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Aug 21, 2009

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Wedding Ceremony

Calvin & Mindi

August 21st, 2009

Good Afternoon!  We are gathered here today, not to witness the beginning of what will be, but rather what already is and to give recognition to the worth and beauty of love, and to add our blessing, encouragement, and life long support to the words which will unite Calvin and Mindi in holy matrimony. 

PRESENTATION: Who presents this woman to this man?

My Sis: I do, in honor of all that have gathered here, and those not able to be with us today.

INTRODUCTION: Calvin and Mindi, the relationship that you have nurtured together stands for love that will blossom and grow with each passing day. Marriage is the clasping of hands, the blending of hearts, the union of two lives as one. Marriage is caring as much about the welfare and happiness of your marriage partner as your own, yet it is not total absorption into each other; it is looking outward in the same direction together. Marriage makes burdens lighter because you divide them. It makes joys more intense because you share them. It makes you stronger, so you can be involved with life in ways you dare not risk alone. To make your relationship succeed will take love. This is the core of your marriage and why you are here today. It will take trust, to know in your hearts that you truly want the best for each other. It will take dedication, to stay open and honest with one another - and to learn and grow together. It will take faith, to go forward together without knowing exactly what the future brings. And it will take commitment, to hold true to the journey you both promise today to share together always. An intimate and secure relationship is not based solely on promises, but also on trust, respect, faithfulness and the ability to forgive. A lasting marriage is based on all of these, bound together by love.  Do you still seek to enter this ceremony?

 Both answer: We Do.

HAND CEREMONY: As an expression that your hearts are joined together in love - will you please face each other and hold hands… Mindi please hold Calvin’s hands palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you.

His Grandma
: These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and vibrant with love, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as he promises to passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness. These are the hands that will work along side yours, as together you build your future, as you laugh and cry, as you share your innermost secrets and dreams. These are the hands you will someday place with expectant joy upon your stomach, until he too, feels his child stir within you. These are the hands that look so large and strong, yet will be so gentle as he holds your baby for the first time. These are the hands that will work long hours for you and your new family. Perhaps these are the hands that will comfort you when you are told that cannot have a child, and will convince you that together you will create new life in other ways. These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes: tears of sorrow and tears of joy. These are the hands that will comfort you in illness, and hold you when fear or grief engulfs your heart. These are the hands that will tenderly lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into his eyes: eyes that are filled completely with his overwhelming love and desire for you.

Calvin, Please take a good long look at your hands as they sit upon Mindi’s, as this is the last time you will have the upper hand. Calvin, when you are ready: please hold Mindi’s hands palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you.

My Grandma: These are the hands of your best friend, smooth, young and carefree, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as she promises to passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness. These are the hands that will hold each child in tender love, soothing them through illness and hurt, supporting and encouraging them along the way, knowing when it is time to let go. These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times. These are the hands that will comfort you when you are sick, or console you when you are grieving. These are the hands that will hold you in joy and excitement and hope, each time she tells you that you are to have another child, that together you have created a new life. These are the hands that will give you support as she encourages you to chase down your dreams. And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch for together as a team, everything you wish for can be realized.

Bless these hands that you see before you this day. May they always be held by one another. Give them the strength to hold on during the storms of stress and the dark of disillusionment. Keep them tender and gentle as they nurture each other in their wondrous love. Help these hands to continue building a relationship founded in grace, rich in caring, and devoted to reaching for perfection. May Calvin and Mindi see their hands as healer, protector, shelter and guide. Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves. When frustration, difficulty or fear assail your relationship - as they threatened all relationships at one time or another - remember to focus on what is right between you, not only the part that seems wrong. In this way, you can ride out the times when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives - remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment, the sun is still there. And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your lives together, your life together will be marked by abundance and delight.

DECLARATION OF INTENT: Calvin and Mindi may this be the love that you bring into this relationship and may its essence touch all those with whom you come in contact. As you come this day to affirm your love and commitment, may you always remember to value each other as special and unique individuals, and that you respect each others thoughts, ideas and feelings. May you be able to forgive and to forget when wronged - as from this day forward you will be each others home, comfort and sanctuary.

Calvin, will you receive Mindi as your wife? As your companion and best friend for life, will you treat her with love and devotion, honor and respect? Will you stand by her in the triumphs and tragedies of life, as a faithful and caring husband?

