Sep 12, 2009
My daughter isn't just my daughter. My daughter is my inspiration.
It was the most important day of MY life. Of course, I cherish the birth of both my son and my daughter, but it was a day that I along with family, friends, and even skilled physicians, feared that I'd never ever get to see. My baby, Jessica, was born with a severe heart abnormality 24 years ago, and had to be flown from Southern California to Boston where immediate open heart surgery could be performed. At the time, her prognosis was very bleak, but thanks to God and wonderful perfect hands of some of the most skilled surgeons in the world...Jessica got married on September 12, 2009...
If you all understood the magnitude of what she has been through, you'd also know that when my baby went on to become a 52 time National Dance Champion, she became an inspiration to all who know her. Her surgeons often flew from wherever they were to watch her compete. Her dance career is a testament to her strength, her focus and will to be alive and to be the best that she could possibly be. She is, quite frankly, a miracle! Her smile is all that one needs to see to understand her spirit, her soul!
I have been privileged and blessed to plan her "perfect day." How fortunate I am that she gave me that gift! There were times when I complained...I know...but in my heart of hearts, I was always thankful! I know that you all know that. I can hardly believe that her wedding day is here
Saying "Thank You" to the ladies of Project Wedding is certainly not enough. I'd be lost if it hadn't been for all of you. In particular I need to thank...
Marinag, Mrs.Fink2be, Kristinkay, Kristeen, Blondebunny, Smooreswifey, Rinamae, Starg8zer, Pinkgerbers, Goingtbegoff, Wmforever, Candicethetatooist, Lilivati...that's just to name a few. And of course, Dirty too!
Everyone has been fabulous! Okay, maybe not everyone, but certainly almost everyone. Besides, I know I can be a "Royal Pain" too! LOL! I am so thankful that you all allowed me to steal a piece of your joy here on PW. Project Wedding isn't really "for" me. It's for you. But it has been a pleasure posting with you, chatting with you, meeting some of you, sending and receiving private messages with you...You've wowed me with your style, your ideas, your DIY's and your vendor suggestions. there are some talented, beautiful women on project Wedding, some educated with great jobs, some not; some with enormous wedding budgets, some not; some large, some small, some young brides, some older...and a few moms to boot!
So my baby became a "Mrs." I remember once, when she was four years old, I was driving her to pre-school one day. She looked at me with giant, hopeful blue eyes and said, "Mama, I'm gonna be a bride someday." That made me cry! She, of course, didn't know why...but it was because she still had another very big open heart surgery ahead of her...a long road...and I just wasn't sure that I'd be making her wedding someday. Looking back with years of experience I now know that God intended us to live each and every day to the fullest because none of us knows what God's plan is....So my words of wisdom to you are, "live each and every moment to it's fullest!!!!"
Congratulations to all of you and Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
******originally written as a post the night before the wedding...tense has been changed.
It was the combining of two cultures. A Jewish Wedding with a bit of an Asian Flair!
The Venue: Tustin Ranch Golf Club, Tustin Ranch, California
The Reveal and The Wedding Party:
Let the Ceremony Begin!
Awwwww...how cute is he?
Stepping on the Glass
I've got a feelin' that tonight's gonna be a good good night...
I'll begin at the beginning...Jess and her bridesmaids spent the night before the wedding at my good friend Betsy's house. She catered a lovely breakfast of quiche and fruit. The hair stylist showed up right on time and began doing the MOH's hair. Then the MUA did her makeup as the next BM had her hair done. Around 12:00 he started my hair and then he started Jessie's hair. I had way to much sticky product in mine!!!! I don't like that!!!! But Jessie's hair was Perfection. We had our MU done and the Limo showed up. We left for the Golf Course right on time.
I was, quite frankly, surprised that I hadn't heard from my DOC's (the Project Wedding Divas) all morning. They had EVERYTHING UNDER CONTROL...But, of course, I got to the Golf Course, and began barking out orders at them anyway. It looked more beautiful than I ever fantasized that it would. All I have to say is WOW. Marina, Mitch, Gina, her hubby, Dirty, Nolan and Kristin Kay did an unbelieveable job. Okay, I apologized...and took more Xanax...which wasn't working all that well.
The bride and groom decided on a "reveal." That was a very lucky thing, although my daughter didn't love the idea. It made it possible for them to have pictures on the Golf course and to take advantage of the scenery prior to the sun dropping!
