Jul 30, 2011
I, Lorna, do ask you, Michael, to be my partner in marriage
I, Michael, do ask you, Lorna to be my partner in marriage
Lorna: Here I promise you communication, laughter, imagination, and hope.
Mike : And all this I promise you.
Mike: Here I promise you love, passion, desire, and warmth.
Lorna : And all this I promise you.
Lorna: Here I promise you healing, compassion, honesty, and understanding.
Mike: And all this I promise you.
Mike Here I promise you stability, solidity, dependability, and strength.
Lorna: And all this I promise you.
Lorna: I speak these words of promise to you, Michael. I vow, before our families and friends, to build with you a life and relationship that is healthy and loving. I promise you my honesty, my compassion, my hand in sharing the work. I promise to encourage your dreams and to listen to your worries. I promise to care for you in every way that I can.
Mike: I speak these words of promise to you, Lorna. I vow, before our families and friends, to build with you a life and relationship that is healthy and loving. I promise you my honesty, my compassion, my hand in sharing the work. I promise to encourage your dreams and to listen to your worries. I promise to care for you in every way that I can.
***Carlem alter for reading***
Here is pour actual ceremony....word for word(and a timeline)
***Leigh alter for reading***
***Jamie alter for reading***
Walk down the aisle
before uniting you in the bonds of marriage, I am required to read to you
certain articles of the Civil Code which set out the rights and duties of
Article 392. The spouses have the same rights and obligations in marriage.
They owe each other respect, fidelity, succour and assistance.
They are bound to live together.
Article 393. In marriage, both spouses retain their respective names and
exercise their civil rights under those names.
Article 394. The spouses together take in hand the moral and material
direction of the family, exercise parental authority and assume the tasks
resulting there from.
Article 395. The spouses choose the family residence together.
In the absence of an express choice, the family residence is presumed
to be the residence where the members of the family live while carrying
on their principal activities.
Article 396. The spouses contribute towards the expenses of the marriage
in proportion to their respective means.
The spouses may make their respective contributions by their activities
within the home.
In Address to Lorna & Mike
Mish: What is your name?
Mish: and what is your desire?
Answer: To join with Lorna whom I love.
Mish: What is your name?
Mish And what is your desire?
Answer: To join with Michael whom I love.
Mish: Michael , will you have this woman to be your partner, to live together in marriage? Will you love her, comfort her, honour and keep her in sickness and in health, for as long as love may last?
Mike: I will.
Mish: Lorna , will you have this man to be your partner, to live together in marriage? Will you love him, comfort him, honour and keep him in sickness and in health, for as long as love may last?
Lorna: I will.
Mish: Michael and Lorna, you stand before me, your family and your friends, having desired the bond of marriage. Do you do this of your own free will, coming here today without coercion or pressure from other persons?
Lorna & Mike: I do.
Mish: Will you seek to do each other harm?
Lorna & Mike: We will not.
Mish: And if harm is done, will you seek to repair it?
Lorna & Mike: We will.
Mish: Will you seek to be honest with one another in all things?
Lorna & Mike: we will.
Mish: Will you support each other in times of distress?
Lorna & Mike: we will.
Mish: Will you temper your words and actions with love?
Lorna & Mike: We will.
Mish: These things you have promised to your partner, before your family and friends. May you ever be mindful and strive to keep the vows you have spoken.
Mish: I have spoken, “for as long as love shall last” rather than “until death do you part” in the face of the reality that situations and people change. However, this does not mean rending your partnership at the first sign of trouble or disagreement, for you know that in relationships come difficult times. It is your responsibility within this partnership to strive for acceptable solutions, to work toward healing the hurts that will occur, and only after having exhausted all other avenues of possibility and not reaching a solution should such a bond be broken.
In Address to the Guests
Mish: Please respond to the following questions with I will
Mish: Will all of you, present here and witnessing these vows, assist and support Lorna and Michael in their union?
GUESTS Answer: I will.
Mish: As these (two) people are joined, so are your families united through them. It has been their decision to bind themselves by marriage, and their lives will be blessed and enriched by the support you give. Will you encourage and bless Lorna and Michael in their union? Will you celebrate their marriage, standing beside them in rough times, yet not standing between them?
GUESTS Answer: I will.
