Aug 21, 2009
Getting Ready and the Ceremony
Well, the night before my BFF and I spent the night at the in-law's since we would be getting ready there. I was up at the crack of dawn because I just couldn't take laying still anymore. The IL's already had the coffee brewing, and I grabbed a cup and went out to the back porch to watch the sunrise over our ceremony site. The weather was turning out PERFECT! Low 70's with a slight breeze - YAY!!! - Mother Nature decided to bless us! I took in all the quietness, enjoyed the birds chirping and wrote a little love note to the hubby that I stuck in his jacket pocket. Then my sister arrived and it was time to get busy. We still had to iron the aisle runner, and get everyone showered and dressed. I think all of us had a hand in the ironing. =) And on to the hair, my BFF happens to be a hairdresser so she did my sister's and my hair:
While we were getting ready, and doing all the girly stuff the soon to be hubby arrived and finished setting up the ceremony site. There wasn't much to do, just put chair covers on and lay out the runner. I was bad and kept peeking out the windows to look at him, (he wasn't dressed yet) but everytime I saw him I just got more and more excited! I couldn't believe that after all the drama, and changing dates, locations, etc, that it was finally here. Quickly the photographer, Corey Nash, arrived, just about the same time as my Dad and Step-mom. Dad was feeling great which was SUCH a big relief. I sent Corey off to get some of the detail pics, as well as some of Calvin getting ready:
Corey came back to the Bridal Room, and we quickly fired off my shots:
And then it was GO time! YAY! I couldn't wait to see the soon to be hubby, I was just about ready to burst over with excitement, joy, happiness, love, and a million other emotions.
Since my dad was performing the ceremony (yes, I'm a PK, he's a retired United Methodist Minister) and my mom isn't in the picture, I wanted my younger sister to walk me down the aisle, we've been best buddies through thick and thin, and there was no way she wasn't going to be by my side for this one, I loved the way she squeezed my hand right before she untied the bow at the end of the aisle, and told me that in her heart she knew that DH was meant for me. Then I finally looked up and saw DH, and from the end of the aisle, I could tell that he was just a little bit misty, and I started my walk towards forever:
I wrote the entire ceremony myself, and having my dad say the words was a dream come true to us. Things were really uncertain if dad was going to be able to do the ceremony, since he has gastroperesis that flares up and sends him to the hospital all the time. I couldn't have asked for something more special than to have my dad marrying me off to the man of my dreams. It was a passing of the torch of sorts.
From the moment I got to DH, he wouldn't let go of my hands, it was so precious! I love this photo, and how I edited it too look all old time-y.
We did a hand ceremony with both of our grandmothers reading parts, as well as a family sand ceremony that included our parents to show the blending of families.
<----My dad had "edited" the
ceremony to tell DH that this
is the last time that he'll ever
have the upper hand. =)
Each family had a different color sand, and DH's family that couldn't make it to the ceremony had got a sand from their family vacation spot, that we then blended with everything else. ---->
As you can tell I was a pretty happy camper during the ceremony - ALL SMILES! I just <3 Black and White photography.
The ceremony flew by even though it was about 40 minutes, I couldn't believe how fast it went by, and next thing you he's trying to slide the ring on my finger (too many mimosa's I guess, cause my fingr swelled) so that took a minute and everyone laughed. And then......
My dad pronounced us "Mr & Mrs. Steffens!" and the kiss!
During the rehersal dinner
my dad had made a
comment that the longest kiss that he had during a
ceremony, was over 15 minutes, so as soon as DH started to pull
away from out "church tongue" kiss, my now
Father In Law yelled
out "15 Minutes" and we both started cracking up!
And walking down the aisle as the newlyweds!
Right After & Downtown Detroit
I didn't upload very many of the family formals that we took immediately after the ceremony, but I love these couple:
And two of me and my sis - cause I love her!
After we shot the formals, we signed the marriage certificate, had a quick glass of champange, and were whisked off in our limo downtown for some photo op's. To be honest, this was my favorite part of the day. We had a 3 hour break in-between the ceremony and the reception just for this since neither of us wanted a "first look". I cherish the time that we got to spend together in the limo on the way downtown, just the two of us, and we were able to get some great (almost) TTD type pics.
While out shooting photo's
we were walking by this little Polish bar, and the owner invited us in for a shot to celebrate. The place was empty except
for him and his family,
including his infant great granddaughter, that he said both her and I would have good luck the rest of our lives if I kissed her.
