May 18, 2013
I am not a really big fan of heavy, creamy cakes. So we are not sure what we want. However they loook so nice :-D THis is just amazing and could also be matching with a bouquet. Another option would be something fruity.
I love the rose-cake. However that would have to be adjusted to go with my color scheme...have to think about.
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Maybe also a combination of a fruitcake and a creamy top might work.
The actual thing :-)
The cake toppers I made
here i want to list some tradtions that might not be familiar to the most of you, but very common in Germany. Maybe some like it and want to incorporate it in their planning or could give hints how I can "accesorize" them.
- A unique German pre-wedding custom is the creation of a wedding newspaper by the friends and family of the bride and groom. This newspaper, or booklet, is filled with pictures, articles and stories of the engaged couple. The newspaper is either sold at the wedding reception, to assist with the expenses of the honeymoon or given for free. (I did that for my brother once and it is sooo much work, but totally worth it)
- Either right after the ceremony or before entering the reception location the happy couple is offered a slice of bread with some salt, sometimes accompanied by some water (as an omen for solidarity in good and bad times)
- Another tradition occurs right after the ceremony: There will be a log on a sawhorse and the couple has to cut the log in half! This is to symbolize the first tough tasks of their future they can accomplish together.
- As the guests leave they are given white ribbons to each driver of a car in the procession to tie to the radio antenna of the car. This procession then drives through the town honking their horns. Other drivers on the route honk their horns in return to wish the newlyweds good luck in their marriage.
- when you marry in a church a wedding candle is (I think) required. usually it has some wedding symbols, the wedding date and the names of the couple on it. It is lit during the ceremony and when you walk out one of the little ones in carrying it in front of the party. Later it can be put on the table of the couple and after the wedding it should be kept and lit on every anniversary. Here an example
...to be continued
I decided to give some information about German weddings in general, so that everyone knows what I am talking about later on. If you have some time go on and read it :-)
At first, in Germany we do not usually plan weddings so much in advance. I would guess it is because we often do not have so many "requirements" like there are in the US. The only reason to start early is to find the perfect spot. However, due to a long history we have a huge number of castle and other georgous places around.
About the main venues:
- stag/hens parties become more and more popular. mostly its about hanging out with same-sex friends or go out. often you have to wear stupid stuff and also often sell things (from sweets, to condoms or alcohol) to finance the night. So it is rather casual.
- then we traditionally do something that is called "Polterabend". Sometimes its translated with rehearsal dinner or wedding-eve party. For me, both do not fit the meaning. The literal translation would be "rumble night", why this is, you will read later on. It used to be the night before the wedding, but nowadays it can be weeks or a couple of days before it. It is a mostly casual party where you dont explicitly invite people, but everyone who knows about it can come, often it is more a party with friends that with the whole family bunch. Often it is at peoples houses, casual sport clubs with bbq and such. It is obligatory to bring chinaware with you an smash it at an especially prepared area or in front of the house. Thats were the name comes from. It can be pretty loud. (I have seen parties were people came with trucks, loaded with china, toilet bowl etc.) The idea behind it is: Break a thing, mend your luck and the rumbling is supposed to scare away negative spirits. Plus: The wedding couple learns to work to getting by cleaning up the mess.
This party has a long tradition and explains why stag/hen parties were not that common in earlier days. Furthermore, because many friends were already there...german weedings are usually not that big, concerning guest numbers. Most friends were already at the Polterabend.It is also possible to combine the polterabend with the "regular" party and people bring there (old) china then.
- the actual ceremony has to be at a civil registry office or someplace else but with a representative. However, most offices have special rooms or halls which look very nice, you can bring flowers, music,....or they offer rooms nearby where they hold wedding ceremonies. It is possible to be there just with the guy or with a large group of people. You can ask for a speech or a "short version".
- besides that many also long for a religious wedding. This is only possible with the "official version in advance" Only a curch wedding is not possible. As long asat least one of the happy couple pays church tax (yes, no separation between church and state) you can ask for wedding mass, as long as the priest is ok, with tha fact that only one is an "official member". You can then choose any priest and church (as long as it is the same congregation.
