Apr 10, 2010

  • Last updated on March 20, 2010 at 3:30 am
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and eat it too. So after a disastrous consult with a cake decorator at the Publix near our venue we decided to head over to the local Publix near my mom's house and talk to them. Let's just say they were awesome there were no questions as to whether or not they could do it and the girl was super helpful. Set up and delivery will cost us $40 but for the peace of mind i'm willing to part with the money. So without further ado...

They can have their cake photo 1

the pipiing will be navy blue and we'll have 3 tiers instead of two but you get the idea. I'm so excited and our flavor will be yellow cake with strawberries in the center.

  • Last updated on February 9, 2010 at 12:28 am
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I love my invites, they were totally DIY. Fellow PW bride Erindira desgined them for me then I printed them cut and pasted every single one. Thankfully, I only needed to make 50. It was a total emotional rollercoaster but I thrilled with how they turned out.

You are cordially invited photo 1 You are cordially invited photo 2

You are cordially invited photo 3 You are cordially invited photo 4all packed and ready to go....



  • Last updated on January 18, 2010 at 11:22 am
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(To Groom) Please repeat after me:

I love you.

You are my best friend

Today I give myself to you in marriage.  

I promise to encourage and inspire you, to laugh with you,

and to comfort you in times of sorrow and struggle.

I promise to love you in good times and inbad,

when life seems easy and when it seems hard,

when our love is simple, and when it is an effort.

I promise to cherish you, and to alwayshold you in highest regard.

These things I give to you today, and all the days of our life.

(To Bride) Please repeat after me:

I love you.

You are my best friend.

Today I give myself to you in marriage.

I promise to encourage and inspire you,to laugh with you,

and to comfort you in times of sorrow and struggle.

I promise to love you in good times and inbad,

when life seems easy and when it seems hard,

when our love is simple, and when it is an effort.

I promise to cherish you, and to always hold you in highest regard.

These things I give to you today, and all the days of our life.

Exchange of Rings:

Officiant: May I have the rings please?

Rings are an ancient symbol, blessed and simple. Round like the sun, round like the eye, and round like arms that embrace. May these rings symbolize that your love, like the sun, illuminates and warms the others heart, like the eye, you must see clearly even amid the adversity of life, and like arms that embrace as grace upon the world. May they also remind you that love given comes back around again and again.

_____, (Groom/Bride) take this ring and place it on _____(Bride/Groom) finger and repeat after me. I,_____, (Groom/Bride) take you, to be my wife/husband, in equal love, as a partner and companion, to have and to hold, to honor and to cherish, in joy and in sorrow, from this day forward. (Bride), please face (Groom), and hold his hands, palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you.

Hand Ceremony:

These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and vibrant with love,

that are holding yours on your wedding day,

as he promises to love you all the days of his life.

These are the hands that will work along side yours,

as together you build your future,

as you laugh and cry, as you share your innermost secrets and dreams.

These are the hands that look so large and strong, yet will be so gentle as he holds your child for the first time.

These are the hands that will work long hours for you and your new family.

These are that hands that will  love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness.

These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes: tears of sorrow and tears of joy.

These are the hands that will comfort you in illness, and hold you when fear or grief overwhelm you.

These are the hands, then when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, giving you the same

unspoken trust and support.

(Groom), please hold (Bride’s) hands, palms up, where you may see the gift that they are to you.

These are the hands of your best friend, smooth, young and carefree, that are holding yours on your wedding day,

as she promises to love you all the days of her life.

These are the hands that will hold each child in tender love,

soothing them through illness and hurt,

supporting and encouraging them along the way, and knowing when it is time to let go.

These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times

These are the hands that will comfort you when you are sick, or console you when you are grieving.

They are the hands that will love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness.

These are the hands that will give you support as she encourages you to chase down your dreams.

Together as a team, everything you wish for can be realized.

Bless these hands that you see before you this day. 

May they always be held by one another.

Give them the strength to hold on during the storms of stress and the dark of disillusionment.

Keep them tender and gentle as they nurture each other in their  love.

Help these hands to continue building a relationship founded in grace, rich in caring, and devoted to reaching for perfection.

May (Groom) and (Bride) see their four hands as healer, protector, shelter and guide.