Jess came up from the Golf Course and "DISASTER"...a 6 inch mud spot on the train of her dress. So the Bridesmaids madly worked to get it out with Club Soda...then used a stain remover pad...worked like a charm!!!!
The Harpist played "Erev shel Shoshanim," a traditional Hebrew song as our honored guests and grandparents walked down the aisle. Then the Groomsmen, Bridesmaids, Maids of Honor and Best Man followed to "Sunrise Sunset" as the huge sun in the sky began to drop...it was like a commercial!!!! The Groom Followed with his parents and then I walked and waited at the bottom of the stairs. The Soloist began "Somewhere over the Rainbow" and out walked the Bride with her Father. I met them at the bottom of the stairs and My husband and I escorted our daughter down the aisle. When her father was asked "Who supports this woman?" he responded, "We do, her 'beautiful' Mother and I." Very nice.
Nick came and escorted her to the canopy and then she circled him as is Jewish Custom...3 times as I joined my husband under the spectacular Chuppah...all lit up with crystals falling...just gorgeous!
The bride and Groom drank the wine and Nick stepped on the glass to a huge roar of "Mazel Tov." It was so very nice! Then the Blacked Eyed Peas "Gotta Feeling" was appropriately played and the entire wedding party, including parents and even the Rabbi "Rocked" down the aisle.
The reception area was transformed into a magnificent forest of Manzanita, Crystals and flickering votives...what an awesome site that was.
Everyone PARTIED...and we ALL had a wonderful time!
One of the highlights of the evening was the "Advice Dance." The DJ announced that everyone...everyone needed to be on the dance floor. Then he asked that anyone married less than five hours leave the dance floor. Then anyone married less than 2 years...and so on. My Mother and Father have been married 60 years and were the last couple on the floor. Then...the song that they danced to on their wedding night, "Golden Earring," began! At the end, the DJ asked them for their advice for the bride and groom. My father said, "Two words...Yes Dear!" My outrageous mother said, "You MUST have lingerie night once a week!" OMFG...everyone lost it!
I absolutely CAN NOT wait for the PRO PICTURES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So far heres what we've got:
Bridesmaids: (pics to come)
- A Red Tank Shirt with their names on the back and crystaled
- A Pair of Black Shorts
- A Pair of Red flip flops
- A silk purse
- A sachet and a candle
- A Bridesmaid hat
- A Silk Pashmina
Groomsmen: (more pics to come)
- A Silk striped tie
- A Pair of Argyle Socks
- A Crystal Beer Mug
- A six pack of beer with the following labels and collors in a custom box
THE NEW LAST NAME IS "DAVIS" THE WRITING SAYS THE FOLLOWING:
Davis-Schmavis Beer traces it's origins back to the Shebangazuela (his mother's maiden name is Valenzuela). All hell broke loose when Nick met a Jewish Princess named Jessica. In November 2007 they formalized their partnership and eventually renamed the Brewery Davis-Schmavis in 2009. Nick's smoothe moves, charm and committment to quality led him to his Princess Jessica and this is his legacy to those who will follow.
July 22, 2009
What a totally awesome week! Started off on Monday with huge plans of finishing the shower arrangements and I got involved on Facebook. I hooked up with someone who was not only a Sorority Sister, but she was a bridesmaid in my wedding. I haven't seen her for 23 years! I had invited two other Sorority Sisters that I connected with to dinner on Friday and we just added Nicole, my long lost bridesmaid! We had a fabulous time! It was like I saw her yesterday!
On Saturday Dwight was asked to take part in an Olympic event at the Coliseum commemorating the 25th anniversary of the LA Olympics. Some very, very famous athletes were there like Mark Spitz, Rafer Johnson, MaryLou Retton, Nadia Comaneci, you name an Old Olympian...they were there. They introduced all of them individually and many people gave my husband a standing ovation as he was introduced. After all these years sometimes I forget how amazing he was as an athlete and all that he accomplished, 19 National Championships, 10 world records, 3 Olympic Teams and 2 medals...yeah, we regular people can't relate to the kind of amazing drive, dedication and focus these people have to have. Quite an impressive group...much before "young bride's" time...but pretty unbelievable!
Okay, "Mommy compliments husband"....duly noted!
Sunday Morning was the "big" shower! It was so nice! Jess got a lot of really beautiful gifts including a lot of Waterford and tons of Nambe. She got 1/2 of her china and some lovely intimate honeymoon apparel. Such a lucky girl! Everything went without a hitch. Nick and the guys ate in the main dining room of the restaurant. Nick came into the shower at the end and presented Jess with a bouquet and a balloon that was for a baby shower! They both had 50 of us women goin' for awhile. My son saw it and announced that he had to go home to take a shower because, I'm quoting him now, "I cr@pped my pants!" LOL Wow...what nobody realized is that I about "cr@pped" mine too!!! OMG!!!! Not so funny!!!