So we had to go in. =) They welcomed us like long lost family from the old country, and were genuinely pleased to have people in love and just married in their company. It's one of those
unscripted moments from the day that I wouldn't change even if I could. Before we left the old man gave us the best marriage advice in his broken English "Make sure to remember all the love in this room at this moment, and take care to celebrate each day just like you are right now" He and his wife had been married 58 years, and if it works for them there must be some truth in it. =)
After leaving the Polish Club, it was time to head back to the reception, and we had Corey (the photog) join us in the back of the limo for some pics. We had such a blast, and we getting ready to get the party started on the way back to the reception:
We had a blast, despite some hiccups, but who wants to remember the bad?
<---As soon as
the guests walked
in they had their
escort cards to
And the monogrammed aisle runner to the left to sign ------->
DH and I decided that we would have our parents introduced in lieu of the BP (since we didn't have one) and then straightaway into the first dance - which neither of us really remembers, must have been all that champange in the limo:
Then toasts and dinner. His brother, my sister, and my best guy friend gave our toasts. Apparently one of them was extremely funny! ------------>
Right after dinner, more dancing, this time with our parents. When MIL got married to SFIL, DH and MIL had danced to Forever Young, and they danced again to it at our wedding.
My poppa bear and I have been dancing together for years! Since I was able to hold myself up on his shoetops, and dad happens to be a great dancer! So we went with something a little more upbeat, to show off our moves. We danced to "Sunshine of My Life" and had a standing ovation when we were done, and from what I hear, some tears from some of the guests too.
The Garter and Bouquet Toss
DH's stepsister went all out like a linebacker to catch the Bouquet. She's 14, should have seen her face when we told her that she couldn't sit right down after catching it, and there was more to come. She didn't know that someone would have to put the garter on her. Luckily her BF caught it, but only after.......
It all started like any normal garter removal. DH and I HATE when you go to a wedding and the garter removal ends up being LAME! I really love it when the couple has fun with it - so we stole the idea from a PW'er (I can't remember who, but if it's you let me know and I"ll credit you) and it when from this---------------------------->
I don't know how DH and I kept it a secret, but we had a box of goodies hiding under the chair, except, DH didn't know how many layers there were on the dress, so it took him a bit to get under there to the box.......
In the box, we had a baseball helmet, which he had already found in this picture, but silly DH, knocked the box over, and can't find it now! hehehe He's looking for cleats, a baseball mitt, and.........
<-------my favorite player's jersey! YAY!
After all the action was over it was time for some mingling/dancing with our guests:
<-----doing the Cupid Shuffle
<----my DH, by two Besties (he also DJ'ed) and me
All the girls!------>>>>
And after it was all said and done, DH and I hit the bar across the street for last call, and the last dance of the night, my sis caught this image on my camera, and I'm in love:
WHAT?!? You still want more? OK, how about some of those "out takes"? Ya know, the ones you love, but don't exactly want in the family album?
Thanks for lookin!
So we had DIY'ed an Aisle Runner, unfortunately I don't have a GREAT pic of it as an aisle runner, but we did use it for our guest book as well. In between the ceremony and the reception, I had FIL cut off the end of the runner and just use a staple gun to mount it to some 1/4" plywood. Then we had it set up as the reception for people to sign. I love it. It's at the custom frame shop and will be hopefully be hanging in the living room by the end of the week:
The cake was soooooo YUMMY!
I didn't notice til now that that sucker was leaning, and the stitching wasn't the best, butwhen it's that's good, who cares. ALL of it was gone! =)
So, after all the drama with my old photog, I had put an ad on Criagslist to find someone new. Corey responded with some great photo's from wedding's that he's assisted on. He's never shot a wedding solo, but we love that we can give someone a chance to build their portfolio. SO.....I always have loved when people use pics of them as their table numbers, and Corey agreed to meet us downtown to take some casual shots around Comerica Park that we'll use. Within 2 hours of leaving him, he had emailed me teasers. I"ll have the rest in about 2 days! YAY!
And Some more....
I knew I had to have programs, we have a responsive prayer in the ceremony, and short of having someone holding cue cards this was the way to go....I loved the look of layered programs, played around with some designs and this is what I came up with:
I had the hole punches at home, needed 1.3 sheets of the blue for each program, and 1 sheet of white cardstock. Total cost = $27 dollars/80. (If I did my math right) About 3 evenings of working on them.
So we're just having a low key BBQ in the FIL's backyard so I didn't need anything too dressy but this is what I came up with, and a steal at that I think!
$17.99 @ Kohl's $7.99 @ Fashion Bug $7.99 @ Kohl's
$7.99 @ Kohl's
Everything was on sale!!! I love those days!