Calvin: I will

Mindi, will you receive Calvin as your husband? As your companion and best friend for life, will you treat him with love and devotion, honor and respect? Will you stand by him in the triumphs and tragedies of life, as a faithful and caring wife?

Mindi: I will

And to the family and friends of Calvin and Mindi, you are here to express your love, hope and joy for this occasion. If you truly love Calvin and Mindi, you will never do anything to hinder their marriage, never speak against either spouse, and support the marriage through good times and hard times. Will you accept and support this marriage? If so, answer “We Will”

Response: We Will.

As you take these preliminary vows, Calvin and Mindi, I would have you remember:
To love is to enter a whole New World, a world of togetherness, a world of sharing... All that is dearest and deepest within your hearts.
To love is to remember and keep alive forever all those unique qualities that drew you to one another in the beginning... Those first phrases... the thrill of discovery... that wonderful feeling of oneness when your eyes met.
To love is to constantly search for new ways to enjoy happiness, to make the most of every moment you share together, and marvel at how your feelings for one another keep growing to new dimensions.
To love is to create an oasis for one another and a quiet place, apart from others, where you need not pretend ... where you can be yourselves ... And know within your hearts you will be accepted by one another. To love is to greet each day with anticipation ... Always eager for another opportunity to share new adventures ... And gather up new memories TOGETHER!
To love is to follow the rainbow through the rain, to be able to laugh at yourselves and be will to say ... “I was wrong” or “I'm sorry" ... To forgive, and more importantly, to FORGET, and to always believe and trust in one another.
To love is to watch with wonder all the miracles of creation, to find beauty in all the simple things of life, and to find, within ourselves, a deeper appreciation and a new awareness of how wonderful it is to be alive ... To be happy ... To be ... TOGETHER.
To love is to come together from our past and then move forward ... Hand in hand, along the uncharted roads of our future, ready to risk, to dream, and to dare ... And always believe that all things are possible with faith and love.

READING: (read by FFIL) 

The Art Of Marriage By Wilferd A. Peterson
The little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon. It should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding room for the things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.


EXCHANGE OF VOWS: Calvin and Mindi the vows that you are about to exchange serve as a verbal representation of the love you have promised to each other. For it is not the words that you speak today which will unite you together as one, but the inner sense of love and commitment that each of you feels within your soul. No other human ties are as tender, no other vows more sacred than those you now assume.

Calvin: I promise to encourage you compassion, Because that is what makes you unique and wonderful.
I promise to nurture your dreams, Because through them your soul shines.
I promise to help shoulder our challenges, For there is nothing we cannot face if we stand together.
I promise to be your partner in all things, Not possessing you, but working with you to be part of a whole.
I promise to share with you the joys of life, Because with you they will be that much sweeter.
Lastly, I promise to you perfect love and perfect trust, For one lifetime with you could never be enough.
This is my sacred vow to you, my equal in all things


Mindi: I promise to encourage your individuality, Because that is what makes you unique and wonderful.
I promise to nurture your dreams, Because through them your soul shines.
I promise to help shoulder our challenges For there is nothing we cannot face if we stand together.
I promise to be your partner in all things, Not possessing you, but working with you to be part of a whole.
I promise to share with you the joys of life, Because with you they will be that much sweeter.
Lastly, I promise to you perfect love and perfect trust, For one lifetime with you could never be enough This is my sacred vow to you, my equal in all things.

Have you brought a token to represent these words? These are the rings that Calvin and Mindi will wear for the rest of their lives, which express the love that they have for one another. Let us take a moment and send our prayers, our thoughts and our love to these rings, so that as they wear them, they will carry our love with them as well. The rings you give and receive this day are the symbols of the endless love into which you enter as husband and wife. Such a love has no beginning and no ending, no giver and no receiver. You are each the beginning and the ending, each the giver and the receiver.

Calvin: I give this ring in remembrance of this day, a symbol of love that is complete, beautiful, and endless.

Mindi: I give this ring in remembrance of this day, a symbol of love that is complete, beautiful, and endless.

May the sacredness of this moment and the vows and rings you have exchanged ever remain as a priceless memory in the heart of each of you and may you have perfect love and peace together.