August 6, 2009
As the wedding approaches, things are getting crazy. Lots and lots of loose end to tie up and events to attend. Jess had her second shower given by her bridesmaids. It was really lovely. There were about 20 people it was both guys and girls.
Again, loads of nice gifts and a ton of love and friendship!
On Tuesday I attended another wedding. Dirty and Nolan finally tied the knot at Zucca Ristorante in Downtown LA. Again, great meeting a lot of PW gals...Oh, Mommy so cried during the vows!
Jess, Nick and I met with the Rabbi. She got permission to "Rock down the Aisle" as a Recessional. She's excited about that. Then last night we met with DJ. My time line, the all consuming, terrifying timeline, is now complete...Well, almost. Just a few details needs to come together.
Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeck...I'm getting excited!!!
Another big week for my husband. He threw out the first pitch for the Dodgers on Friday Night. The kids were much too young to know their Dad as an athlete. Yes, they've both been to the Olympic Games, but not to see their Dad compete. I think that they saw him jump only once that they remember. It was back in NY at Madison Square Garden. But pretty much that's it. They know that he's on television a lot, and they don't much care and don't really watch him...he's their dad, it's what he does. But they LOVED going to Dodger Stadium, being led through the bowels of the stadium onto the field. Standing on the field and watching their Dad. My son liked watching the game as did Nick. I liked eating the free food in clubhouse and chatting on PW during the game. It was really fun and a total departure from wedding plans. Thanks to the PW girls who shared in the excitement with me!
As I posted in thread just today, with 33 days to go...I "think" I have it almost all wrapped up. The stress is that I can't find much to do. I feel like I must be missing something huge! I just can't figure out what it is. I have to send out the rehearsal dinner invitations and I have to contact the rude invitees who did not send in the rsvp's. I will need to do the table assignments, print the velum for the votives (in lieu of escort cards). I still need to have a big pow wow with my DOC, Marina...who has been great, BTW. That's about it.
I'm so glad that I have such a long written record of the planning of this wedding. I actually read the whole thing. Man, I can be pretty direct, huh? It took me like an hour to read the whole damn thing...but I did it! It's funny how I've heard from so many ladies after they've read it. Who would take the time??? LOL...But I mostly did this for me.
I've been on facebook for a few weeks and I've been contacted by a load of old high school friends. I'm heading up the committee to plan my 40th, yes, 40th High School Reunion starting just after the wedding.
One last thing. I was moved by two threads this week. One was LynneeaAlicia and the other was HolyMolyMatrimony. Lynneea was being a supportive friend to a girl who had triplets. One had already been lost and another was not doing well. I was moved to tears just feeling the pain of the whole situation. And then the happy tears. HMM had her baby boy! I wrote to her and said "don't blink...it goes quickly...he'll soon be walking down the aisle like my baby." I just can't believe that it's almost here. Every time I think about it I get very emotional!
June 16, 2009
I think that I'll start at the end. I was up with my daughter's FMIL finishing up most of our DIY's that are still left to do. Before everyone arrived yesterday I designed the labels for the OOT baskets. I'm very happy with the way they turned out.
Jess and Nick showed up first and Nick went to sleep on the sofa (as usual) and Jess and I went to Walmart. Yes, the Princess went into Walmart for only the second time in her life. It just amazes me how she has no problem going to Walmart when she's paying for it! LOL!!! We purchased the "rest" of what will go into the FG's and RB gift baskets and we purchased Pocket trays to lay on their chairs at the reception with activities in them. We had to fill those up. We walked out of Walmart and it looked like freakin' Christmas!
We headed over to Joanne's and found callalillies on Sale for really cheap which we needed for the rehearsal dinner! I bought pens for the wish cards.
We came home and dove in!!!! We finished wrapping 10 BM baskets, 9 GM gifts, 2 FG gifts, 2 Jr. BM gifts, RB gifts. Then we proceeded to wrap 200 little cello bags with Salt Water Taffy. Although we aren't doing favors (Donation in Lieu), I thought that each place should have a little something sweet. Then we glued the labels onto the OOT bags. That was all a lot of work!