- right after the wedding (official of church) guest have a chance gratulate and perform certain tradtions. There are so many, that I will write an extra posting about thos (which I like and want to have) Than everyone goes to the party venue. Sometimes the happy couple takes a break here with the photographer to take official pictures. Then, the whole wedding party has coffee and cake together or starts wirth dinner...depending on the starting time. Then there is a party with all guests.
It is not common at all, that the couple leaves during the party for their honeymoon.
Some other things that are not common at all at German weddings:
- brides maids
- best man and maid of honor (there are "witnesses of marriage, who can be seen as equivalent)
-father daugther dance
- candle ceremony
- to be continued
In Germany, favors are not very common but I love the idea to give them something to remember. However, I can't make up my mind WHAT.
I liked those "favor bags"
Yesterday I went to a party accessoire store and found this: one pack with 10 boxes cost 1,50 € (~2$) so I got 3 packs of tuxes and 3 packs with gowns. Because I think they look a little "plain" I also got these "pearl-stickers" they are semisphere (half-ball) One pack of stickers cost 1€ (~1,50$) and has 72 stickers in 3 sizes.
Although I am not exactly sure what the favours will be....I now how they will presented. I think some kind of candy (maybe personalised M&M) or almonds
Also also think about using these containers as name plates....we'll see
ok, forget about those containers. I came up with a completely different idea. In my family I am known for my luck in winning giveaways, taking part in product testings etc. And because of that I have quiet some goodies, which I dont exactly need. This includes high quality beauty and hair care, towels, books (cookbooks, novels), classware sets (e.g. set of whiskey or juice glasses) As a favor every couple, kid or single will get a lottery ticket (no blanks) and will be a winner. As I got to marry my "jackpot". Each gift contains something for women and men. However they can switch prized whenever they like.
my brother held the tombola during time we went away with the photographer, to keep the guests busy. It turned out great. Everyone loved the idea and the gifts they got!
I did not imagine how hard it would be to decide on a color theme. There are so many combinations that I like....I am just not sure. Plus I always think will it be hard to find all details in this theme, am I brave enough to do something different or do I want it rather classical.
My options right now are:
- off-white with gold and brown nuances
- lilac, purple, white (and maybe light green)
- off white, dark red, black
- white, green, pink (just found a flower bouquet with those) i never considered, because I am not the "pink type" but those colors go so naturally together and the decoration and such would be rather easy
Help my FI is no big help, because he leaves it totally up to be..."whatever makes you happy, makes me happy" great...so....
The more i look around the more ideas i have. How can help me...how did you decide?
I think I made up my mind and combine two ideas. The brown and gold is just to much for spring wedding I guess and I just have seen too many "red" weddings so far. I decided I will go with white, green and purple maybe with some rustic wooden elements. Probably that represents us the best and I am really happy with my decision. yeah!! I find it really hard to find "the one" purple. So I guess all shades of berries, plum etc. give a nice mix.
Its all over now....the excitement, the planning, the crafting,... and I loved every bit of it! If you would like to see all of my bio please send a friend request. You are more than welcome. I love to share...
(especially if you are also German and need some advive where to get some things)
WOW, I am so honored to be botw!!!!! thats a surprise. Thank you so much ladies! So many little accents and ideas the guests loved I found here! they made such a big difference to me and made this day perfect
flygirl was a lovely German bride whose wedding featured purple accents and touches of rustic greenery. The reception featured a delicious-looking pair of heart-shaped cakes with red fruity topping, and everyone danced the night away (until 4 a.m.!) at the reception. Read her bio to learn about the many German wedding traditions that the couple incorporated in their special day.
I am Ariane and I am from Germany. I just fell in love with this website and tought it might me helpful for me, organizing my thoughts and on the other hands some might be interested in how weddings work in other countries. Of course the main parts are all the same but there are some tradtiotions that might be new and some points "required" in the english-speaking world are unknown or uncommon here.
For quite some time I already collected pics of wedding-related things I like. Now I have a place to organize and upload them to have a better overview and make up my mind. There are so many different things I like and I can't decide which way to go. I hope to find some inspiration here, or if anybody has good advice, feel free.
I started saving photo's long before I became fully aware of PW Etiquette, so please let me know if any photo I use in a bio page or post is yours so that I can source them correctly.
Now that I am officially engaged and we set the date (May 18th, 2013) I totally dive into the planning process and get crazy :-)
Now that the date is getting closer I will put some things on "friends only". Just go ahead and send a request.