Jul 31, 2010

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This is practically making me hyperventilate. We've written the ceremony. It's HERE. It's HAPPENING.

Here we go:


Hello, I am Rod Still, and I will be officiating today.

We're about to start the ceremony: as we wait for the wedding party to enter, I'd like to invite you to join me in the mystical ritual of silencing your cell phones.


[Background music stops]

Make it So.


It has been said that when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them
and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness, and that is called true love.

We are gathered together here in the presence of  friends and family to celebrate the love which Becca and Randy have found, and to recognize their decision to commit their lives and accept each other completely, to learn how to help and understand each other, to build a family with Troy, and together, to travel through life, and together, to travel through life, either inside or outside of the asylum..

Marriage is at once a deeply personal commitment to another human being and a highly public celebration of the ideals of mutuality, companionship, intimacy, fidelity, and family. Because it fulfills the yearnings for security, safe haven, and connection that express our common humanity, marriage is an esteemed institution and the decision whether and whom to marry is among life’s momentous acts of self-definition.

If any of you has anything to say that might change their minds… they… don’t want to hear it. However, they do want to hear from you that you are their village, that you will always be their friends, and will always support and encourage them as they discover the commitment and dedication needed to make marriage work. And that is why you are here today.

As a tribute to Becca and Randy, Ken and Jeneane have prepared a special reading that epitomizes Randy and Becca’s relative insanity:

Jeneane/Ken reading (They can intro however they want:

“I Like You,” by Sandol Stoddard Warburg

I like you because because because
I forget why I like you but I do
So many reasons
On the 4th of July I like you because it's the 4th of July
On the fifth of July, I like you too
If you and I had some drums and some horns and some horses
If we had some hats and some flags and some fire engines
We could be a HOLIDAY
We could be a CELEBRATION
We could be a WHOLE PARADE
See what I mean?

Even if it was the 999th of July
Even if it was August
Even if it was way down at the bottom of November
Even if it was no place particular in January
I would go on choosing you
And you would go on choosing me
Over and over again
That's how it would happen every time
I don't know why
I guess I don't know why I really like you
Why do I like you
I guess I just like you
I guess I just like you because I like you.


Now, do you promise not to kill each other in your sleep? Yes? Okay, good, we can proceed with the vows.


Bastardized Ctrl-Alt-Del/Traditional/Spliced vows


This is the point in the ceremony when some officiants will try and justify an analogy about a ring having no beginning and no end because they’ve decided it sounds romantic. In truth we all know that rings do have a beginning. Millions of tons of rock are painstakingly excavated from the earth; precious metals are extracted and liquefied in a furnace at over a thousand degrees. Hot metal is poured into a mold, cooled and then painstakingly polished. Something beautiful is made from raw elements.

Love is like that. It's hot, dirty work. It comes from humble beginnings, made by imperfect beings. It's the process of making something beautiful where there was once nothing at all.

With that in mind, Troy, may I have the rings.

(Name), place the ring on (name’s) finger, and repeat after me:

Each repeats: With this ring / I thee wed / and pledge my life with yours.

ACTIVITY (Unity Candle)

Unity Candle – Becca, Randy, and Troy will now light a unity candle. The outside candles have been lit to represent your separate lives in this moment. They are three distinct lights, each capable of going their separate ways. By joining together the flames of your candles you are choosing each other. You are choosing to travel through life together, to heighten the joy and dull the pain for each other. Your choice will make each of you stronger as you will learn to see the world in new ways through each others’ eyes. As these three flames join to become one so do your lives forever intertwine.

Becca and Randy, I know you're eager to kiss and run away to live happily ever after... but before we’re done, I’d like to read to you about the Art of Marriage

In Marriage,
The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.

It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.

It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

May you never lie, steal, cheat or drink. But if you must lie, lie in each others’ arms. If you must steal, steal kisses. If you must cheat, cheat death. And if you must drink, drink in the moments that take your breath away.

So then, with these thoughts in mind, ladies and gentlemen, by the authority vested in me by the State of California, as a Commissioner of the Superior Court, it is my pleasure to pronounce you,

Husband and Wife


Ladies and gentlemen, may I please introduce our newest Geek family: Becca, Randy, and Troy


  • Last updated on February 11, 2010 at 2:00 am
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We are not particularly traditional in many ways (at all?), and it is only fitting that our ceremony fit us-traditional doesn't really suit us.

All of our ceremony music will be Disney, from prelude to recessional/postlude


Hunchback of Notre Dame instrumentals, like here and here, and more relatively obscure Disney instrumentals.


Walt Disney's Year of a Million Dreams - Welcome!

Unity Candle:

Wall-E,  "Define Dancing"


Phil Collins, "I'm on my Way"


"Gonna Take You There" and "Down in New Orleans"

The recessional and postlude are still tentative, but we're working on it!



Our first dance (FI suggested it, and it's amazing.)

"Because of You."

Of course, at some point in our reception, this song will be used: Mario Kart Love Song. I don't know where yet, but it just wouldn't be my wedding without it.

The bulk of our reception music will be swing and jazz, with contemporary and classic tunes rocking the house! We're talking The Andrews Sisters, Big Bad Voodoo Daddies, Cherry Poppin' Daddies, Etta James, and Brian Setzer spinning us into married adventures! It's going to be so much fun!

  • Last updated on February 8, 2010 at 8:51 pm
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We will be having many DIY projects involved in our wedding! (This is the "skeleton" list.)

  • -Flowers (We'll be using silk-we have too many allergies, and summer in Temecula can reach 120 degrees. I don't want them to wilt.)
  • -Invitations
  • -Favors (We will be giving away board game candy and CDs with the ceremony and reception music on them.)
  • -Seating frame
  • -Programs (a simple design with a vellum overlay) (This was just too much, on top of everything else. Plus, we want it to be a surprise!)
  • -Bubbles with bows on!
  • -CD Cases
  • -CDs
  • -Wish tree decorations
  • -Wish tree tags (Gotta love the Cricut! I adore mine!)

I am pleased that we will not have to DIY the groom's and groomsmen bouts-they will be wearing Farscape comm badges instead!

I spoke too soon! Bout design for the guys!

  • Last updated on February 8, 2010 at 8:35 pm
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Okay. My hair is going to be something very similar to this:

Hair and Makeup photo 1

Only I have really dark brown/black hair, and will have blue hair extensions in. I will try to get a picture of my hairpieces soon!

For makeup (I've booked Jessica and Kim from the Rylin Ashley salon in Temecula, and they are great! I've already had my first trial!):

Hair and Makeup photo 2    Hair and Makeup photo 3

This is the kind of look I'm going for: Something that pops the eyes and makes them unforgettable, with bold splashes of color.

  • Last updated on February 8, 2010 at 8:13 pm
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Save the Dates officially went out in December, although we did have a few hiccups!

We fell in love with the Brides' Magazine line at Michael's:

Save the Dates and Invitations photo 1

This is our style of Save the Date. I used the Disney Pirates of the Caribbean font in navy for the text instead of what you see.

We are also using the matching invitation set:

Save the Dates and Invitations photo 2

Since there isn't an inside envelope, because the mailing envelope is part of the presentation (which I really like), I will be writing the names of all invitees (what would normally go on the interior envelope) on a piece of white vellum stamped with a similar design, and tucking it over the side flaps when closed. This way, when the invitation is received, the person will lift the top flap, open the bottom flap, and see precisely who is invited before actually getting to the invitation, similar to an inside envelope.

  • Last updated on February 5, 2010 at 6:09 am
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I'm so excited, because everything is just falling into place.

My Accessories photo 1 These are my earrings. What a delicious something blue, right? They're absolutely beautiful, and look even better in person! They were purchased from an Etsy seller (Lara Lewis, found here), and she made a matching necklace that is just breathtaking!

My Accessories photo 2

These are my shoes. Have you ever noticed how sometimes the things you absolutely adore get discontinued directly after you discover their brilliance? Yep, that's what happened with these. I saw them, fell in love with them, and spent a month hunting for them. Got BLESS my (former) bridesmaid Cassie, who faithfully hunted online to make sure I had the perfect shoes for my wedding.

No pictures of the bouquet, or inspiration for it...I'll have to hunt those down!