I’m Frustrated with My Fiancé!

If you’re feeling a bit miffed at the groom-to-be, you can feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. If you’re saying, “Help! I’m frustrated with my fiancé,” here are some common wedding issues and solutions that may help. (community article)

Wedding planning is a very exciting thing - you're about to join the man of your dreams in a very sacred and special commitment! Not only are you busy with the important plans which will work to make your big day special, but you're dealing with the guests, the wedding party and everything else on top of your regular daily chores.

If you're feeling a bit miffed at the groom-to-be, you can feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. If you're saying, "Help! I'm frustrated with my fiancé," here are some common wedding issues and solutions that may help.

I'm Frustrated with My Fiancé for Not Helping!

Have you noticed that your fiancé would much rather leave ALL of the wedding planning to you? If you've been waiting for him to jump in and help and he hasn't, it's understandable that you'd feel a bit frustrated. Perhaps your fiancé feels a little out of place in all of the planning. Men typically feel clueless and overwhelmed when faced with planning a wedding.

One idea is to give him specific, small tasks to accomplish. By getting him to help in small doses, you will feel better and he won't be overwhelmed. Often times, it's a simple case of crossed communication lines. Be specific and you'll probably notice that he doesn't mind helping at all.

I'm Frustrated with My Fiancé for Not Cooperating!

Perhaps your fiancé doesn't want to wear the tuxedo you've picked out for him or he isn't really fond of the flowers you've chosen for the arrangements. Don't worry - many couples have differences of opinion when it comes to the wedding planning. There are a few things you can do in this situation.

Is it that important to you? If your fiancé really has his heart set on something in particular, is it that important for you to have something else? If you can give in without being too upset, perhaps it's the best idea!

Try to compromise with him. If you want one thing and he wants another, is there a middle ground you could meet on? By finding a solution that works for you both, you can be satisfied with the results and happy with your groom.

When you're frustrated with your fiancé, remember that his little quirks and personality traits are what you love about him. Chances are, there is a solution readily available if you just be patient and understanding.

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syphon79

05/17/2011 at 07:57 am

Communication is definitely the key in figuring out if your fiance is truly not helping or frustrated...or just simply not sure how to ask "hey, what can I do to help?". It definitely helps talking it out and figuring out what are your strengths/weaknesses when it comes to the wedding prep.Once you both figure that part out, it's a matter of determining who is responsible for what, and keeping each other updated if one of us needs a helping hand.

For example, because my fiance job requires him reviewing grants/contracts and working with grantees, we both agreed that it's his job to review all the contracts and pose questions to our vendors (which honestly, has helped us immensely to finding which vendors to work, and who to boot!). In turn, I'm much better at tracking finances so I manage what amount is used to which areas.

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pajarito81

04/27/2010 at 12:39 am

My fiance and I have had a few bumps along the road while doing our wedding planning. Article is definitely right about the communication. Usually were so occupied in what each of us wants ourselves,that we aren't really LISTENING to each other. I've had situations that I've had to give in because I realized I was arguing over spilled milk and it was so not worth it. Its so easy to get caught up in the whole materialistic side of the wedding planning, and lose the true meaning of your wedding day!! Listening, Patience, Compromise, and telling your sweetie what you think and what's important to you with a nice love tone really help!!!

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sanela

04/26/2010 at 01:26 pm

This article is right on time! My fiance has been a big help with regard to certain things, but he keeps putting off others...I guess it's on me to keep asking! Thanks for the article.

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dsopatyk

04/26/2010 at 12:08 pm

Sometimes, it's just a matter of asking them. For instance....I was looking for invitations that would fit into our budget. I have a not so common color of Navy Blue. I was looking online at many websites....trying to fumble through making my own invitations, and visited a couple of places that you can order the invitations through looking in a book. I asked him to come along with me....he kept me focused, and we selected our invitations within an hour. Sure beats the 2 months of research that I was doing. And the invitations look great and they were cheap too! Go figure.

If only I can motivate him to give me all of the addresses of his guests, so I can put those together. Maybe I'll tell him, I'll do mine and you do yours. That will give him more of a time restriction on things.

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