Jul 10, 2010
The palette I want to use consists of cool colors (as in not warm, for clarity)- purples, blues, greens, and white. In that light here are some flowers I am considering.
Hyacinth- gorgeous flower, chaotic shape (which I like), and fantastic scent!
Peony- I love peonies, and they're in season in July
Ranunculus: I love the look of these flowers, and while I would not place them WITH peonies in the same arrangement, they would compliment them well in the overall decor:
Peruvian lilies: I love how spicy they look! I also like the resemblance to orchids in flower shape, if not in arrangement of the flowers along the stem.
Orchids: Love love love! Pricey, but I'm willing to use them sparingly.
For greenery, I am thinking of using an herb, like rosemary or lavender.
You might recall the gorgeous venue I posted several weeks ago:
Well, I spoke with the site manager for the park, and it was bad news all-around. I was expecting the site to be pricey, and it is, especially for our budget. But the REAL deal-breaker is the site is very controlling. They cater it, and we pick from their menu. Their open bar is terrible (as serious beer afficionados in particular, we would be embarrassed to serve what they are offering). They want to handle all the decorations (they offer a "pillar candle centerpiece" ugh), and they even want to make the cake! We can't get elements that are important to us like a champagne toast without upgrading the whole package.
So little control over our wedding, especially as we aren't very "wedding-y" people and need to make the event our own, is a complete deal-breaker. So I've been at a loss for a few weeks trying to find a new site that was less restrictive and still met our criteria. That meant going outside our hometown into the greater Indianapolis area. I was also starting to have misgivings about a plastic tent with no AC retreat during July- both for the sake of my aging grandmother and our food! I had totally fallen in love with this site and nothing seemed to compare. And everyone we mentioned it to was really displeased with not having it on a Saturday, which we were counting on for budget reasons.
Then last weekend we had dinner with my FILs. My FMIL has been really sensitive about stepping on my toes- she's made it clear she really wants to help, but she's afraid of seeming pushy or overbearing. She's really very sweet! Early on my parents had proposed having it in their backyard, but frankly, it's not possible there. The slope of the yard is too great to put tables on, and the yard is adjacent to five other backyards. Not what anyone had in mind.
So my fiance's parents said, why not do it at our house?
My FMIL is VERY into gardening and decorating. She has a gorgeous house and yard, and I'm sure with this kind of event to plan for, she'd really outdo herself. They also have more space, and MUCH more privacy. And because it's a private property owned by them, we could do whatever we wanted! Even fireworks, which were pretty much a no-go in Indiana anywhere else (not allowed to fire them on public property without a permit we would be unlikely to recieve). There would be no hour restrictions on how long we could stay, or when we could start setting up. I also love the wooded area behind their house (beyond the yard) and think it could make for some really interesting pics. And we can store the cake etc. in the house, as well as giving people a place to retreat if the heat becomes too much.
The real sweetener though is they said if we hold it at their house, they'll pick up the tab for the tables, chairs, tent, and other rentals, as well as a valet service for the cars! It was a really generous and unexpected offer!
My fiance and I talked about it, and we decided that if my parents are fine with the idea, this is what we'll do. I'm so happy with the way everything has worked out!
And returning to Coxhall for a moment...
Given the reception venue change, I don't want to have the ceremony at the same site. The really visually appealing part of Coxhall is the ceremony site, and it's MUCH more reasonable to rent out:
So this is where we'll have the ceremony, and then caravan over to the house. :D It truly is the best of both worlds.
Having both mothers' names on there is very important to me. I will be addressing all my invitations in the same manner, because it is so important to me. So this is what I came up with for the invitation wording. The date is approximate. Both sets of parents are contributing substantially to the wedding and thus are co-hosting:
Dr. Fredrick and Mrs. Martha S-
Dr. Michael and Mrs. Katherine G-
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their children
on Saturday, the tenth of July, twenty ten
at four o'clock in the afternoon
Coxhall Gardens Ampitheatre
Formal celebration to follow.
My proposal wasn't a big planned-out event. My fiance had been wracking his brain for literally four months after buying the ring trying to figure out how to propose to me. He is not a very romantic guy- he really doesn't get how to "be" romantic, to an extent that is kind of cute to me- so he was having a hard time. There were a few moments when I was sure he was going to pop the question, only to have them fade away in disappointment. Meanwhile, as more and more time passed since he told me he was going to propose, I became more doubtful. Maybe he changed his mind and didn't want to tell me, maybe a lot of things. He knew I would be a lot more comfortable living together if we were formally engaged, so there was an issue for me there too.
So one night when we were laying in bed waiting to fall asleep, I brought the subject up. He cuts me off almost immediately and says, "You know what? Just wait here a second." He goes and gets the box with the ring in it out of box on his dresser, sits back down on the bed, pops it open and says, with the cutest bashful smile you ever saw, "This isn't exactly the best moment, but will you marry me?"
I think I started crying and said yes or otherwise affirmed my answer...it's a little hazy. It was late and I was so happy, excited, and relieved! We stayed up for hours afterwards, talking and hugging and just being close to each other. It's not what the wedding industry peddles to wannabe brides, but it was absolutely perfect for us. :)
I mentioned some time after the proposal that I had seriously considered proposing to HIM on more than one occasion, but hesitated because I didn't want to take that moment away from him. His response? "I wouldn't have minded at all." Serves me right I guess!
I am obsessed with Rumi. Particularly this poem: