Sep 12, 2009
Borrowed Photo of centerpiece.
We've always loved KristinKay's Rehearsal Dinner Invite and PW's own Alex (firstname.lastname@example.org) was able to reproduce it for us when KristinKay's Etsy Seller wasn't taking orders!!!! LOVE THIS!!!!
The Dinner will be at Darya Restaurant in Orange. It's a fabulous Persian Restaurant owned by the family of one Jessica's bridesmaids, Darya herself!!!
The centerpieces will be a cluster 3-5 wine bottles with Jess and Nicks Labels with Calalillies...
So, here are the pictures! Thanks to Darya and Sassan Vadat (the last photo). Darya owns Darya Restaurant in Orange where the Rehearsal Dinner took place. The food was FAB!!!
Darya and Sassan.
LIGHTINTHEBOX.COM...$159 can't beat that! The idea: In the waves at the beach Nick in his wetsuit with his board...really fun!!! Maybe even Nick in his bathing suit...we'll see
We "saw" and the LIGHTINTHEBOX.COM dress was HIDEOUS. So I purchased this dress from PW Bride Maritter and here it is on Jess
A bit big...like a size...but she'll get it altered! Perfect "swimming" dress for the ocean!!!! In fact, it's a very pretty dress that will soon be wrecked! Too Bad
JUST SOME TEASERS OF THE REAL THING
It was the summer of 2000 and I was 14 years old. I had just started High School and, man, did I think I was grown up! I was tall and thin but still a child never-the-less. I had just finished another 10 am dance class at Pace All-Stars Studio in Huntington Beach. I walked out of the gym, my hair in a pony tail, water bottle empty, when Nick walked through the door. He was just 18, newly graduated and thought it was the perfect day to fit stunting and tumbling practice in. He was extremely good looking and I thought that my mouh was going to fall on the floor. Of course, there was some sort of introduction that I don’t remember, but I know that I thought he was amazing. But to Nick I was just a little girl.
Over the next few years our paths crossed quite often and each time I saw him I ran up with my cutest little girl smile and said “Do you know who I am?” With no hesitation he would reply with a chuckle, “Of course I do. You’re Jessie Stones.” When he walked away I would turn to my little friends and announce “That is the guy I’m going to marry!” Well, needless to say I was consumed with the image of this “older man” with beautiful lips and this amazing face, and he, of course, had different things on his mind then a little girl with a childish crush and a mouth full of braces!
We saw each other here and there at competitions and between practices. Years went by and it turned into the summer of 2003. I was, of course, much older and arrived on the Orange Coast College campus where they were holding “senior days” and where Nick was on the Cheer team and attended school. I had just made the cut for the Orange Coast Dance Team and I was there to watch the previous team’s final performance. I was sitting with my cousin Lauren when I glanced over to the right. There he was again, Nick Davis, although then I couldn’t remember his name. We were both much older and both led very different lives. I definitely grew into my lanky body and my hair was much darker. He had some sort of different hair cut (as usual) but we still remembered one another. For a moment we glanced in each others direction, quickly and softly smiled and then disappeared in different directions.
It was April of 2004 when our paths crossed again. I was finishing at dance practice one afternoon, hair in a pony tail and water bottle empty, when he pulled up in the parking lot next to the field. He was there to meet up with some old cheer and dance teammates and meet some girl that he ended up not having any interest in at all, when our eyes met again. There was nothing really said but a quick “hi, how are you” from a distance but as I walked in the other direction I turned to a friend, as I did when I was a little girl and said “That’s the man I’m going to marry.”
A few months later I was surfing Myspace because it was extremely popular and was the cool thing to do, and I came across a friend’s page. I noticed a picture of a familiar face. I quickly clicked and realized it was him. I rushed to his e-mail but found myself sitting there trying to think of what to write. So I wrote what came naturally.
The e-mail read:
"Nick, Do you know who I am?"
Immediately he replied:
"Of course I do. You’re Jessie Stones! "
Through a series of e-mails there was a phone number exchange but my mother always told me “Girls don’t call boys” so for weeks I waited.
Finally on July 4th 2004 my phone rang.
The next day was our first date.
After almost a month of causal dates and getting to know one another I flew to New York for a 3 week dance camp. We were on the phone every moment we could be and until all hours of the night. Our relationship had began to blossom. 3 weeks went by and I stepped off the plane to Nick patiently waiting for me with a smile on his face. I knew then what I always knew. This was the man I was going to marry.
April 24, 2009
Well, the inevitable has finally happened. My daughter and I haven't been getting along. She's turned into a person that, quite frankly, I don't know. I've been less than excited to work on anything at all for the wedding. I have felt really unappreciated, but more than that, like I'm spending all of my days working on something for someone who is just plain mean.
