Jul 10, 2010

  • Last updated on July 13, 2009 at 8:39 am
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The palette I want to use consists of cool colors (as in not warm, for clarity)- purples, blues, greens, and white.  In that light here are some flowers I am considering.

Hyacinth- gorgeous flower, chaotic shape (which I like), and fantastic scent!



Peony- I love peonies, and they're in season in July


Ranunculus: I love the look of these flowers, and while I would not place them WITH peonies in the same arrangement, they would compliment them well in the overall decor:


 Peruvian lilies: I love how spicy they look!  I also like the resemblance to orchids in flower shape, if not in arrangement of the flowers along the stem.

peruvian lily

Orchids: Love love love! Pricey, but I'm willing to use them sparingly.

vanda orchid

Mokara Orchid

Phalaenopsis Orchid

For greenery, I am thinking of using an herb, like rosemary or lavender.


  • Last updated on July 13, 2009 at 3:59 am
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You might recall the gorgeous venue I posted several weeks ago:

Venue Update for Ceremony and Reception photo 1

Well, I spoke with the site manager for the park, and it was bad news all-around.  I was expecting the site to be pricey, and it is, especially for our budget.  But the REAL deal-breaker is the site is very controlling.  They cater it, and we pick from their menu.  Their open bar is terrible (as serious beer afficionados in particular, we would be embarrassed to serve what they are offering).  They want to handle all the decorations (they offer a "pillar candle centerpiece" ugh), and they even want to make the cake!  We can't get elements that are important to us like a champagne toast without upgrading the whole package.

So little control over our wedding, especially as we aren't very "wedding-y" people and need to make the event our own, is a complete deal-breaker.  So I've been at a loss for a few weeks trying to find a new site that was less restrictive and still met our criteria.  That meant going outside our hometown into the greater Indianapolis area.  I was also starting to have misgivings about a plastic tent with no AC retreat during July- both for the sake of my aging grandmother and our food!  I had totally fallen in love with this site and nothing seemed to compare.  And everyone we mentioned it to was really displeased with not having it on a Saturday, which we were counting on for budget reasons.

Then last weekend we had dinner with my FILs.  My FMIL has been really sensitive about stepping on my toes- she's made it clear she really wants to help, but she's afraid of seeming pushy or overbearing.  She's really very sweet!  Early on my parents had proposed having it in their backyard, but frankly, it's not possible there.  The slope of the yard is too great to put tables on, and the yard is adjacent to five other backyards.  Not what anyone had in mind. 

So my fiance's parents said, why not do it at our house? 

My FMIL is VERY into gardening and decorating.  She has a gorgeous house and yard, and I'm sure with this kind of event to plan for, she'd really outdo herself.  They also have more space, and MUCH more privacy.  And because it's a private property owned by them, we could do whatever we wanted!  Even fireworks, which were pretty much a no-go in Indiana anywhere else (not allowed to fire them on public property without a permit we would be unlikely to recieve).  There would be no hour restrictions on how long we could stay, or when we could start setting up.  I also love the wooded area behind their house (beyond the yard) and think it could make for some really interesting pics.  And we can store the cake etc. in the house, as well as giving people a place to retreat if the heat becomes too much.

The real sweetener though is they said if we hold it at their house, they'll pick up the tab for the tables, chairs, tent, and other rentals, as well as a valet service for the cars!  It was a really generous and unexpected offer!

My fiance and I talked about it, and we decided that if my parents are fine with the idea, this is what we'll do.  I'm so happy with the way everything has worked out!

And returning to Coxhall for a moment...

Given the reception venue change, I don't want to have the ceremony at the same site.  The really visually appealing part of Coxhall is the ceremony site, and it's MUCH more reasonable to rent out:

Venue Update for Ceremony and Reception photo 2

So this is where we'll have the ceremony, and then caravan over to the house. :D  It truly is the best of both worlds.

  • Last updated on July 13, 2009 at 3:38 am
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Having both mothers' names on there is very important to me. I will be addressing all my invitations in the same manner, because it is so important to me. So this is what I came up with for the invitation wording. The date is approximate.  Both sets of parents are contributing substantially to the wedding and thus are co-hosting:

Dr. Fredrick and Mrs. Martha S-

along with

Dr. Michael and Mrs. Katherine G-

request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of their children




on Saturday, the tenth of July, twenty ten

 at four o'clock in the afternoon

Coxhall Gardens Ampitheatre

Carmel, Indiana.