On Friday I decided that I needed to set up a "snapfish" account so all of the guests can upload their photos after the wedding. I had cards made and they were delivered yesterday. A special Thank You to "em724" who totally helped me with this! I used her exact words!!!
On Thursday I went to the Dentist. I freakin' HATE the dentist and I KNOW that he hates me. I had a crown on my front tooth for 40...yes 40 years and he is replacing it. I now have an ugly temporary. I have another appointment tomorrow. I don't want to go at all. I HATE him. That drilling sound and that smell...are you kiddin' me with cr@p??? Ugh!!!!!!!!! Tomorrow is the color match and fillings. I want do NOT want to do this! He's a Barbarian!
On Wednesday Dwight left for Berlin to do the World Championships of Track of Field for NBC. I'm SOOOOOOOO glad that man is gone. I'm telling you all...he got out of the car in the "white zone" at the airport, I jumped into that drivers seat and I didn't even turn around to say goodbye. In fact, I looked in the rearview mirror and saw him standing there with his jaw open I drove away so fast!!!! Now I can get things finished for the wedding. Oh, and the house is very clean! Not that he intentionally makes it dirty...his presence just dirties up the house...wait, well....you know what I mean.
Last Sunday was my nieces shower. It was lovely. My daughter is one of her Maids of Honors and my niece gets married a month after my daughter. That part is nice. Here are the 2 Brides and 2 MOH's w/Bride
Actually...and this is funny...Jess and Rebeccah are Lauren's MOH's and Lauren and Rebeccah are Jessica's Maids Of Honor...So here's all three of them!!!! Cousins!!!!!
I have confirmations that KristinKay, MrandMrsfink2be and Marinag will be at the wedding. I'm so thankful I can't even tell you! How lucky am I?
September 5, 2009
Life is becoming crazy nuts. Not the wedding...I'm trying to prepare the damn house for company. Everyplace I look there's wedding cr@p! Piles and Piles of crap! There's nothing I can do but clean around the cr@p! The good news is that everything for the wedding is done!
We got the proofs for the TTD session. I can't post 'em until I have them in my hand. The Photographer hasn't sent any too me...only the copywrite proofs...Jeesh! Hey...he's an "arteest." Not that paying the man what we paid him wasn't enough...may I make a suggestion...don't let him negotiate his hourly fee. Someone photographing a wedding should photograph the damn wedding...the hourly stuff is ridiculous! We're paying him about $8100 so far...in total which includes the video. But the photographer hasn't been very accomadating at all. Not on my planet. At this point, I just want the photos and to be done with it. He's talented...he's just impossible. And he's a bit artsy fartsy for my daughter...but whatever!
I'm excited to have met with Marinag, Mitch, her husband, her son...oh and Issac...who's still in her belly. She's going to do a great job! I know it.
My husband leaves again tomorrow morning...oh yay!!! He'll be gone for two days...yay, yay!!!
Oh, so my tooth...it became my toof. The temporary feel out last Friday night and then I lost it! I was "toofless." I'm not kidding. Uh...dentist isn't open on the weekends so I was holed up in my house looking as if I was product of what happens when first cousins marry. But I got it replaced on Wednesday. Hooray. Lucky thing...could you seen me walking down the aisle in my gown with no front tooth? LOLOLOLOLOLOL
Well, this will probably be my last blog post until after the wedding. I'll post non pro pics as soon as I can.
This is a picture of the dress only the one our Jessica's Bridesmaids are wearing are BLACK and the shoes are RED
The dress is Melissa Sweet and the shoes are Max Studio.
AND Here is Elena, one of the Bridesmaids, trying it on with the shoes
And all of the Groomsmen will wear...
This Tie This Tux Argyle Socks (Reds, Blacks, White combos)
and look what I found for the Ring Bearer
- NAIL DOWN THE TIMELINE WITH DJ. SEND A COPY TO EACH HELPER AND VENDOR
- NAIL DOWN THE CHAMPAGNE TOAST
- GO OVER TABLE LAYOUT EXACTLY/ FLOORPLAN
- SWEETHEART TABLE
- CAKE TABLE/TOASTING FLUTES/CAKE CARVING SET
- GO OVER THE TABLES NEEDED FOR THE ESCORT CARDS/BUBBLES,KIPPOT, PROGRAM/WISHTREE AND CARDS
- CALL LINEN COMPANY TO DOUBLE CHECK THE LINENS AND DECOR/ GIVE HER CHAIR SASHES AND MENUS
- Votives on cake table
- Bring in arch/so purchase stands for arch