SAND CEREMONY: Today, Calvin and Mindi have chosen to commemorate their marriage through the celebration of the Sand Ceremony. This ceremony symbolizes the inseparable union of Calvin and Mindi into a new and eternal marital relationship. Each of the Bride and Grooms families will pour separate containers of sand into a common vessel. Each grain of sand in their separate containers represents a unique and separate moment, decision, feeling or event that helped shaped Mindi and Calvin into the separate and unique individuals that they are today. As they pour their separate containers of sand into a common vessel, those separate and independent individuals will cease to exist. Instead they will merge into a loving and supportive marital community. Calvin and Mindi, just as the grains of sand can never be separated into their individual containers again, so will your marriage be.

READING: (Kathy) Irish Wedding Blessing

May the road rise to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
The rains fall soft upon the fields.
May the light of friendship guide your paths together.
May the laughter of children grace the halls of your home.
May the joy of living for one another trip a smile from your lips,
A twinkle from your eye.
And when eternity beckons, at the end of a life heaped high with love,
May the good Lord embrace you with the arms that have nurtured you
the whole length of your joy-filled days.
May the gracious God hold you both in the palm of His hands.
And, today, may the Spirit of Love find a dwelling place in your hearts.

BENEDICTION: Please join me in the prayer printed in your programs:
Together: May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance and understanding.
Pastor: May you always need one another – not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete; the valley does not make the mountain less, but more; and the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. So let it be with you and you Together: May you need one another, but not out of weakness. May you want one another, but not out of lack. May you entice one another, but not compel one another. May you succeed in all important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces. May you look for things to praise, often say “I Love YOU!” and take no notice of small faults.
Pastor: If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back. May you enter into the mystery which is the awareness of one another’s presence – no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities.
Together: May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy. May you have love and may you find it loving one another.

CLOSING COMMENTS: Calvin and Mindi if there is anything you remember of this marriage ceremony, may it be the love that brought you here today, it is only love which can make it a glorious union, and by love which your marriage shall endure. Today your separate lives with your individual memories, desires, and hopes merge into one. You are now taking into your care and keeping the happiness of the one person in the entire world whom you love above all others. You are adding to your life not only the affection of each other, but also the companionship and blessing of a deep trust as well. You are agreeing to share strength, responsibilities and to share love. May you be a blessing and comfort to each other, sharers of each others dreams, consolers of each others sorrows, and helpers to each other in all of life's challenges. May you encourage each other in whatever you set out to achieve. May you trust each other, trust life and be unafraid. May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life grant you patience, tolerance, and understanding.

Because Calvin and Mindi have desired each other in marriage, and have witnessed this before God and our gathering, affirming their acceptance of the responsibilities of such a union, and have pledged their love and faith to each other, sealing their vows in the giving and receiving of rings, behalf of the family and friends who love you both here and far away I do proclaim that they are husband and wife in the sight of God and man. Let all people here and everywhere recognize and respect this holy union, now and forever. Whom God hath joined together, let no man put asunder.

Calvin you may now kiss your wife.

It is my pleasure to present to you the Newlyweds, Calvin and Mindi Steffens.

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My boss had taken my coworker and I to a Detroit Tigers game (my ABSOLUTE favorite sports team) on September 26th, 2009.  When I got home the FI was waiting for me and since I was starving, (and a bit tipsy from the beers at the game) he was making me a grilled cheese sandwich, we were talking about his whole family was planning a trip to the upper peninsula to a resort that they had all gone to annually when he was little.  He comes out of the kitchen, hands me my grilled cheese, and while, I've got a mouthful of ooey-gooeiness, he drops to one knee and says "I"d love for you to marry me there too!" 

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Well this is the bare all section right?  I met my FI one random night after work at the local bar.  I was working at a restaurant down the street, and all the girls were going out for a drink.  It was on my way home so I stopped too.  You know how girls after work can be, and we were getting into the drinking, (LOL) when Calvin walked in.  Right away, I told one of the girls that I was going home with him, (PSA: It was something that I had NEVER done before) I just had a feeling about this one.  Well, I ended up staying the night, and went home with that pang of guilt.  We didn't exchange numbers or anything. So....the next night, I'm at work and HE"S SITTING AT THE BAR IN MY RESTAURANT!!!  "I can't get you out of my head" he said, and we've been inseperatable ever since.