Hand in hand you enter marriage, hand in hand you step out in faith..  Also remember that you don't walk this path alone. Don't be afraid to reach out to others when together you face difficulty. Other hands are there: friends, family, and God.. To accept an outreached hand is not an admission of failure, but an act of faith.

            Inasmuch as you have consented together in this ceremony to live in wedlock and have sealed your vows in the presence of this company and by the giving of these rings, it gives me great pleasure to pronounce that you are Husband and Wife.
Congratulations, you may kiss the bride!


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Who offers their blessing of the union of this woman to this man?

Dad: Her mother and I do.

Officiant: Thank you may now be seated

We have gathered here for the marriage of _____and_____. May they continue to grow together and to strengthen their love throughout their lives.



Marriage begins in the giving of words. You cannot join yourselves to one another without giving your word. This must be an unconditional giving, for in joining yourselves to one another, you join yourselves to the unknown. Marriage is one of the most important obligations that two people can commit to, in their lifetime. A successful marriage is dependent upon many factors, the first being a strong bond of friendship and respect. Your love for each other will grow with each passing day, yet it is your willingness to accept each other's strengths and weaknesses, with patience and understanding, that is the true foundation of a healthy marriage. When a man and a woman decide to join together in marriage, they should do so with a full realization of its responsibilities. It is a serious commitment. When they come together to make a public confession of their love and devotion, pronouncing vows and pledging their lives to each other, it is a threefold union. They are joined together legally, spiritually and physically. While marriage is a big commitment, it is also cause for a joyous celebration.  You are about to take a new step forward into life. It is my hope that your joy in your relationship as husband and wife increases with each passing day.

Intent Of Marriage

Will you,(Groom), take this woman to be your wedded wife?

Groom I will

Officiant: Will you,(Bride),take this man to be your wedded husband?

I will

A marriage is not only the joining together of two individuals, it is also a joining together of two families. The care, support, and nurture which have been extended to [Groom] and [Bride] by their families is as important now as it has ever been. In fact, it needs to be extended now to include another person. Both families need to be committed to support both partners in this marriage.

__________ , you are not losing a son but rather you are gaining a daughter. Do you promise to love and encourage [Bride] as you would your own? If so, answer,"We will."

__________ , you are not losing a daughter but rather you are gaining a son. Do you promise to love and encourage [Groom] as you would your own? If so, answer,"We will."


Heavenly Father, we call upon you in the midst of this celebration to be with this man and woman and walk with them during their days together as husband and wife. Grant that they both be filled with faith and trust. Give them grace to live with each other in peace and harmony. May they always bear one another's weakness and grow from each other's strength. Help them to forgive one another's failings and grant them patience, kindness, cheerfulness and the spirit of placing the well-being of one another ahead of one's self. Amen


Officiant: ___________ and _______________, your marriage will develop a true friendship between you, and that friendship must be strong to withstand the tests of time. Remember, love, like friendship, is a choice.When you are a true friend to someone, you choose to spend time with them; to share with them; to care for them when they are sick spiritually or physically; and to learn new things with them. You choose to change with them;to grow in truth with them; and to experience all that life has to offer, them. Through this process you will grow in the same direction, and that is the secret to having peace and happiness in your lives.Take responsibility for helping the other person feel safe, and give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness, and kindness that your relationship deserves. Never allow anything to be more important than the one you have pledged to spend your life with. Remember that the secret to a long and healthy marriage is not in choosing the righ partner; it is in BEING the right partner. Seek love and never take it for granted. Love is believing, sharing, caring and dreaming together.It is honesty, friendship, companionship, and selflessness.  Love is the desire and commitment to be intimate physically, psychologically, and emotionally. It is devotion, celebration, understanding, forgiveness and sacrifice. Love is strong, yet it can be fragile. Love is gentleness, kindness, and patience. It is trusting, protecting, inspiring, and supporting.

First Reading

The Art of Marriage

A good marriage must be created.

In the marriage, the little things are the big things.

It is never being too old to hold hands.

It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once each day,

It is never going to sleep angry.

It is having a mutual sense of values and objectives.

It is standing together and facing the world.

It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.

It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each person can grow.

It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is not only marrying the right person.

It is being the right partner.

