May 08, 2007
*So many details went "wrong". The groom's Grandma missed her flight and didn't make it. The bouquets weren't what I wanted. My hair kept falling down. My brother (a gm) brought brown shoes to go with his black suit (his black shoes were dirty), and forgot socks. (He ended up using an extra pair of DH's shoes and socks.) A few candles that I wanted put on top of the fireplace didn't get put out. We burned the wrong version of a song onto our CDs and didn't realize it till we'd burned 15 disks. (No one knows it's not the version we wanted.) The MoH changed her mind and backed out two months before the wedding. I NEVER saw the fitted skirts and blouses on ANY of the bms until the day of the wedding. The DJ played the wrong last song. We never found a limo or classic car to drive us to our room for the night. And it was STILL the best day of my LIFE! I don't know if it's a good thing, but we focus on all these details, and I don't remember even looking at any of the details for more than 30 seconds. They were BEAUTIFUL, everyone said it was the most personalized wedding they'd ever been to, and it was a great, great time. My DH and I put a lot of effort (together and separately) into making our wedding very personal, and in the end, we loved it all.
With all of the “personal touches” that my DH and I had put into the wedding, I wanted to give him a gift with the personal touch as well. So in my free time (yes, I actually found some), I put together a photo/memory album on Photoshop, including our first emails to one another, pictures of our vacations together, memories of his proposal, and anything else I could find that reminded me of “us”. I designed and printed it at home, then had it bound at Kinko’s. After I gave it to him, we actually used it as our guest book as well. The gift my DH gave to me was also of the personal touch. A while back, he had a caricature of us in wedding garb drawn while we were at the Santa Monica Promenade (we used the picture on the front of our Save the Date postcards). Then, he found someone to build statues of the caricatures. They looked great, and they stood next to our cake the entire night of the wedding. Now, we have a mini-him and a mini-me standing on our mantelpiece at home. We both gave gifts that we loved, that we knew the other person would love, and that we could jointly enjoy for eons to come. Just another sign of creativity at work, I guess.
Thank you Flower Mart, Big-Lots, Michaels and Wal-Mart Flower buckets for tables -- I accidentally bought twice as many roses as we needed the Friday morning before the rehearsal. (It was 6 am at the flowermart.) I thought I was buying in bunches of ONE dozen, but they were TWO dozen -- I thought they were just being overpriced for Mother's day. I bought 12 dozen bluebird roses for $90. I'd picked up 2 buckets downtown for 99cents, and liked them... I went back to get more a few months later, and they were out of them. I ended up getting different buckets from Michaels the week before the wedding. *ANYTHING LAST MINUTE MAY STRESS YOU OUT* I did these with my Mom the day before the wedding. I was fine, but we did have some minor disagreements. Of course, any minor disagreements the day before your wedding are hard to deal with. Candles in hurricane vases: got hurricanes for $3.95 from WalMart, apparently they don't sell them anymore at the one in Duarte in the large size, but they do sell them at Moskatels downtown. I got several different candles from all over, but ended up using ones from Big Lots and an online store http://www.romanticflowers.com/. The online store was having a sale, and honestly, I overbought $70 worth of candles, and ended up using 3 of them ($18). Might as well stick to Big Lots or Ikea, or Michaels. I put the hurricanes on a plate from Big Lots (99 cents each -- they also had clear glass plates just for candles) and I put moss (from Jo-Ann's) around the hurricane and my mom and I added fake flowers and dried lavender. Favors/Decoration: 1. bundles of dried lavender -- I bought 5 bunches of dried lavender from the Studio City Farmers Market on Sunday, $3 a bunch. I had PLENTY to make 100 small bunches of lavender for each person's table setting, tied with a purple gingham ribbon. GO ahead and make sure you have PLENTY of ribbon. It was a pain (especially after Easter) to go back and track down matching ribbon. Look at the measurement of how long the ribbon is. This took me two nights. All the dried lavender that fell off (it's delicate, it will fall apart) I picked up and put in cups. --very aromatic 2. CDs - I made the covers on Photoshop, used part of our vows on the cover. Printed it up on nice recycled cardstock. DH cut the covers at work using a paper cutter. I picked up 50 empty cd covers at Best Buy for $15. We waited for a rebate to get 100 blank cds for $5! Watch the Sunday ads! Then we burned them at home on our computer. Finding the exact songs we wanted was a pain. I hate i-tunes and all those download programs. It was easier taking them from CDs I already had. DH and I put them together while we watched movies. But they turned out wonderful, and everyone said it was a great favor that they would actually keep, use, and enjoy. 3. votive candles - glued a bit of purple gingham ribbon around the top of 100 ikea votives I got from a previous bride for $10. (Thanks grumpygirl!) Once again, make sure you have plenty of ribbon, glue sticks and a glue gun, and stick on a movie you've seen a million times. Easy! 4. Programs - Easy. Figure out what you want in the program -- while I was making these, we had a switch in the bridal party, so you can't do these TOO far in advance. Design a cover picture if you want, (I used photoshop) and insert that image into word, and then arrange everything else in word. BEFORE YOU PRINT 100 copies -- make sure it's centered just like you want it and proofread it 3 or 4 times. Collate & fold them, punch two holes along the fold, and tie a ribbon through the holes. *make sure you have plenty of ribbon - I was consistently rebuying* Michaels was selling ribbon for 25 cents a spool. BOWS use up a LOT of ribbon. I didn't tie a bow, just a double knot and left loose ribbon ends. Still pretty. 5. Candy -- I'm a huge M&M freak since the age of 2, so I wanted M&Ms in our colors -- green and purple. I got the Easter M&Ms on sale for 99cents post-Easter, separated the colors and had a few lbs of green, purple, pink, blue and yellow M&Ms. We still have pink blue and yellow in Tupperware containers at home. (I filled some of the extra votives with the M&Ms and put 2 at each table). Pre-measure to make sure you have enough M&Ms. 6. Aisle runner "rocks" I had seen this idea on the knot "real weddings". Line the aisle with rocks painted with words, like "Love" "Commitment" "Kiss". I ended up doing this as a game at my bridal shower, and we got 90 of them done there. (Did the last 10 at home with DH.) We got the rocks from a local dam where there are MILLIONS of them. (I think you can also buy them from a Home Depot, but I didn't like the ones they had.) Invites - Can't imagine spending hundreds of $ on paper that people will throw away. DH bought a ream of cardstock/heavy paper that we liked from Staples – recycled off white with specks of color throughout. I designed these at half a sheet of paper size, printed at home, and DH cut them at work using the paper cutter. (Print extra -- we invited more people and some people lost invites.) Envelopes - we couldn't find ones that were the right size and color, so we went to Hallmark and bought their extras for 5cents per envelope. Ask at the counter. They were all off-white, and may not have matched each other exactly, but who's going to compare invite ENVELOPES? Maps - Thanks CHEY for your help! She gave me some tips -- I got the basic map from www.mapsonus.com. You hit print screen or right click to save the image and I copied it into photoshop and erased all the minor roads, darkened & thickened the roads I wanted more prominent, and added pictures and the address of the ranch. *I used the pic of the "tree of life" on the invites, and also carried that into the program covers and the cd covers.* I got the picture off of a mug for sale on one of my favorite online catalogs. (Don't remember which one.)