Jun 22, 2013
Josh and I probably take the record on the couple with the most wedding dates. This has been a long exhausting process that has had many ups and downs, and quite frankly I was at my end of it all by the time we finally chose our final date!
When it was brought up the first time we discussed an October wedding(date #1). I brought up having it take place at the AMA (Academy of Model Aeronautics) museum in Indiana. I thought this would be fun as this is a big part of our lives. I looked into it briefly however it seemed that the whole theme/wedding was becoming completely Josh and I was no were to be found. We then came to our senses and decided to wait on getting married and considered this a practice run for when/if we decided down the road that this was what we truly wanted.
After the official proposal and acceptance in December planning began to take place in full force. Watch out world I was a bride on a mission!! Picking a date is hard to do when dealing with a couple who had both been married twice before in different months. Trying to come up with a date that wasn't close to the prior marriages was tending to be difficult. Then I had to take our school schedules into account as well. We certainly couldn't be getting married during finals. That would not make for an enjoyable wedding or a good start for either one of us. So with this being said we decided on May 18th(date #2). We decided we wanted to do something fun, so I came up with the idea of going to Vegas and doing a small ceremony there. We weren't going to do one of the corny low budget chapels but we weren't going to have a full out wedding/reception either, just immediate family and a couple really close friends.
Through all of the wedding planning, the one thing that Josh has made abundantly clear was that he didn't see the need to spend $10k+ on a wedding(He really has NO clue how much this stuff costs!). So all of my planning has been done with the strict budget in mind. One day when we were talking about the wedding, Josh said to me that he would like to do a reception for our families once we got back from Vegas. *Sound of screeching breaks* Mr. I am not a sappy man at all suddenly becomes sappy?! Are you kidding me?! Ok well the wedding in Vegas was going to run a couple thousand dollars(which was in the budget, roughly $5k), and then come home and spend another couple thousand on a reception? Well that just threw the budget comepletely out the window. So I said well let's just do it all here then since you want a recpetion for our families. Unfortunately I have regretted that decision almost ever since I suggested it.
We started to plan the wedding. During this time Josh went to a huge rc event that is held each year in Georgia at the end of April. He had such a blast and it was all he talked about when he got home that made me come up with the awesome idea of moving the wedding date to March 16th (date #3)so that we could attend the event next year as part of our honeymoon. Luckily I hadn't invested more than a couple months in the planning of this date. Not to long after our decision to move the wedding we ran into a slew of issues that were going to cause a problem holding the wedding in April. First it was school and when my exams and such, then we hit a really hard time financially (and issue that seems to continue to plague us). At this point with three different dates and too many obstacles to count I was fed up. We were having such a hard time financially I just couldn't see how on earth we were going to make this happen. It actually started to cause arguments (totally not a good thing), to the point one day I threw my hands up in the air and said I give up. We will just go to the JOP and get married and screw it all. Josh knows how much I want us to have a wedding. I never really had a full wedding and he's never had one at all, only a trip to the JOP. We are good people and deserve to have fun with this, yet it didn't seem to be working out that way. Josh said to me, "I know how important this is to you, and g@d damnit your going to have your wedding. We will make it work and I will do whatever I have to do so we can do this". Here I am trying to put this all together so that he can actually experience what it is like to have a wedding, and this is his response to me - god how I love this man!
So we decided to put the wedding off. It was official we postponed the wedding. We talked more dates over and kept going back and forth between September and October. He didn't want to go any later than October and honestly wasn't happy with pushing it back that far, so we decided on September. September 28th (date #4). Now we have over a year and a half to start the planning all over and give us enough time(hopefully) to financially be able to pull this off.
I will go into detail in another post on the different aspects and design ideas that we have transitioned to and from through out this whole process and where we are ending up. I say this because at that point you will undertstand just how devistating the next sentence will be after you see what all we went through. Now that we had the date set in stone for Sept. 28th(or so we thought) we went searching and found our venue. Easy enough right? About two weeks or so before we were to sign the contract and put the deposit down we experienced a very bad patch of thunder and lightening storms in our area. I didn't even think anything about it, it was just another set of storms that are common for Virginia at the end of August. No big deal. Well, it turned out to be a VERY big deal. The venue we had our heart set on, was struck by lightening and burnt completely 100% to the ground!!!! Holy Crap - could this really be happening to us?!
Again - arms up in the air - I give up. Again, the same speech from Josh - "We are going to have our wedding, G@d damnit!!!!" So, once again back to the drawing board time to pick YET another date for our wedding. Josh wasn't to upset that we were changing the date this meant we were going to push the date back up.
I won't go into detail because I am going to include it on the trials of finding a venue portion of my bio - but I am happy to say that at the beginning of Sept. 2012 we found our venue and set the date.
The official and final date (date #5) is set (set in stone for sure!) for June 22, 2013!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
As I had said in my previous post, I have unfortunately been married twice before. Truly wrong person, place, and time on both accounts. Neither of those "idiots" and I am using that term nicely understood how to treat a woman. Both times the act of becoming engaged was modeled something like this "Let's get married" - "Ok" or "Well I guess we are getting married - "Um, ok I guess we are". No romance, no down on one knee, no expression of any feelings what so ever.
Now over the years thanks to modern television I have been introduced to story after story after story of how this couple had a "magical" engagement. Either it was a romantic weekend away, or whatever the case was. Our wedding industry today has made such a point of making us think there needs to be some dramatic event that takes place with when "The Question" is popped. Yes I understand it makes for great television but it is not realistic and quite frankly I believe it makes us forget about the importance behind it all. A man and a woman finding themselves not being able to live with out the other, loving one another so much that they want to spend the rest of their lives together through the good and not so good times.
Josh and I met at the end of May and had been inseperable, I knew he was "The One" after our first weekend together. As time went on, we had many discussions of our future together, but hey I didn't want to be in another relationship remember? I kept dismissing the conversations - I didn't want to get wrapped up too soon if that makes any sense. Maybe it was fear that I was rushing into yet another dead end relationship, I don't know. In August Josh mentioned us getting married which is when I honestly started looking at the possibility of there being a future for the two of us together. One day we were wrestling in the living room, one of the fun things we do and he asked me to marry him. With out thinking I said yes. What on earth was I thinking?! We had only been seeing each other three months! All I could think of was my mom flipping out on me and his parents giving him grief that we were rushing into this, and honestly as much as I knew he was the one I agreed. We talked and both agreed that we would take some more time and not rush into this, we both had made mistakes in the past neither of us wanted to repeat. If we were going to do it, we wanted it to be right.
Fast forward a few months to the holidays. We went to Pennsylvania to spend Turkey day with my family. While we were there with out my knowing Josh sat down and spoke with my mom about us getting married. He actually asked for her permission to marry me! Holy crap I have a man who actually gives a crap about my family! This was a first for me! I thought MAYBE he would propose at Christmas thanks to the bajillion ads we see around the holidays from the many jewelry stores. How romantic, but alas it didn't happen. Ok not a big deal. Then on December 30th 2011 it happened. We were having a nice evening at home. Relaxing together after a couple of weeks of the holiday hustle and bustle. We had just had dinner and decided to snuggle up on the couch and watch a movie together. Honestly I don't even remember what we watched, at any rate when the movie was over Josh started acting a little weird. He disappeared into the other room and came back and sat down on the couch next to me. He started talking about how happy he has been since we met, how it really wasn't supposed to happen the way it did but he was thrilled that the events of our relationship took place the way they did. There were some other things he talked about which I won't go into as to keep the moment private, but he pulled out a ring I had had for a long time. He said he knew it wasn't much as we were both in school full time living off of our financial aid and the GI Bill but there would be anothe ring at some point. Honestly I didn't care. I already knew of our financial situation and honestly I would have been really upset if he had gone out and spent a crap load of money we didn't have on an engagement ring. My answer of course was YES!!!! I want to spend the rest of my life with him.
When Josh proposed to me we were both full time 30 soemthing college students. Our income was very tiny (and still is). I had a bridal set that I purchased a long time ago (not sure why but I had gotten a great deal on it so I bought it). He used that ring as a temporary ring until something else could be afforded. It was a yellow gold and white gold ring with a round center stone and side diamonds. I didn't particularly care for the ring. The over all diamond count was small, not that that was a big deal to me I just didn't care for the yellow gold aspect of the ring.
We discussed what I liked and didn't like about different rings we looked at together. I wanted him to have a feel for my overall style and particularly that I wanted white gold. I always wear silver jewelry so this was important to me. On a whim we stopped by JCPenney's and looked at their jewelry selection (ok so I had scoped out the rings online first before we stopped by the store). JCPenney's carries real diamond jewelry but they also carry their brand of DiamonArt. They are lab created diamonds, simulated diamonds from the JCPenney jewelry collection. It has fewer inclusions that you would find in real diamonds so it is clearer than real diamond but looks just as nice if not better. According to their website the jewelry is created with the highest grade of simulated diamonds and perfectly cut to reflect the maximum amount of light and it is of the finest quality thanks to the patented polishing system of applying diamond dust to add more luster and shine.
We discussed looking at the jewelry (rings) simply because of our budget. We both agreed that while we would both like for me to have a real diamond it just wasn't in our budget at this time. So we went and looked at rings, I tried on a few for him to see but I did not pick out the ring. Ultimately the decision on what I was going to get was completely up to him. As much as I wanted to pick it, I didn't - I wanted it to be a surprise!
Here is my engagement ring and wedding band:
I absolutely love the design of my engagement ring. We have been talking about what we were going to do when the time came to get a ring with real diamonds. I am going to have a jeweler design a ring that looks exactly like this ring. This is the design style that Josh picked and I do not want to replace it with anything else otherwise I may as well have picked the ring out myself.
We actually both laugh at this story.