Mish: You are friends and relatives of this couple, and thus you are an important part of their lives. Their interactions with you are coloured by your actions and words. You have a responsibility to one another and to this couple to be supportive, understanding, and honest,
and on this day of their marriage do I charge you to temper all of your dealings with love.
by Robert Fulghum
"You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks - all those sentences that began with “When we’re married” and continued with “I will and you will and we will”- those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe”- and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding. The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “ You know all those things we’ve promised and hoped and dreamed- well, I meant it all, every word.” Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another- acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another in these last few years. Now you shall say a few words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this- is my husband, this- is my wife "
“Love Is Friendship Caught Fire”, by Laura Hendricks
"Love is friendship caught fire; it is quiet, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection, and makes allowances for human weaknesses. Love is content with the present, hopes for the future, and does not brood over the past. It is the day-in and day-out chronicles of irritations, problems, compromises, small disappointments, big victories, and working toward common goals. If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you lack. If you do not have it, no matter what else there is, it is not enough."
We had 2 close friend reading before and during outr ceremony. these are what we chose (After reading ALOT of different things.....)
Reading before ceremony
To Love is Not to Possess
To love is not to possess,
To own or imprison,
Nor to lose one's self in another.
Love is to join and separate,
To walk alone and together,
To find a laughing freedom
That lonely isolation does not permit.
It is finally to be able
To be who we really are
No longer clinging in childish dependency
Nor docilely living separate lives in silence,
It is to be perfectly one's self
And perfectly joined in permanent commitment
To another--and to one's inner self.
Love only endures when it moves like waves,
Receding and returning gently or passionately,
Or moving lovingly like the tide
In the moon's own predictable harmony,
Because finally, despite a child's scars
Or an adult's deepest wounds,
They are openly free to be
Who they really are--and always secretly were,
In the very core of their being
Where true and lasting love can alone abide.
Reading During ceremony
“Marriage is a commitment to life, to the best that two people can find and bring out in each other. It offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other human relationship can equal; a joining that is promised for a lifetime. Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life’s most important relationships. A wife and a husband are each other’s best friend, confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic. Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller; memories are fresher; commitment is stronger; even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly. Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing love through the seasons of life. When two people pledge to love and care for each other in marriage, they create a spirit unique to themselves, which binds them closer than any spoken or written words. Marriage is a promise, a potential, made in the hearts of two people who love, which takes a lifetime to fulfill.”
I got this amazing idea from the fabulous athena85 - http://www.projectwedding.com/post/list/our-wedding-card-album
I started with our HUGE pile of cards
I decided to add a couple of personal touches to really make it our own. I used the “invitation” part of our wedding invite and covered the details with our monogram (also from the outside of invitation)
I also decided to incorporate the ribbon that around the box my engagement ring came in.
I’m really happy with the way it all came together and can’t wait to show it off when people come to visit.
and all tied up with a pretty pink bow (the same ribbon used on my bouquet, the girls wands and the chairs)
As a Montréal bride (actually a Canadian bride) I had a lot of trouble finding vendors that would ship toCanada. Didn’t have the same options for dress shopping and had a hard time finding reviews for a lot of things.
I am also having a difficult time reviewing things as most of my vendors are not listed. So I decided to add a few to my bio
My AMAZING venue was the Sheraton Montreal http://www.sheratonmontrealairport.com/ I have mentioned them a few times but cant leave them out. I had a PHENOMEAL experience with them from start to finish.
The staff were so helpful and the hotel is a hidden gem in the middle of the city. A gorgeous garden with pond and waterfalls and a stunning ceremony space with a flowered aisle. Heaven. The food was exquisite.
MY DRESS!!!! What a great experience I had. As I mentioned on previous pages I went in to simply try on a few dresses and get some ideas but what I got was amazing service and MY DRESS!!! The owner and workers became like family during my time there. Lots of selection, good prices, lots of experience and help. They gave me ideas and inspiration and helped me with so many different things. Alteration charges where cheap and done perfectly. I also got my MOH, BM , Junior BM and Flower girl dresses there since they were so good to me. I would recommend them to ANY Montréal bride. A small quaint family owned store that’s much more personal and friendly than the madness of the infamous Montrealbridal run St Hubert Street. http://www.mariagepc.com/english/home.html
I got my amazing shoes on Zappos but since my wedding zappos has also stopped shipping toCanada(boooo) but I still recommend them (even though im MAD at them) since I ♥♥♥ my fuschia beauties.
I got my artificial flowers (girls bouquets, flower girls wands and centerpiece flowers) from www.afloral.com amazing product. Fast shipping and very affordable. The website is extremely user friendly and the product descriptions are perfect
Invitation paper was from www.cardsandpockets.com They were fast with the samples and even faster with my order. Good prices (although shipping toCanada was quite expensive plus customs etc) but would definitely recommend them to anyone.
Etsy was invaluable to me www.etsy.com I got my fascinator, wedding tree and much more from the great sellers on this site. It’s a bit overwhelming and can sometimes cost a lot but definitely worth taking a bit of time to explore. You can see specific sellers on some of my other pages.
I will add some more in time but those were a few of the services that really helped me along ♥