I managed to order her cake topper, which she didn't really want...but what's new, she doesn't really want anything I suggest. I just do it and then she likes it. She's very young. I also ordered her garter.
I've not been very happy at all. I'm not having fun anymore. I don't want to work on anything else because it's not fun anymore. I have heard from so many of the gals on PW that they wish they had someone to help them like I've helped my daughter...well, I'm available!
May 5, 2009
The last week was interesting at best. We did complete a lot of DIY's and, in fact, have very few left.
- All of the trees have been wrapped in plastic and put away until the big day
- All of the Chair Signs (approx 40 for indoors and outdoors) have been done. We did them for all of the BM's and GM's
- All of the cards attached to the Bubbles are finished and attached
- All of the signs for the baskets for the programs, kippot, bubbles, bathroom basket and flip flop box have been done (still figuring how to attach them)
I just may make some labels for the flip flops, but I don't know...We need to paint the flip flop box, I need to assemble the BM's gift baskets and a few other niggly things.
I met with the florist this past week and got nailed down exactly what our needs are and have a final bid of $1400. That's a far cry from the original bid of $5,600!!! Thanks to PW and DIYing!
Now, on to my daughter. Sunday here was a fiasco and got me to questioning just why in heck I have given every waking moment to this wedding. I do it because I love this girl more than life itself...and I worry so much about the stress of planning this wedding on her. I believe that she feels better to be in control of the budget, time line, and getting everything paid off (informing us when things are about to come due and making sure that vendors are paid). Nevertheless, she seems to be overwhelmed to see how much this costing and it scares her. She can't even fathom the amounts that are being paid to vendors...
Daughter's fiance still hasn't sat down with his father to determine a couple things
- Just what exactly his last name is!!!!! No I'm not kidding. No one can determine whether or not paperwork was filed for his stepfather (a gorgeous cop/hunky/studmeister...and 43 yrs. old!!!) to adopt him. He's been using his last name on his Social, Passport and so on...but we don't think that it was legally done. So this is kinda hanging out there!
- Also the stepfather (who FI loves, idolizes and is the only father he ever knew) has divorced his mother FOR another woman and wants to bring the other woman to the wedding. FI's mother is FLIPPING out and said, "absolutely not." Now FI HAS to tell his father, who has committed to pay for the rehearsal dinner and may renege...regardless, FI wants him there. It sucks for him!!!
This causes my daughter a lot of constrination in and of itself. So I feel bad! Please God just let her stay healthy!!!!!
On the upside! SHE is scheduled to come in on May 11th! I'm excited to see my daughter try her on!!! I can't wait!!!
Jess had a little BM's luncheon at her house for her BM's to try on their dresses and shoes! So far everything fit everyone! How happy am I? There was some grumbling about the $100 shoes...but hey, daughter had her "vision" too!
So that was last week! Just tying up a few loose ends this week and then I'll post some pictures!
May 11, 2009
Last week we got so much done! I've now printed all of the programs and I'm punching holes in over 1100 sheets of paper. We'll start putting them together this weekend.
Next...the dress came in and it fits daughter like a glove. Unbelieveable! So this week I'll be call Mahtab to do bustle duty.
Mother's Day was nice...but get this...I fell! Right on the effin floor! There was some liquid on it and I went flying in the middle of the expensive restaurant. It was like one of the moments that are in your bad dreams where everyone, I mean everyfreakinone, is silent and looking at you! I was so, so, so, annoyed with myself...All dressed up, high heels and all and I go flyin'! LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL OMG!
If you get a chance, check out the DIY's so far...I'm really proud of myself!
Here's a pic of Mommy and Daughter on Mother's Day...Post Fall...what an idiot!!!!
May 23, 2009
Well, not only have I finished all the manzanita centerpieces, I have now finished selling them to 3 different brides. I also sold the arch (which I haven't completed yet), the cylindrical vases and the crystals! Yes! I'm not going to concentrate on selling the rest until after the wedding...
I started decorating the parasols. We're putting feathers on the outside and crystals on the finials. That will be fun. We also finished 100 programs. Only 55 more to go!
We also are waiting for our addressed cards. We decided to have the printer go ahead and print the addresses on a layered card that will be attachedd to the front of the invitation. We'll start putting those together as soon as they come.
We're well on our way and I can actually see the finish line! Or the wedding, I guess. This has been so much fun for the most part! How lucky am I????
Tomorrow I'll have a houseful of "OLD" Olympians over to play our semi-annual game of Whist! That will be fun...it's always very competitive, as you may imagine!!!