Formal celebration to follow.

  • Last updated on June 3, 2009 at 7:23 am
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My proposal wasn't a big planned-out event.  My fiance had been wracking his brain for literally four months after buying the ring trying to figure out how to propose to me.  He is not a very romantic guy- he really doesn't get how to "be" romantic, to an extent that is kind of cute to me- so he was having a hard time.  There were a few moments when I was sure he was going to pop the question, only to have them fade away in disappointment. Meanwhile, as more and more time passed since he told me he was going to propose, I became more doubtful.  Maybe he changed his mind and didn't want to tell me, maybe a lot of things.  He knew I would be a lot more comfortable living together if we were formally engaged, so there was an issue for me there too. 

So one night when we were laying in bed waiting to fall asleep, I brought the subject up.  He cuts me off almost immediately and says, "You know what?  Just wait here a second."  He goes and gets the box with the ring in it out of box on his dresser, sits back down on the bed, pops it open and says, with the cutest bashful smile you ever saw, "This isn't exactly the best moment, but will you marry me?"

I think I started crying and said yes or otherwise affirmed my's a little hazy.  It was late and I was so happy, excited, and relieved!  We stayed up for hours afterwards, talking and hugging and just being close to each other.  It's not what the wedding industry peddles to wannabe brides, but it was absolutely perfect for us. :)

I mentioned some time after the proposal that I had seriously considered proposing to HIM on more than one occasion, but hesitated because I didn't want to take that moment away from him.  His response?  "I wouldn't have minded at all."  Serves me right I guess!

  • Last updated on May 30, 2009 at 11:15 am
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I am obsessed with Rumi.  Particularly this poem:

When I am with you, we stay up all night.
When you're not here, I can't go to sleep.

Praise God for these two insomnias!
And the difference between them.

The minute I heard my first love story
I started looking for you, not knowing
how blind that was.

Lovers don't finally meet somewhere.
They're in each other all along.

We are the mirror as well as the face in it.
We are tasting the taste this minute
of eternity. We are pain
and what cures pain, both. We are
the sweet cold water and the jar that pours.

I want to hold you close like a lute, so we can cry out with loving.

You would rather throw stones at a mirror?
I am your mirror, and here are the stones.


And this one:

I swear, since seeing your face
the whole world is fraud and fantasy
The garden is bewildered as to what is leaf
or blossom.  The distracted birds
can't distinguish the birdseed from the snare.

A house of love with no limits,
a presence more beautiful than Venus or the moon,
a beauty whose image fills the mirror of the heart.       



  • Last updated on May 30, 2009 at 10:54 am
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Coxhall Gardens

Possible Venue photo 1

Pictures!  Still don't know if this place is in our budget/requirements...going to find out soon.  But it's really lovely!  The main problem is that- like most places in our hometown- it is run by Ritz Charles.  Every school event we went to growing up was hosted by Ritz Charles- their food is bad, their service is mediocre- it will be a deal breaker if we can't contract with outside vendors.  I really hope that isn't the case for their outdoor venues- or if they are willing to negotiate terms for, say, a weeknight wedding. :)

This is where I would walk in.  It's a long path that descends down into an ampitheater where the ceremony would take place.  Most likely in this situation, the guests would actually line the path while we walk in and then follow us into the ampitheater.  My fiance would probably wait at the small dome in the back.

Possible Venue photo 2

Here is the dome/fountain where we would stand to be wed:

Possible Venue photo 3

And the area for the guests to sit, facing the dome.  I would probably get outdoor cushions for the built-in benches.  (The statues at the back are of the park founder and his wife- the park was built in her memory, which makes it kind of extra-romantic):

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Here is the permanent tent where the reception would take place.  There are some cool lanterns inside and plenty of room for tables for 100.  All the plastic rolls up in good weather, and there is a part off to the side that can serve as an alternative ceremony site in case of rain:

Possible Venue photo 5

Here is the view of the lake from the tent:

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Nearby there is a kid's playground area, but instead of a traditional playground it is a small mock-town and butterfly garden.  I think it could make for some AMAZING pics!

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