Nov 14, 2009

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Word of Welcome

Good afternoon everyone, my name is Danielle and I have the privilege of performing this marriage ceremony today.On behalf of J, M and C, I want to welcome each of you and thank you for being here.They are delighted that you are here today to share in their joy during this wonderful moment in their lives. By your presence, you celebrate with them the love they have discovered in each other and you support their decision to commit themselves to one another for the rest of their lives.

As we begin today’s celebration I would like to ask the parents of the Bride and Groom to please stand.

T and P, S and C, Welcome!

As our sons and daughters find partners and find homes for the next generation, each family is enriched and enlarged. Do you, who have nurtured these two, give your blessing on their union and their family?

Address to the assembly

Today their relationship changes.  All of us know it will grow, and become stronger and better.

Indeed this day is a day of hope. A day in which J and M demonstrate their commitment, devotion, and mutual respect, as well as their faith and love in one another. You who are gathered here as witnesses are called to continue your support and encouragement as they unite in marriage. Address to the couple We all know marriage is more than two people repeating vows.  There is an art to any creative activity. So too in marriage.

Part of the art of marriage is finding room for the things of the spirit. So to you two I say, continue in your search for the good and the beautiful in this life.

Part of the art of marriage is being flexible. So in your marriage cultivate flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humour.

Part of the art of marriage is to comfort each other and strive to be each others best friend.

Most important, develop the capacity to forgive and heal your differences day by day.Always remember that your love will prevail. Love will be the miracle always inviting you to learn, to blossom, to expand your horizons.


We have a great body of work on the subject of love as poet after playwrite after writer has tried to express its complexity in words. We've heard that love is patient and kind, clarifying and another form of hope. What it's safe to say is that the experience of love is different for everyone, and we are fortunate when we find someone who’s understanding of loves language, matches, or at least compliments our own.

I’d now like to ask the sister of the Bride to come forward and share a reading with us…

On cold winter nights, love is warm.
It lies between you and lives and breathes
and makes funny noises.
Love wakes you up all hours of the night with its needs.
It needs to be fed so it will grow and stay healthy.

Love doesn't like being left alone for long.
But come home and love is always happy to see you.
It may break a few things accidentally in its passion for life,
but you can never be mad at love for long.

Is love good all the time? No! No! Love can be bad. Bad, love, bad! Very bad love.

Love makes messes.
Love leaves you little surprises here and there.
Love needs lots of cleaning up after.
Sometimes you just want to get love fixed.
Sometimes you want to roll up a piece of newspaper
and swat love on the nose,
not so much to cause pain,
just to let love know Don't you ever do that again!

Sometimes love just wants to go for a nice long walk.
Because love loves exercise.
It runs you around the block and leaves you panting.
It pulls you in several different directions at once,
or winds around and around you
until you're all wound up and can't move.

But love makes you meet people wherever you go.
People who have nothing in common but love
stop and talk to each other on the street.

Throw things away and love will bring them back,
again, and again, and again.
But most of all, love needs love, lots of it.
And in return, love loves you and never stops.

The expression of intent and consent

J, you have chosen M to be your wife. Will you love and respect her? Will you be honest with her always? Will you stand by her through whatever may come? (Answer: 'I will')

M, you have chosen J to be your husband.  Will you  love and respect him? Will you be honest with him always? Will you stand by him through whatever may come?  (Answer: 'I will')

And do you both promise to make the necessary adjustments in your personal lives in order that you may live in a harmonious relationship together?  (Answer: 'We do')

The Exchange of vows

J and M we now come to your vows. May I remind you that saying your vows is one thing, but nothing is more challenging than living them day by day. What you promise today must be renewed tomorrow, and each day that stretches out before you. Will you now please turn and face each other and hold hands.

J, please repeat after me: In the presence of  our family and friends - I J choose you M - to be my wife – knowing in my heart – that you will be my confidant – my faithful partner – my one true love – You are my best friend – and I will love and respect you always

Now M please repeat after me: In the presence of  our family and friends - I M choose you J - to be my husband – knowing in my heart – that you will be my confidant – my faithful partner – my one true love – You are my best friend – and I will love and respect you always

I Like You by Sandol Stoddard Warburg

I like you and I know why.

I like you because you are a good person to like.
I like you because when I tell you something special, you know it's special
And you remember it a long, long time.
You say, Remember when you told me something special
And both of us remember

When I think something is important
you think it's important too
We have good ideas
When I say something funny, you laugh
I think I'm funny and you think I'm funny too
I like you because you know where I'm ticklish
And you don't tickle me there except just a little tiny bit sometimes
But if you do, then I know where to tickle you too
You know how to be silly
That's why I like you
If you go away, then I go away too
or if I stay home, you send me a postcard
You don't just say Well see you around sometime, bye
I like you a lot because of that

And I like you because when I am feeling sad
You don't always cheer me up right away
Sometimes it is better to be sad
You want to think about things
It takes time

I like you because if I am mad at you
Then you are mad at me too
It's awful when the other person isn't

I like you because I don't know why but
Everything that happens is nicer with you
I can't remember when I didn't like you
It must have been lonesome then

Even if it was the 999th of July
Even if it was August
Even if it was way down at the bottom of January
Even if it was no place particular in November
I would go on choosing you
And you would go on choosing me
Over and over again
That's how it would happen every time

The giving and receiving of rings

To marry the person you have set your heart upon is a joy unparalleled in human life.  Jesse, may I have the rings please?

J please repeat after me:

M, I give you this ring - that you may wear it - as a sign of my commitment – to our love. I pledge you my love and respect - my laughter and my tears. With you I will walk my path – from this day forward

M, please repeat after me:
J, I give you this ring - that you may wear it - as a sign of my commitment – to our love. I pledge you my love and respect - my laughter and my tears. . With you I will walk my path – from this day forward

J and M, please repeat after me:

C, we give you this bear – that you may keep it – as a symbol of the family – we have made this day.  We promise as parents – to raise you in such a way - that you will always - feel loved, protected and secure.

From your new marriage relationship can come the nurture and strength you three need to face the world. Only from this moment on you will face the world together in a new way.  Today a new family is born and our world will be the better for its birth.  For this we all celebrate.

Blessing of the Marriage

Now may the love which has brought you together continue to grow and enrich your lives.

May you meet with courage any problems which arise to challenge you.  

May your marriage be one of ever-growing depth and meaning.

May you always respect the uniqueness of each other.

May your communication always be clear and honest and may your relationship always be one of love and trust.

May the happiness you share today be with you always and may every word you have pledged here be a living truth in your lives.

Declaration of Marriage

J and M, we have heard your promise to share your lives in marriage. We recognise and respect the covenant of marriage you have made here this day before each one of us as witnesses.

Therefore, in the honesty and sincerity of what you have said and done, it is my honour and delight to declare you henceforth to be husband and wife.

You may seal your vows with a kiss.

Signing of the Register

Introduction of the couple

It is my personal privilege and a great joy to be the first to introduce J and M as husband and wife.
Please greet them warmly.

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I think the best thing was that we had no preconceived notion of how the day would actually turn out--except that we'd be married at the end, so to us, everything was perfect.

Day before...

We were so late getting everything we needed together to set up the hall on the Friday.  I spend 45 minutes cutting the seating arrangement, table numbers, etc at the UPS store that my arm killed (I had to take muscle relaxers) for 4 days after!  The music rental company took forever getting DH the speakers, etc that we were about and hour and a half late to set up the recpetion hall.  When we finally got there, their service manager just said their staff would do it all for us.  So we left the flowers, kids bags, guest book, table numbers, cards, etc for them to do.  I had wanted to see it all set up myself, but it was just as lovely the next day.  So, off we went to set up the ceremony hall, and have a rehearsal.  You'd think with no bridal party that it would have been organized and quick...no.  My kid was running around with my sister's kids, my friend (who sang during the signing) had her kids too--it was a hilarious mad house.  But we got our 5 minutes to zip through the ceremony.  Then we had  a great little party/rehearsal dinner at our house.  Low key, great friends, food, no speeches are anything like that.

FI spent the night at our place with his brother and son, and I stayed with my parents.

Morning of...

It was supposed to be overcast and rainy, but we woke up to a gorgeous, bright mild November morning.  I was so happy!!

I actually got to have a little sleep in (til 8 or so).  It was a really relaxing morning--my mom had  mimosas, my dad picked up our flowers, and I had my hair done at 10:30.  She did the most amazing job ever.  I loved the trial, but this was a million times better (I'll have to post a pick of the back when I find a good one).  Then we had more time to relax afterwards until the photogs showed up at 2.  So I had some more mimosas, put on my makeup and then had some pics done. 

It's a bit strange having a camera in your face for so long, but I am so pleased with the pics he took!  He didn't have a ton of time, and I felt a bit rushed on the way to the ceremony, especially when we encountered traffic on the highway, but we made it just in time (and there were still a couple of guests arriving!).

I got a bit frazzled right before the ceremony, especially when I realized I didn't have the copy of the poem FI and I were reading, but our officiant had a copy, so we were good.  Right before we began, our son decided he wanted to walk with me, instead of my hubby, so in the same spirit of "going with the flow" off we went.


Apparently, according to FI our guests didn't even notice the music had started and he began walking up the aisle with the parents.  They kept smiling at him and chatting, all the while he was thinking..."hey, this is the wedding now..."  But they figured it out.  When we came in (that's me, my mom, my dad and my son) they opened the french doors into the hall, the sun was streaming in from all of the windows...it was gorgeous.  The four of us croweded up the aisle in a way only such a close family can...Fi looked amazing waiting at the front!

Our ceremony was totally us.  A little unorganized, chaotic, and super personal.  Our son tugged on my to leave pretty soon after we began, he stripped off his tie and jacket (ah, three year olds) and spent the rest of ceremony in just his pants and shirt.  Our officiant (who we'd only met once before) was wonderful.  I had put the ceremony together, but she added some things of her own that were perfect.  My sister did a reading (Falling in love is like owning a dog) and knowing her personality did an amazing job.  Our vows were simple, and we read a poem that was quite "us"--it was really nice to had our guests laugh when appropriate--espeically when Fi said he would "choo-choo-choose me" to be his wife (though I think we also brought many to tears).  The vows we said to our son were the real tear-jerkers though, and he was so excited to get his special bear that we made for him at Build-a-Bear.  My dear friend sang "The Luckiest" while we signed the register with our mom's and our son, and that, with the beautiful sun still streaming in, and our closest friends and family looking on...it was a wonderful feeling.  Obviously shortly after we were presented as husband and wife--which we already called each other (since our son was born) but it actually sounded different.  Luckily we don't feel different!