June 3, 2009
We're almost finished putting the invitations together. I only need to take them to be weighed and to buy the postage...ouch! I've also finished the invitations to my daughter's shower on July 19th at Waters Restaurant on the Lake in Irvine.
I read a Thread last night about the amount of "declines" everyone seems to be getting. I'm really hoping that the 30% rate applies to my daughter's wedding...LOL Our original list was 150 now we're at 178. Hmmmm...perhaps if I don't get on the phone and call all of those who are too rude to RSVP! There's an idea!
Today is Jessica's Birthday. 24 Years ago she came into this world. Of course, our joy turned to fear when we were told that she'd require immediate open heart surgery which was only done across the country at Boston Childrens Hospital. I would have not even dared to dream then what I dream of every single night now...her wedding. Believe it or not, I almost "welcome" the pre-wedding nightmares in comparison to what thealternatives are.
So, I've now included a counter at the top of my bio page...because the countdown is actually going on. I haven't missed a day of training. Okay, I've cheated a bit on my diet...but I'm actually beginning to see the results of my hard work. June 10th I'm having my face and neck lifted "again." I'm doing it again because I don't think that the Doctor pulled me tight enough. So I'm excited about that!
June 9, 2009
It's a blogging VENT!
My daughter has turned into Bridezilla and it's not funny. She's become very tempermental. She can be very nasty! It's kind of, well, embarrassing.
Now I know that this is mostly my fault. I've planned the and executed everything so far. She has no clue because she doesn't need to...she has me. But there is more to planning a wedding than registering, posing for pictures and spending a few Saturdays (after 12:00pm because "princess needs her sleep") putting a few flowers together and stuffing envelopes. I mean, honestly, think that after I asked for two weeks and sent her the contact info she could call Mahtab for dress alterations? No...she's busy! Think that she could have more hair trials or at least call my stylist? Nope, no time...princess is busy. Think maybe she might be able to take the invitations to be weighed? Uh, nope! But she does manage to talk to me in that biting awful tone, walk 25 paces ahead of me in the mall, and roll her eyes and then shout, NO! to everything that I suggest. Last night was a fine example!
Our videographer was supposed to provide me with a video similar to one that I had showed him. He said, no problem! I didn't know what to call it when I hired him well over a year ago, but now I know it's High Def. So last night we go to his office, which my daughter didn't want to do because she was tired. He tells me that his normal fee for high def is $1600 more...which I know...I was online checking out renting the damn HD camera...they aren't cheap. Well, he finally gets back to me and says that he'll do it for $700 more. That's not bad! My daughter won't hear of it! Not that she's paying for it...but she doesn't see the difference. The reason is because I'm on PW everyday and I've seen good videos and bad videos...KWIM??? She's never seen any freakin' videos except last night!
It's like she doesn't care and I know that she does! It's insane! Today we went to Bloomingdales to register...Well, the girl has NEVER BOILED WATER! She honestly doesn't know the difference between sterling and stainless, crystal and glass, china and ironstone! It's not like she didn't grow up with nice things...She just doesn't know the difference between a blender and a Cuisinart! I'm trying to tell her to register for everything because it can all be exchanged later...I'm telling her 12-16 placesettings and I swear to G-d she's telling me that it's just her and Nick and they only need 4! Well, not exactly like that...but Damn Near like that!
Then she gets hungry. We leave Bloomies to grab something to eat. First Place on the Left "The Corner Bakery." She says..."fine, we'll eat there...but it makes me sick!" So I say, well, honey let's go someplace else! She say..."no let's just stay here." WTF???? That's when I turned on my heals said "have a nice day" and left her standing there! See, I have to get home to grab the freakin' invitations so that they can be weighed, stamps bought, affixed and mailed. She just has to go home, kick her feet up and pet her dogs when they jump on her lap! Whatever!
Never made it to Bed Bath and Beyond...LOL....I just had to get away from her! It was seriously stressing me out! I had 6 polyps biopsied from my stomach on Wednesday and my belly was beginning to ache from being around her! Good Luck, Nick! LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL Poor Guy!!!!!
Okay, I'm glad that I got that off of my chest...Time for a nap! I've had a big day!
BTW...wish me luck...facelift in the morning!
I'M LIFTED!!! HOORAY!!!