  • Last updated on October 28, 2009 at 9:28 am
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Chris and I are paying for the wedding almost completely out of pocket. The only thing we need not worry about are our flowers and my dress which my mom is so graciously gifting me. We've figured out that we can afford $8000.00

Venue- $5,000.00-includes ceremony and reception site, food, drinks including alcohol, all of our tables, chairs, linens, barware, china, and glasses

Photography-$850.00 includes 8 hours with assistant photog, all of our picutres fully edited in black & white and color onto a disk, printing rights, and online viewing.

Flowers- My mom's best friend is a florist and has offered to do our flowers at cost in exchange for time worked so no money out of our pockets and my mom is picking up all the hours.

BM Gifts-$51.00-3 large Vera Bradley makeup bags(so far that's all I have)

Dress- gift from a very generous bridal salon owner giving away 100 free dresses to the bride's of our servicemen who've been deployed

more to come....


  • Last updated on October 19, 2009 at 3:30 am
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6-12 Months

  • Choose the kind of wedding you will have, date and time.
  • Discuss the budget, and who will pay for what.
  • Consider hiring a wedding coordinator. DIY bride here
  • Make arrangements with the officiator.
  • Reserve the wedding and reception locations. Club Continental Orange Park, FL 4/1/10 12:00
  • Select your wedding dress, veil and accessories.
  • Choose the bridesmaids, groomsmen, ushers, and honored roles.
  • Have a formal black/white photo sitting for announcements.DIY e-pics
  • Send announcements of your engagement to your fiancé's and your local and hometown newspapers.
  • Meet with the florist, photographer, caterer, videographer, and D.J. or entertainment to discuss budgets and options.
  • Discuss the guest list with fiancé and families.
  • Plan reception music.
  • Contact a rental coordinator for equipment reservations.
  • Discuss honeymoon and reservations. (Traditionally the groom makes all the honeymoon arrangements.)
  • Arrange for time off work, if necessary.

4-6 Months

  • Plan new living arrangements and home furnishings.
  • Select and register wedding gifts and patterns.
  • Select color scheme.
  • Order dress and accessories.
  • Order bridesmaids' dresses, shoes and accessories.
  • Contact men's formal wear specialist for men's attire.
  • Have parents select attire.
  • Order invitations, announcements, programs, napkins, matchbooks, and personal stationery.

2 Months

  • Choose and order wedding bands and engraving.
  • Order wedding and groom's cakes. 
  • Check state/county marriage license requirements.
  • Plan ceremony, reception, menus, master of ceremonies, music, and timetables.
  • Plan rehearsal dinner, and bridesmaids' luncheon.
  • Complete guest list
  • address invitations.
  • Make arrangements for lodging for out-of-town guests.
  • Purchase gifts for attendants and groom.
  • Plan reception seating, if necessary.

One Month

  • Confirm all arrangements and contracts.
  • Mail invitations so they will arrive three weeks before the wedding.
  • Pick up wedding rings.
  • Arrange for transportation to ceremony and from ceremony to reception.
  • Attend final fittings.
  • Have your hair and makeup done as you would like to have it on your wedding day. Schedule any tanning, manicures, etc.
  • Purchase guest book and keepsake album.
  • Contact your insurance agent about naming your fiancé as beneficiary on your life insurance, will, and auto policies, and buying homeowners' and floater insurances to protect wedding gifts.
  • Open joint checking and savings accounts.
  • Write thank you notes as gifts are received.

2 Weeks

  • Get marriage license.
  • Give caterer final guest count. Don't forget the wedding party, photographer and DJ!
  • Arrange to have your gown pressed and delivered.
  • Arrange to change your name on driver's license, social security card, credit cards, bank accounts, insurances, etc.
  • Make arrangements for moving into your new home.

1 Week

  • Pack for honeymoon.
  • Give bridesmaids' luncheon/party and give attendant gifts.
  • Confirm directions, housing, and timetables with attendants.
  • Brief head usher of any special seating arrangements.
  • Arrange for rental returns.
  • Prepare wedding day fees.

1 Day Before

  • Pack the "Going-to-church" bag, and an "emergency" bag.
  • Attend rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.
  • Find a quiet moment to give your fiancé his wedding gift.

The Wedding Day

  • Have a nice relaxed breakfast. You'll need it!
  • Have hair and make-up done.
  • Relax and let the planning take care of itself. Most of all, enjoy!