Here's another funny hitch...I was a bit shocked to come in and find some guests standing...but I chalked it up to their fault because there were empty seats!  Then, at the end of the ceremony, we were worried we wouldn't have enough light to take pictures, so I quickly thanked everyone, and wanted to let them know we wouldn't be doing a receiving line, but they could head over to the reception hall where the bar would be open and hors d'oeuvres would be served.  Well, was that ever the wrong thing to say, because they started leaving and didn't even wait for us to walk back down the aisle!!  It made me laugh--no point in getting upset.  So, halfway down the aisle, we were cracking jokes about it!


We lucked out with our photographers, they were great.  They had also recently shot a wedding at our venue and knew all of these great places to go.  So off DH, our son, myself, our photogs (and their trainee) zipped in golf carts to quickly do pics before the sun went down.  They'd told us though, that the pics would be okay, a bit more character in the graininess the darker it got.  To be honest, I don't mind those pics.  My dress was already filthy by this point, so we just had some fun.


A couple more hitches!  No, not at our wedding!  We had somehow miscounted the number of kids, so my cousin's son didn't have a goody bag.  So, off went our wedding coordinator to the dollar store to get him some stuff the other kids had (she was great!).  A long lost cousin, who was actually invited, but never RSVPed showed up, and with a date!!  Ha!  I cursed a little at that one, but it actually worked out.  One of my cousin's kids (2 of them) were sick, so there were two seats at their table.  Then one uncle and another cousin couldn't make it last minute, so there were two "plates" available...so more crisis averted.

The rest of the night was great!  The food was amazing!  We had great speeches--our MC, a close friend and Best Man kind of guy, was fantastic.  My dad sang, my mom cried.  My inlaws shared funny stories and a slide show of our lives.  People drank, ate, talked, laughed...we had song names on the backs of table numbers for people to sing to get us to kiss.  Some sang them, some made up their own songs--it was so much fun.  Our son was a bit clingy, but it was a busy day with a lot of attention.  The three of us danced our first dance, and he danced with my father and I as well, but again...you go with the flow. 

When the reception music got going (after DH spend hours mixing it himself on the computer) I don't think the kids left the dance floor.  Actually, I barely did either.  We shut the place down ourselves!

End of the night...

It was actlly nice to be one of the last people there--I got to enjoy every little last second of the day (plus I got to wear my dress for a long, long time!).  Dh and I went back to the hotel later, enjoyed a nice relaxing jacuzzi and again slept in.

We enjoyed breakfast in the hotel the next morning with some family and friends, then lunch with our parents.  So many people raved at how much fun they had and how "us" it was. 

I guess that, and the fact that I married my best friend and a wonderful man, just made it the best day ever.  You can't ask for more than that!

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First dance song {FI picked it:)}:

Magic in the Air by Badly Drawn Boy

We laughed so much then we cried all night
And you left your shoes in the tree with me
I'll wear them to your house tonight
Magic in the air tonight

Yes, I just might try her
How she made me feel
Today, today, today, feels right

We slept on leaves on my drive all night
And you gave me no resting
Nothing in this life for me tonight
But nothing ever seemed so bright

And if you should lose me
You will track me down again
Before the summer ends
Cause love is contagious, when it's alright
love is contagious
love is contagious, when it's alright
love is contagious

Father+Daughter/Mother+Son Dance:

Norah Jones-Nightingale

Sing us a song
Of a love that once belonged
Tell me your tale
Was your journey far too long?

Does it seem like I'm looking for an answer
To a question I can't ask
I don't know which way the feather falls
Or if I should blow it to the left

All the voices that are spinnin' around me
Trying to tell me what to say
Can I fly right behind you
And you can take me away

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Passed Hors D’oeuvres:

Mini Grilled Cheese with Ancho-chili Ketchup

Chicken Satay with Lemon Dill Sauce

Tempura Shrimp with Sweet Thai Dip



Butternut Squash & Spy Apple Soup

Mixed Baby Greens with Cucumber Ribbons, Dried Cranberries with Maple-Shallot Vinaigrette


Assorted Artisan Baskets and Butter



Chicken Breast with Maple Balsamic Reduction served alongside Sirloin Roast Beef au jus with Roasted Garlic potatoes and Fresh Julienne Vegetables



Mini Tiers as each table with a selection of miniature French desserts including Berry Brulée Pastries,

Chocolate Truffle Cake, Raspberry Mocha Cake, and Lemon Mousse Cake


Fresh Coffee and Tea


Late Night Buffet:

Chef’s Selection of Homemade Pizzas

Crudité Platter with Fresh Vegetables

Wedding Cupcakes