Apr 20, 2013
Our invite inspirations:
I had this in mind when I went looking for cards. Something like this looks elegant, but I wanted a white or cream card.
And this is what we got, I think its simple, yet elegant. Just the way I wanted:
The card and the matching envelops. We did the lettering in red to stand out against the cream color of the card, and we also put our names and the dates on the envelops as well. It served as an effective reminder.
So I got my ring after 2 months of the proposal. Somehow, rings do not look nice on me; I have long fingers that is great for playing the keyboard, but rings? Not so much. I had to look for something that would fit the fingers, and I didnt really want a single stone ring. So we got this ring. It was all my idea, thank you very much.
What do you think?
I wanted a dress that will be formal enough for the church ceremony, but light enough for the reception. In summary, a ball gown or an A-line dress, but I hate crini, so it has to be able to carry itself. Some gowns I considered
Morilee Voyage Style 3654
alfred angelo #1136
David bridal nt8017
maggie soterro #a400
This Maggie sottero and the alfredo angelo were my first choices, they are more 'me' than the other 2, but I want an all-over white dress and the alfred angelo is like 2times more than my budget, with a very long train. Hm. I guess I’ll settle for the David bridal. Its princessey and I love the dazzle.
*****update on the dress: I will be taking a reading at the church, and will be required to wear a bolero if my gown is strapless. Nothing doing, I hate boleros. I would rather look for a dress that has detachable sleeves, so I can wear the sleeves in church, and detach them for the reception*****
We keep looking. But my cousin suggested this David bridal dress with detachable sleeves and a ridiculous low price.
It’s just ..so so, but I’ve looked at the reviews, and everyone raves about it, says it’s much more beautiful in person than it is on the website. Hm. I’ve ordered for it in white, size 6, and I really hope it works. Worst case scenario, I can always get a second dress, but I really hope I don’t have to.
For my bridesmaids, they will be wearing aqua colored gowns. I have stuff like this in mind
But they chose this, so it’s ok too.
davids bridal style F44026
For my MOH, I picked the dress.
david bridal style 84066
I’ve been MOH a couple of times, and I always have my hand so full, I wished I was an octopus. Anyways, this gown has pockets, so she can store whatever in them without disturbing the flow of the dress. And it’s long, to compliment my own dress and stand out from the other BMs who will be wearing short gowns. All BMs will have shawls wrapped around their shoulders for the church service, and then we all go strapless later on.
Im having 2 flowergirls and a little bride. they will wear white gowns,though the flower girls will have little roses all over the skirt of their gowns. Im not too sure, but i think I can work out something with my tailor. But I have something like this in mind
for the little bride
for thr flower girls. Only, the dress will be white, with aqua sashes, and with tiny aqua roses on the dress. DIY projects..
FI and the guys will be wearing black suits. However, him, the ring bearer and the best man will wear white shirts, red bowties and red inner jackets. All matching.
we got this inspiration from Mens Wearhouse. However, his jacket and bowtie will be red, not silver.
The other grooms men will wear aqua shirts to match the bridesmaids gowns, with long red ties.
So, for a feel of what my bridal party will look like, I got this virtual wedding scene by DB. Its not it exactly, but at least, I have an idea,see?
FI and I are Catholics, and we will be getting married in the church where we met. It’s Mater Dei Catholic Cathedral Umuahia. In my imagination, I just see myself taking my vows with my best friend and brother, in the church where we met, witnessed by our families and our friends, especially our mutual friends at St Paul’s Society. I feel so blessed to be a member of that group, and FI can’t say enough good stuff about them, because of the spiritual growth and edification we have received as a result of the group. Our relationship at St Paul’s is one of deep friendship, where each member looks out for other members, not just in spiritual matters, but in every day matters as well. Funny enough, this is the first wedding among 2 members of the group, so everyone is so so so, it’s like, a St Paul’s wedding.
I will be having a traditional Catholic ceremony, with the full mass. We won’t have it any other way: FFIL is a Catechist, and we have so many priests and nuns in both our families that it’s appropriate to have it that way.
This is the church where we will be wedding..
We just chose our readings. The full mass will have 3 readings, and a psalm (which I will be singing,ha!)
1st reading: Tobit 8:5-9 (I chose this reading; FI says Im his sister, as well as his wife, so I chose this reading to remind us both of that)
And Tobias began to pray, ""Blessed are you, O God of our ancestors, and blessed is your name in all generations forever. Let the heavens and the whole creation bless you forever. You made Adam, and for him you made his wife Eve as a helper and support. From the two of them the human race has sprung. You said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; let us make a helper for him like himself.' I now am taking this sister of mine, not because of lust, but with sincerity. Grant that she and I may find mercy and that we may grow old together." And they both said, "Amen, Amen."
Responsorial Psalm Ps 128:12,3,4,5
O blessed are those who fear the Lord.
And walk in his ways!
By the labor of your hand you shall eat;
You will be happy and prosper
Your wife will be like a fruitful vine
In the heart of your home;
Your children like shoots of olive
Around your table
Indeed thus shall be blessed
The man who fears the Lord
May the Lord bless you from Zion
All the days of your life
2nd reading: Ephesians 5:2, 21-33
Follow Christ by loving as he loved you, giving himself up in our place. Give way to one another in obedience to Christ. Wives should regard their husbands as they regard the Lord, since as Christ is the head of the Church and saves the whole body, so is the husband the head of his wife; and as the Church submits to Christ, so should wives to their husbands in everything. Husbands should love their wives as Christ loved the Church and sacrificed himself for her to make her holy. He made her clean by washing her with water and with a form of words, so that when he took her to himself she would be glorious, with no speck or wrinkle or anything like that, but holy and faultless. In the same way, husbands should love their wives as they love their own bodies; for a man to love his wife is for him to love himself. A man never hates his own body, but feeds it and looks after it, and this is the way Christ treats the Church, because it is his body and we are its living parts. For this reason, a man must leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one body. This mystery has many implications, but I am saying it applies to Christ and the Church. To sum up: you too, each one of you, must love his wife as he loves himself, and let every wife respect her husband.
Gospel: Matthew 19:3-6
Some Pharisees approached Jesus, and to test they said, ‘Is it against the Law for a man to divorce his wife on any pretext whatever?’ He answered, ‘have you not read that the creator from the beginning made them male and female and that he said: This is why a man must leave father and mother, and cling to his wife, and the two become one body? They are no longer two, therefore, but one body. So then, what God has united, man must not divide.
The reception will be holding at the Women development Center. It’s a center for skills acquisition built by the state government, and the banquet hall can fit close to 500 to 600 guests.
Im big on lights and drapes. Some ideas of what I like( a motley collection taken from the internet, and weddings of friends and family)
No ballons please. Just drapes, lights and rose petals.
We will be having a traditional wedding cake. I and the confectioner decided on a combo of the 3 inspirations:
We will have a square shaped 4 tier cake like #2. Some of the layers will be double-decker layers, and the layers will be alternate chocolate and mixed fruit flavors.
Then the icing will be foundant icing in aqua and red, like #1,with edible red rose and ribbon embellishments.
I will also want her to scatter red rose and aqua colored rose petals in the table like #3. It will have to be synthetic flowers of course.
I just keep forgetting: I am planning for 2 weddings!.Though the church wedding is by far more important to me, I cant ignore the traditional marriage. My inspiration is not too extensive, as I just want something basic. My colors are peach and mint green, but we will be adding brown to the mix.
The ceremony will go in stages:
- First, the elders on both sides will privately deliberate on the bride price and other stuff( boring!) at this time, I probably will in indoors joking with my friends and taking snapshots.
