she has the clubs, the shoes, the glove, and the awful swing to prove it!  they hope to make it to the range and (*gulp*) get on the course this year.

4.  movies
are how we started our relationship, and continue to be a frequent past time for us. our first date was to see air force one.  we have our netflix subscription, and a movie theater down the street, so we're all set! 

5.  television
this has been an area of much compromise for us.  but over time sandra has learned to tolerate football, karate kid, and in the very beginning--WWF; and chad has found the appeal of cheesy reality shows and murder mysteries.  one show we can agree on is survivor, we have been watching since season one!

6.  music
we attended our first floor-seat concert when seeing sandra's favorite performer, christina aguilera, in 2007.  we have very similar tastes in music, and continue to look for future concerts to attend.

7.  travel
travel is a common goal for us.  we have been to new york, las vegas, napa, monterey, los angeles, disneyland, cabo, cancun, clear lake, sausalito, and capitola together, but hope to expand our travels.  our honeymoon is to puerto rico and the u.s. virgin islands of st. john and st. thomas.  we will also be taking a mexican cruise in june, and are planning a european tour next summer.

8.  shopping
you'd think this would just be an enjoyable pastime for sandra, but chad enjoys this too.  most of the time it is just window shopping, but we like to go to lunch or walk around and enjoy time together.  santana row and walnut creek are a couple of our favorite places.

9.  fine dining
we try and visit a new restaurant for every special occasion, like birthdays and anniversaries.  the bay area is such a great place for fine dining, and we are learning to appreciate and become more adventurous in our choices.  if you have a recommendation, please let us know!

10. sports: 
we met when sandra was a soccer and track team member and chad played baseball.  he used to secretly watch sandra as she practiced for track. from attending A's and Warrior games, to going skiing and doing water sports, we have been joined for our love of sport and look forward to learning new activities.

11. camping
camping is something we have done since our junior year of high school.  every summer we go with sabrina's uncle george and take the boat out and enjoy time with friends.  our latest adventure was renting a cabin in clear lake.  not technically "camping" but a good time nonetheless.

12. comedy
we love comedy!  we have been to see wanda sykes, tony rock, shawn wayans, margaret cho, carlos mencia, tommy davidson, pablo francisco, dave chappelle, and chris rock.  we love to laugh, and we love to do it together.

13. gambling
chad's family lives in reno.  so everytime we visit, we have to play a little blackjack, craps, and occasionally some pai gow right? chad has probably made a tower bet in every major casino in vegas... while sandra covers her eyes and hopes we come away with at least enough money to eat.

14. theater
productions of any kind are a big draw for us.  add dance, cool light effects, and some magic, and we're sold.  we've seen cirque du soleil, wicked, a chorus line, phantom of the opera, david copperfield, and lance burton.

15. dancing
it all started with the high school dances, which we attended together during our junior and senior years of high school, as well as some in college. now we occasionally show off our moves at the local night clubs. salsa lessons in the future?

16.  Mr.
17.  Mrs.


UPDATE: 3/4/09  Here they are!

Table Names photo 1  Table Names photo 2