Jun 27, 2010
Well, it seems that the ex husband (abusive to me and my daughters for years physically and mentally) has decided to take me back to court to try and get access to my youngest daughter. I currently have a order that states that access is at my discretion and of course, given the past I have said that he is to have NO acces to my daughter.
This means that we don't have the money for a ring and even if we skipped the whole "engaged" part we still don't have the money for a honeymoon, ceremony or a reception. Damned if I am going to get married in a little sucky office by a JP I would rather wait, ya know?
So for now, we are no longer getting married until further notice. I am hurt about it - not only because I wanted it so badly but because yet again, the ex is controlling things from afar.
I want to thank everyone for the amazing support and advice here and I hope that you will have a wonderful wedding day!
Called the local party rentals place and for a tent, the dinnerware, tables, chairs, linens etc. it is going to cost around $800.00 for 18 people.
Add on top of that food, flowers, decor, favours, wine, beer... it makes me kind of wonder just how important having a reception really is to me.
I found the paper that I want to use for my envelope liners and I couldn't be happier. I had been poking around in different stores for awhile now trying to find this colour combination just so because I liked the colours but hadn't been able to find it in the right combinations let alone all the colours in the right combination all in the same pack. I scooped it up at Wal Mart for $10.00 for a 100 paper pack.
Because we are getting married on one date and then having a reception about a month later, I get to choose 2 different colour palettes if I want to. For the reception, invitations etc I am going with a pink, lime green and brown colour combination with the pink as my main colour. The pink will likely be in varying shades from the brighter to light but NO dusty rose colours. Bleh.
My colour inspirations:
I considered lavender/purple and green with the brown but if I am honest with myself, I am a girlie girl and I adore pink!
I think that of all the cakes that I have looked at, this one is my favorite :)
My mom took a look at it and said that she could make it, no problem (I love you mommy!). I want it to be 2 tiers instead of three because our wedding reception isn't going to be more than 25-30 people. I have no idea what kind of flowers those are
though - if they are icing or real but hopefully I can find out.
We are thinking about having a sand ceremony (which FH thinks is a little tacky but the girls and I love it so we overruled him 3 to1) and involving our daughters in it.
Basically we are thinking about having it work something like this:
- We will have two colours of sand - one for me and the girls (my children from a previous marriage) and one for him
- The girls and I will have 3 small containers of the sand that we will merge together into one larger container - the wording will be something to the effect of "First there was Sherri (I pour a little sand in) and then she had DD1 (she pours some in) and then came DD2 (she pours some in) and together, they were a family (we all pour it in together.
- Then FH and I will do our portion of the ceremony with me using the merged sand to put into our jar. "Then Shane came (he pours some sand in) and he met Sherri (I pour some sand in) and together with their daughters, decided to create a family (we both pour the sand in together)"
There will likely be some other wording along with that to make it a little more special at the end when we are merging the sand but that's the general idea.
Update - I am really starting to wonder if I want to do the whole sand ceremony thing. It's so common for people to do it, even when they add their own twists to it. I dunno - maybe I will go ahead but maybe not. Hmmm.