Aug 01, 2010
Well, it finally happened. I have moved on from my last relationship. I am currently dating someone else.
I was told that it NEVER works out when you reconcile with an ex. It didn't work out for me, but I am glad that I did it. Who knows if the stars were aligned maybe it would have worked out?
I can see how it wouldn't work out, but bottom line is that we were not meant to be.
He still calls. Sometimes I answer. A lot of times I don't. Bottom line I am moving on and doing what it takes to make myself happy.
I am in a peculiar situation. I have been engaged to the man. We are back together. I am not officially pre-engaged. So, I think that I like the term pre-re-engaged.
Anyway I am really trying not to be pressed about an engagement. 'tis difficult. Over the holidays, my family was all like, "Soooooooooooo....2010?" or "I need to know so that I can start losing weight". I was mortified. It is bad enough that I am totally emptying bread baskets and sifting through my meals with a fork, waiting on "special engagement desserts", or anxiously looking crazy whenever he wants to go to the mall.
I took a brief break from the wedding board because I kept having the "when is it gonna be my turn" moment? We discuss our future and we are on the same page. I know what the plan is. I knew this when I re-signed up for it. But I can't help but hope that the plan changes.
Oh to add insult to injury...I picked up my gown yesterday. I had it delivered to my mother's house. She gave me a serious side eye when she saw the RK Bridal box. I didn't even open it in front of her. She said, "We will discuss later."
The gown is gorgeous. It is a golden color. It is perfect for my skin coloring. I am definitely going to carry a light pink bouquet and wear fabulous pink shoes when we marry in front of our fifty close friends and family members. ;)
I know…I can’t stand pretentious people either. :)
OK. In my every day life, I am pretty simple. I don’t do trends. I prefer quality over quantity. So, I approached this whole wedding thing with the same degree of pragmatism that I use in everyday life. We said, “We will spend the money where it counts.” That means upgraded food and drinks, platinum bands, and upgraded honeymoon. I vowed that I would look for lower costs for other things – invitations, dresses and florals and any extras would go towards food and drinks. Oh yeah. I am conspiracy theorist. I firmly believe that the wedding industry is a billion dollar industry based solely on emotions.
Well, I am on dress #3. Second, I have a whole collection of veils, shoes, purses, and headpieces. Third, I have this collection of “pretty things”. This is where I confess to those sins. ‘cause I have a feeling that I am going to be horrendously over budget.
Why buy “wedding toasting flutes” when I have a set of really nice flutes in the cabinets? Well, I bought the Vera Wang Love Knots. I had to have them because they are soooo romantic. LOL I wasn't even going to do a champagne toast, but now we are going to have one. I squealed when they arrived and pretended to drink out of them...with the plastic still on it.
Lenox Cake Set
I might actually get them engraved. *gasp*
*I'll post the picture later*
Silver Urns for Centerpieces
Apparently my inner bridal diva is very traditional. I am envisioning these urns filled with pink or white carnations.
I said that I wouldn't do any favors. However, I thought, "Hmmm..Those are whimsical. They would be so cute at the CANDY BAR." Yes divas. I am thinking about a candy bar. At the very least, I will fill them with a local cookie fave - Scotch Oatmeal cookies. I am going to do a black satin or silk ribbon with a hang tag.
Stay tuned for more pictures and descriptions. :)
Here's my vision board (is that what it is called?). I am going to do a black, beige, and light pink color scheme. That makes me happy. Also, it allows me to make use of the damask and black stuff that I own without having to scrap it and start over.
Simple, elegant, and sweet is the theme here. I will do my invitations, but outside of that I don't really have a lot of time to do DIY stuff. So, if I can't buy it or outsource it, then it won't be done. But honestly, I can't think of a lot of things that need to be done. :)
Clockwise from top
Earrings from Cocktail Bling
Grace Talia shoes
Dana Saylor Bracelet
Occansey Designs Veil
Toni Federici headpiece
My gown is Ecru which is a candlelight color. I will definitely need new shoes! My veil is diamond white. I wonder if I can get away with that. If not, then I will buy a dark ivory veil from Occansey.
On Thursday, my co-worker and I went to a bridal store so that I can try on the Wtoo Penelope. That DID NOT work. UGH! I am a d-cup. My boobs looked YUGE in that gown. Not an attractive huge. I looked wide and I felt that the ruffles were hitting my chin. Um. No.
While I was there, I tried on this gown - Wtoo Lucia. :)
I liked it. It is good for my body type. I liked the sweep train. I thought it was totally appropriate for someone of my, ahem, age. Plus...I looked skinny. I also like the detail.
Oh yeah. It is taffeta. My prom dress was taffeta, but this is different.
Here are a couple of runway photos. She is modeling the ivory color.
I called Pearl's Place and it is cheap! So, I did a price match + 5% through RK Bridal. I bought it for a song! :) I was torn because the man at Pearl's Place was really nice. I have heard that he is the only nice thing about Pearl's Place. LOL But ultimately, I am all about the bottom line. ;)
I ordered it in Ecru (an antique/champagne) color. Man. I love that color! It is a definite beige color. Very antiquish.
The only change that I am going to make is to get a slight sweetheart made at the top. My alterations lady does a wonderful job, so I will use her for this!
Cart. No horse.
10/21 (Update) - After five days, I finally got confirmation of the order from RK Bridal. I wanted to do a price match plus 5% through them. That required them calling Pearl's Place to verify the pricing (which was $150 less than what they quoted me). But it is ordered.