Jul 05, 2010

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My name is Bethany and I was a summer 25-year-old bride. My husband and I live in Portland, Oregon. If you've ever been to Portland, you'd probably think we were pretty nerdy. We both love beer which is why we had our wedding at a pub, we're both pretty nerdy, and we do "crunchy" things like recycle and ride our bikes to work. Our wedding was a reflection of both our interests and our values. 

I am a music teacher. I teach voice lessons and I substitute teach choir. I am also a hobbyist of sorts. I do ridiculous projects like refinishing my piano instead of hiring someone to do it for me. I am not a religious person in spite of my family's best efforts. I am also someone that likes to research and organize and then change her mind over and over. For our wedding, many of these characteristics were evident.  

For our music, I hired one of my friends and the best guitarist I know to play for the processional. His name's Andrew Gorny. You can find him on YouTube. Two of my bridesmaids are singers like myself and sang the Flower Duet from Lakme during the ceremony. For the recessional, I hired some high school boys to play drum cadences. This was so much cooler than you might think! For our first dance, we chose to do a more upbeat song and had done an hour dance lesson to learn swing dance moves to go with it. I couldn't bear the thought of waddling in a circle. 

Because I'm an insane project doer I did EVERYTHING without hiring many vendors at all. With the help of family and friends, we made all of the decorations, did the flower arrangements using flowers from a local farm, and I ran around like a chicken with my head cut off trying to make sure everything was exactly how I wanted it the day of our wedding. In hindsight, I really should have sat down with someone and gone over details so they could have made sure things were as I wanted them.  I spent nearly two years carefully putting together every detail and I wanted everything to be perfect. The problem was, nobody can both be the wedding planner and the bride without missing a few beats! 

Because neither myself nor my husband is religious, we chose to have our ceremony reflect that. Our sister-in-law did a reading that set the tone. We wanted for our ceremony to send the message that people grow and change, that people come and go from our lives, but we will grow and change together and that is the great adventure of our marriage. 

We've been married one year now. I loved our wedding. I have since been the wedding planner for one other wedding as well. I would love to do more!