I am a long term kind of girl. I had recently broken up with my ex of 6 years. We owned a house together and had remained friends, so much so that I was still living in our house as room mates with him when Josh and I met. I was in school pursuing my nursing degree and the fact that we were still friends made it easier on me with the fact that I didn't have to look for a new place to live with two large dogs in tow.
A friend had told me about a dating/social networking site called MyYearbook.com and suggested I check it out. When you are a full time nursing student - you have no life outside of the text books. This is especially true for me. I had signed up on the website but didn't really have a chance to check it out. So, on a Friday night after completely exhausting myself from studying (yes I know I told you I had no life..lol) I decided to log on and see what the site was all about. For several hours I wandered through profile after profile after profile. I saw some good looking guys and some, well not so good looking guys..lol I had already decided I was just killing time on the site as newly out of a relationship I was not looking, wanting, searching, pining over having someone else in my life at this particular point in time. I had way too much going on with working at a law office full time and full time school.
So out of the blue, I receive an email from this guy. It was a really polite email, how he had seen my profile and picture. He explained he was a full time student, and would like to take me out to dinner some time. Short and sweet but to the point :) So I made a point of checking out his profile. Ok, well great but not great. I mean he was really good looking, but younger than I was and shorter than I am and he lived over an hour away from me. I wasn't looking for anything so I figured instead of stringing him along I would be upfront and honest with him. I sent him a message back saying thanks, but no thanks. I worked full time and went to school full time and that I just wasn't going to have the time.
Well little did I know, but my email back was an unsaid challenge to him. He instant messaged me and we ended up "talking" all night into the wee hours of the morning. We exchanged numbers and ended up playing phone tag a couple of times the next day. Once we got on the phone and actually talked I became quite interested. I am going to sound like a guy here but I still wasn't looking for a relationship, I had come out of a relationship that had not been intimate for two years and I was on the prowl...LOL I then started pursuing him, I suggested we meet that night, which is when he began playing hard to get. I got the well I am in the middle of doing homework and it needs to get done yadda yadda yadda...Needless to say I got my way and we met that night for dinner.
We started out as a casual thing and quickly became really good friends and have been inseperable ever since. Here I was not looking for a relationship at all, no way no how no sir and I have ended up finding my best friend and as corny as it may sound, "The One". I honestly can't imagine us not being together and Josh not being in my life. He brings a lot of love and passion in to our relationship along with a quirkiness that I adore. He makes me laugh all of the time and causes me to melt every time he in his souther country boy twang calls me his Sweet Pea. He is my rock and I have become his. I honestly never thought that a city girl like myself would ever meet up with and become involved with a country boy, but we honestly are ying and yang. We are the perfect balance for one another and it is a most awesome feeling to finally feel and be complete!
I have been a member for a little while and figured it was time I get my rear in gear and get my bio started. I am never really sure how to start the bio's you find on the different wedding sites. Some are easier than others and give you topics to write about, this one doesn't so bare with me if this is a little disjointed it's early and I haven't had a full cup of coffee yet!
I was going to title this Who are Smoochies and Sweet Pea, but I figured if he ever saw that he would literally kill me!
Josh aka Smoochies is a 35 (soon to be 36) year old former Marine, welder, carpenter and now full time student. Born and raised in Virginia, he is a total country guy! He is one class away from graduating with his Bachelor's degree. I so envy him! He has been married twice before and is a father of four great kids. His major passion in life has to do with R/C airplanes and 3D flying. He is an awesome pilot and I can't wait until I learn enough to be able to fly with him.
He has opened up the Virginia Chapter of a non profit group named Wings for Wishes. Wings for Wishes was founded by a fellow rc airplane enthusiast, now friend in Montana two years ago. It is a small group consisting of radio control pilots who are using their hobby to promote and bring awareness to the public about the Make A Wish Foundation. Every day this man who was once a stranger and now is my world amazes me with his unselfish acts. I am so proud to be able to say this man is my future husband!
I'm Alicia aka Sweet Pea (I melt everytime he calls me that!) am a 39 year old full time college student. I am a city girl from the North, Philadelphia burbs specifically. I moved to Richmond Virginia 7 years ago. I was laid off from the company I worked at as an executive assistant to the CEO two years ago. That is when I decided to return to school. I wish I could say I was as close to graduating as Josh but sadly no :( I have been married twice before with no sucess - wrong person(s) wrong place, wrong time. I am extactically happy to say that is not the case this time. As the saying goes the third time is the charm!
I have three "children", ok well they are four legged children. Bella who is a yellow lab german shepard mix, and Max who is a Heinz 57 although every one swears he is a pit due to the chow and boxer in him (poor boy gets a bad rep from that). Josh couldn't stand them in the beginning as he was a non pet type of person. I warned him from the beginning that we were a package deal :) In the last year the transformation of a non pet person into their "daddy" has been utterly amazing! We just added to our family with our third baby, and she is a baby. We found Gabby and adopted her when she was four months old. So now we have a "His", "Hers", and "Ours"...lol We both enjoy the RC airplne sport as well as movies, cooking, gardening, home improvements and tons more!
That is us in a nutshell :)