Well, well, well. Face lift really went okay. When they loaded me into the car post-op I pulled down the mirror and looked in horror when I saw that one side of my face would not move! I'd smile and the right lip curled up and the left hung limp...and I mean hung. I actually began practicing smiling holding up the lip with my top teeth as a "just in cast" for the wedding photos. My husband was like, "What the h3LL are you doing?" When the stuff wore off and I was firmly on pain killers (which I didn't really need but thought I'd take anyway) I went to the bathroom mirror to make sure that the left side was curling up! LOL
On Friday I went on the Invitation weighing/hand canceling wild goose chase! That was a real goat f***!!!! How can an invitation weigh and be measured and then cost between $1.31 and $2.44 to mail depending upon which P.O. you go too? And would someone like to tell me how all of the sudden when I go into the original PO and lose my temper loudly...stitches and staples having just been taken out of my head...the supervisor tells me no worries on the hand canceling? Oh and everyone in SoCal had their invites within 19 hrs.!!! And the cross country folks had their invites within about 54 hours???? Go figure!
But the nice news is that we've gotten comments like..."The Postman delivered the invitation by knocking on the door and handing it to us asking who was it from the Pentagon?" Okay...they ARE nice and should be for $28.00 before postage. Definitely not "Platinum Weddingish" because I've seen and received those invitations...like written on acrylic in a satin box...But our invites are very nice nonetheless.
I'm really beginning to freak!!! 85 days left and daughter is coming over tomorrow to organize not only our stuff, but the to do's, timelines, stuff for all of the DOC's, vendors, bridal party....Ugh!
Oh here's a good one. My husband just signed a contract with Universal Sports, owned by NBC who he's contracted to, to do an event on MY DAUGHTER'S FREAKIN' WEDDING DAY...HE'S SAYS, "OH I'LL BE DONE IN TIME." UH.....NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I've actually seen that movie. I was pregnant with our first Child and my husband, in all of his wisdom, went to do an event for CBS on my due date in Minnesota!!!!!!!!!! Okay...he was going to be gone for about 48 hours...and no first babies come on their due date........................EXCEPT MY FREAKIN' SON!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yup DH missed the birth of his first born!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THERE WILL BE NO EVENT ON HIS DAUGHTER'S WEDDING DAY OR I'M GETTING A DIVORCE AND I'M NOT KIDDING.
I worked today and was able to take a picture of Daughters Wedding Band and the Brooch I purchased for her.
IT'S A WIDE ISH BAND
THOSE ARE BLACK DIAMONDS AND WHITE DIAMONDS
I also took some Pics "One week out on my little face." Now remember, I hada facelift in Sept. This was just a bit of a neck tune up...and it's still all "swolled!!!" LOL
I just realized that I made it sound as if I purchased the wedding band as well as the brooch...I didn't! Of course Nick purchased the band!
June 28, 2009
What a fun week I had! On Tuesday I attended an LA GTG in the Valley. It was so much fun meeting some of the girls. I feel like I know them well...and they know me WELL! What a lovely person Kristeen is!! She has been so helpful this week, but more about that later!
So I got to meet everyone and nobody seemed to mind that some "old lady" wanted to horn in on their good time!!!
I've gotten more done this week. Another disastrous hair trial...WTF??? Decision has now been made that Jess will wear her hair down! Ugh!!!...And the 2 birdcages I already have wouldn't work. So Kristeen, forwarded me the website of veil websites unveiledbridal.com... We ordered a custom veil, but it was yet another goat F*** for me! Dear Daughter is becoming a Pain in the A**!!! So I asked Kristeen to tell me what she thought. Within minutes, she PM'd me her choices of base flowers, accent flowers, brooch, and accents stones. I'm so excited I tell daughter to go to website and look with me. I'm on the website, talking to her ear to shoulder (holding the phone) and getting more and more frustrated by the hour...yes the hour...not the minute!!! Dear Daughter decides she wants a thing that looks like a hat!!!!! A HAT!!!! what the F***!!! "But I don't want it flat to my head!!!!" Okay, well can we meet in the middle somewhere???? LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL...I couldn't take it anymore! So finally Saturday morning I said to Jess, what about these flowers and so on...and she said I love them.......get it.......okay.......it's what Kristeen originally sent!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ugh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
Then I ordered the extensions. I had to! My daughter has UGLY hair and it's thin. She was getting up-dos at her hair trials and she looked ridiculous...so I ordered extensions. Long story.....She always wears extensions...permanent extensions! She pays close to $1000 to have them done....But now that she's getting married for some reason she won't get them! It's not money....she just bought a Lamb Handbag! So I ordered extensions because I can't stand it anymore!
I've gotten nervous about the timeline! Organizing vendors, bridal party and reception elements is making me stress. I'm going to get my act together on this. Well, I have to, don't I????
July 5, 2009
Sixty three days left and I'm really nervous! Jess seems to be holding up better.
She and Nick moved to Anaheim. I wasn't particulary pleased about that on a number of fronts.
- Can someone please tell me how moving saves money in the short run???
- They are now locked into a lease for a year and won't be buying anything
- Jess grew up in a freakin' gated community of 135 homes and doesn't even know what "playing in a street" really is, let alone what walking from a parking structure in Anaheim is like...
- They sold all of their furniture bought a year ago and purchased a new living room set and a new wall unit. W T F!!!!! Remember***read above***my daughter took over everything that was left to be paid on my side ($2,400) and also took the $10,000 from FMIL and left her dad to pay for the entire reception/bar...what....$40,000??? LOL...Ugh.........And now she's "out of money!" W T F?????
Jess and Nick have lived there a month and she's been "bugging" me to visit. So we went there to celebrate the 4th! It's really lovely!!!! the Ceilings are all 12' flat/high...floors are all this bamboo stuff and carpets in the bedrooms...two full baths, all gorgeous new appliances and granite...brand spanking new/they're the first renters...Okay...But 1-4 still applies!!!
We went swimming...Mommy doesn't even wear shorts, let alone a bathing suits...but two "Mai Tais" later I was in my suit! Can you all give me another "WTF?"
JESS AND HER DAD, JESS AND NICK, JESS AND ONE OF HER BRIDESMAIDS, KRISTEN AND JESS AND THE MOMMY...MOMMY "DON'T SHOW NO SKIN!!!"
The "facebook" thingy is now the other thing in my life that drives me crazy but a neat thing happened this week. I taught at Santa Monica High School from 1977 until 1983. My "Old" students have been searching for me. Because Santa Monica High School is the High School for Malibu, Palisades High is LA unified, Santa Monica isn't, a lot of very famous kids graduated from SAMOHI and went on to go into the Movie/Television industry as their parents did. In 1977, my first Class I taught, I had Emilio Estevez and later his brothers, Ramon and Carlos. Carlos took his fathers "Stage" name Sheen and became "Charlie Sheen." I also had Rob Lowe in my 12th grade English class in 1981 (I think that's when it was). That's when Charlie Sheen "didn't" graduate too. Couldn't...I flunked him...long story...liked him...but he never came to class. Anyway, Ramon contacted me on facebook and brought me up to date on everyone. Emilio is directing and full time gardening and wine making. Ramon now works at Warner Brothers in Burbank. He manages a TV development satellite company that his brother Charlie is head of. He develops and pitches ideas for television. Anyway, it was nice to catch up and I'll be connecting up with him soon. Fun!!!
I couldn't decide what to do about decor for Jessie's first shower. I allowed the venue AND Dollar Tree dictate the decor!!! (LOL...can you tell I'm running out of money???) It's coming together nicely in the "hot, tropical colors. The venue is on the lake in Irvine and the inside is done in those colors. It will be fine!
The hair extensions arrived. Hopefully, they'll help!
So here's another bit of fabulous news....I received a gorgeous diamond bracelett from my very wealthy friend. It's right around 11 carats...and I'm not letting Jessica wear it!!!! LOL
Here's the bracelett "Princess will wear! It's good enough for her...mines nicer...LOLOLOLOLLOLOLOLOL...and too bad!!!
Her's is diamonds too but I win!!!! LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL ROFL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
July 13, 2009
Husbands yearly camp is OVER, thank the LORD! It was hotter than heck on that track and one girl passed out. Other than that...no big casualties. What I do love is when my husband tells me two days before to expect 16 for dinner on Friday and be at the hotel to register kids at the same time. Then I love it when on Sunday he tells me that it will just be himself and his best friend for dinner after the camp and he shows up with six more people! I felt "split in half" all weekend and the shower for 56 is next weekend, Sunday. Not to mention that there's some Olympic Tribute to John Williams at the Sports Arena to mark the 25th anniversary of the LA Olympics (everyone will be there) a private reception afterwards...I have NOTHING to wear and I hate those kinds of things AND it's the day/night before the shower!!! I can't get the cupcake girl to communicate, I had 10 people RSVP late, I don't have enough favors, and I have to make more layered menus and finish nametags! My heart is leaping out of my chest, and my husband (in all his wisdom) decided to store 12 cans of paint on a shelf above all my DIY's...it collapsed and 2 cans of flat paint opened an spilled all over the place! Luckily there only a small dent in the card box and the front door monogram is full of paint. So not too bad, considering the aisle runner was sitting there!
Oh...and my husband tells me that I have "anger management" issues! LOLOLOLOLOLOL...Ya think?????????
I was able to save the site fee of 1700...but we'll need to rent our chairs. Which is good...because I can get Chiavari chairs for the ceremony for 1/2 that amount!