- After all the deliberations, the ceremony proper starts. At this point, ill make my first appearance to greet the guests. I plan to be dressed like this:
However, this may be a little tricky. It involves trying a thick wrapper around my chest; young african maiden style. I would rather have something sewn to my size, that I can camoflage as a wrapper. So, I guess ill get the wrapper quite alright, and sew it, go for something like this
yep. More like this though
For my headgear, I will be wearing a hairpiece made from corral beads. Just like what we have above, but Im not too sure. More inspiration for beads..
I like the simple look. I kid you not, these beads can be heavy!!
i seem to like this. Just the right size of 'oomph' factor.
Ive decided to have 10 attendants (read: bridesmaids).
**** The correct term for my girls is 'asoebi'. (pronounced ASHO EYBEE ) Its a term for Nigerian outfits made from matching fabric to be worn by a group of people to a party, wedding,or naming ceremonies.In Nigeria, during parties you see people wearing the same material. It is called aso ebi. Aso Ebi translated to English means family cloth. Aso-ebi is a phenomenon seen at Nigerian events in which groups of people wear similar cloth to indicate their close relationship .****
Get the drift now? It actually is a priviledge to wear the asoebi, as it signifies that you are a member of the inner caucus. I will get the fabric I want, then they will make it however they want. The different styles will add the glamor I want..
Actually, in the traditional marriage, the more attendants, the merrier. And I have many cousins who are all angling to be my bridesmaids during the church wedding. Unfortunately, I can only take 3 out of them all. So, Ive decided on a diplomatic way to cushion the disappointment. Ill ask them all to be my asoebi attendants at my traditional wedding. Problem solved!
For the 1st outing, they will be dressed like this:
But in shades of brown. Im thinking..plain george wrappers..
- Next step, the mother of the bride greets the guests with her own attendants. In Nigeria, the mother of the bride is as important as the bride herself and takes her own pride of place. However, she will be wearing a traditional Igbo woman attire. Of course, she will have her own asoebi (sigh)
- After all the greeting, I will be called out to 'find my husband'. Its the highlight of the event, a hilarious part of the ceremony which is when my older uncles fill a wooden cup (Iko) with palm wine and pass it on to me while FI hides himself between the guests. And then I go dancing about looking for him, until I find him and make him drink from the cup, only then are we considered traditionally married! Ha ha..cant wait.
FI is shy, and I know his brothers will have to hold him down in one spot for me to find him. As for me, I plan to make him wait. Ill probably dance past him a couple of times before giving him the drink lol...
I will have to change into the orange/green attire, so will my attendants; but I will be wearing lace, while they will be wearing ankara. (a cotton fabric with very vivid colors and patterns)
Something like this for me, in orange and mint green.
My attendants will choose what style they want to make with their fabrics, but im guessing stuff like this:
My sister has already chosen hers, and will be doing this:
I love love love this concept. see the matching purse? Needless to say, I will be doing something like this afterwards with my own ankara; maybe for my outing service..
FI has no sisters, he says Im his sister as well as his wifw (awwww!!). So his friends and brothers will be his attendants. Usually, they dont wear asoebi, some people do, but most times they dont.
This is how he will appear, with his own beads too. FI will be wearing the same colors with me. But since most men cant stand the weight of the lace, we ll get him the mint green fabric in guinea brocade, and then use some of my lace to make trimmings at the neck, collar and sleeves. For his cap, Ill cut some from my headtie, and his tailor will make it into a cap.
Like this. I dont know why, but I like the matchy-matchy stuff. He does too. And everyone expects it. So thats it..
Im liking this. Though, my dress will not be strapless, it will come with lace sleeves. But the rose detail at the bust and the detail at the waist, yum. Im not really a jewelry person but Ill be wearing simple gold accesories, and my beads.
Then for FIs outfit, we ll use my lace to do the trimming at the neck and sleeves. And the shoulders, both front and back.
Off to the market, and then to my tailor..