Jul 31, 2010
As some PWers know I've mostly decided to trust my venue on the flowers. Most of all, I do NOT want to spend a lot of money on them. I've pretty much given them these parameters: They should be in season and local, they should either incorporate or coordinate with our colours (blue-toned purples, cream, yellows, greens) and they should more closely resemble wildflower bouquets than anything fancy and formal -- if there are herbs or berries of some kind I would love it. If possible, there should be some hydrangea in there as they are my favourite flowers.
Here are some of my bouquet inspiration pictures:
The groomsmen, my father and DF's mother's boyfriend (yikes, what a mouthful!) will have bouts with a leaf, a small flower and fragrant herbs, either rosemary, lavender or mint. My fiance's will be larger with lavender and smaller additional flowers. The mothers and grandmothers will have a cream flower pink with lavender and the bridesmaids will have smaller versions of my bouquet. The bouquets should all be wrapped in lace.
OPENING WORDS/WELCOME/COMMUNITY AFFIRMATION
Love has gathered us here today to support A and J as they make public a private commitment they have already made to each other. As family and friends you have shown them the blessings and joy that come from loving one another. They welcome you and would like to thank you all for the gifts of your love and support throughout the years. A and J have asked all of you to be with them today because each of you has given something of yourself to them. Will all of you, who have supported them in friendship and in love, now bestow your blessing upon them as they marry? If so, please show them your support by saying "we will".
DEFINITION OF MARRIAGE
Marriage is the joining of much more than two individuals. It is the physical and emotional union of two people: two personalities, two families, two histories, two sets of dreams and aspirations. You are individuals. You each have a unique past and unique life-shaping experiences. You have willingly chosen to set aside your current paths to embark on a new one together.
Even though you are different and separate, you have chosen to become one. Marriage is a transformation that continues throughout its life. Because you are individuals, yet two parts of one whole, you will continue to change and grow in remarkable ways in the years to come. A marriage that lasts is one which is continually developing and in which each person is individually developing while growing in understanding of the other. Deep knowledge is not something that can be achieved in a short amount of time, and the real understanding of the other's feelings can fully develop only with years of intimacy and friendship. A successful marriage takes work, understanding and time. Most importantly, it takes a commitment from each of you to do whatever it takes to make your rel@tionship grow and thrive, not simply survive.
A and J have chosen to symbolize their love in a loving cup ceremony. The wine, both sweet and bitter, symbolizes not only happiness, joy, hope, peace and love but also disappointment, grief, sorrow and life's trials and tribulations. Together the sweet and the bitter represent love's journey and the experiences that are a natural part of it. As you drink from the cup, you undertake to share all that the future may bring. Before we drink from the cup we wish to acknowledge that the cup is not yet full. We spill out drops of wine in hope that someday all unions will be fully recognized and that all couples will be able to share in the rights, benefits and responsibilities of marriage.
(Officiant hands the cup to J. J drinks, then hands the cup to A. A drinks.)
Drink to the love you've shared in the past. Drink to your love in the present. And drink to the love you will share in the future, for as long as you both shall live.
(A hands cup back to Officiant)
As you have shared from this cup, so may you share your lives. All of life's sweetnesses will be the sweeter because you drink it together. Whatever drops of bitterness it may contain will be less bitter because you share them.
STATEMENT OF INTENTIONS
What you promise today must be renewed tomorrow and each day of your lives together. With this in mind, A and J, I ask you both now in front of your family and friends, gathered here in witness and support:
Do you freely choose to unite in marriage? Will you be fatihful in mind, heart and hands? Trust one another and be worthy of that trust as you and your love evolve?
A & J: "We do."
Now we will hear a reading from Captain Corelli's Mandolin by Louis de Bernieres read by A's mother, N.
Love is a temporary madness; it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of eternal passion. That is just being in love, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Love is the roots that grow towards each other underground, slowly and determined. And when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, you find you are no longer two, but one. One root, One tree, One Love.
Before you are joined in marriage in the presence of your family and friends, I remind you of the solemn and binding nature of the rel@tionship into which you are about to enter. Your marriage will be a voluntary and full commitment to each other. It is made in the deepest sense, to the exclusion of all others. It is entered into freely and with joy, with the hope and intention that it will last for life.
And now A and J will pledge their vows.
A: J, I take you as my husband. I promise to respect you deeply; your interests, desires and needs. I promise to delight in the laughter, take seriously the important and imagine the profound. I promise to keep myself open to you, to live in truth with you and to communicate fully and fearlessly. I promise to grow with you, to face change with you, to overcome obstacles with you and to enjoy every moment with you. I promise to love and support you in good times and in bad, completely and forever. I give you this ring as a reminder that I love you, every single day of your life.
J: A, I take you as my wife. I promise to respect you deeply; your interests, desires and needs. I promise to delight in the laughter, take seriously the important and imagine the profound. I promise to keep myself open to you, to live in truth with you and to communicate fully and fearlessly. I promise to grow with you, to face change with you, to overcome obstacles with you and to enjoy every moment with you. I promise to love and support you in good times and in bad, completely and forever. I give you this ring as a reminder that I love you, every single day of your life.
It's not quite done yet as we need another reading for my father to do and we'd like to include a blessing at the very end. But here's the meat of it.
Suit by Calvin Klein. We scored a great deal at their outlet in Vegas.
This is my surprise for him. He thinks he's just getting plain black All-Star high tops but when I saw these I just knew I had to get them. He loves The Clash!
We're getting ties from toybreaker on Etsy, only in shades of purple but with the Iris design.
I have to admit... I'm rather in love with Blue Aster. I'd originally thought about having the groomsmen wear a different colour but I may have to get them all in the same shade.
He needs a new pair of glasses before the wedding but other than that, he's pretty well set.
We're planning on having cupcakes and a small cake for cutting. Here's our cake inspiration that our venue is going to try to do (except without the flowers):
I just love how the flowers on the side almost look like fabric roses. I'm hoping to have the cupcakes look similar. Flavors will be lemon cake with a marionberry jam filling and chocolate filled with hazelnut ganache.
And here's the cake topper that I really, really, really, really want. Don't know if I can justify the price but I may just have to splurge.
Source: redlightstudio on etsy.
Source: Unknown (please let me know if it's yours or you know where it's from so I can credit)
This is my hair inspiration. I wanted to make sure that my hair was both not obscuring the back of the dress but also being shown off (so, not pinned up). Soft, beach-worthy curls and a side-ponytail with no obvious part gives me the best of both worlds!
Here's a picture of the curls from my hair trial (obviously my ear won't be that red -- I accidentally moved and bumped into the curling iron).
My hair will be gathered from the right side and twisted, adding more hair as it goes across the back of the head, finally pinned in place with a silk magnolia comb.
I'll be doing my own makeup for the wedding. I'm using the months beforehand to pick out all of my products. So far, all I know is that I want something very natural -- flushed cheeks, a light pop of colour on the lids and glossy berry lips. Something like this: