Planning a wedding and working to make everything come together for one special, perfect day can be difficult. This is especially true if the people around you (the family, wedding party and guests) aren’t cooperating the way you’d like them to. (community article)
Planning a wedding and working to make everything come together for one special, perfect day can be difficult. This is especially true if the people around you (the family, wedding party and guests) aren't cooperating the way you'd like them to. This is where the RSVP gripes come in at. Below, you will find some of the most common RSVP gripes and some helpful solutions to use in those situations.
Late or Missing RSVPs -
One of the biggest RSVP gripes is when they come in late, or you don't receive them at all. Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do with late RSVPs, unless you'd like to give the guest an earful. However, for missing RSVPs, you should try to call the guest.
When calling, you should always assume that the invitation or RSVP card has been lost in the mail - never assume that they simply didn't care to send you their response. Simply inform the guest that you haven't received an RSVP and ask if they received an invitation and whether or not you should expect their presence. Also, if you're unable to get in touch with a guest to RSVP, simply assume that they will be attending. Having more than enough for your guests is much better than having too little.
Half RSVPs -
Another RSVP gripe is if you actually do receive the RSVP for an invitation which allows for one guest to accompany the recipient - but the recipient doesn't inform you that a guest will also be coming. This can make it difficult to get an accurate head count for the food, favors, etc. If you aren't sure whether the recipient is bringing a guest to the wedding, always assume that they are. Again, having too many chairs and places is better than not having enough.
No Reason for the Decline -
If you receive an RSVP card back and a guest has declined, but there is no reason for the decline. It can really make you want to send an RSVP etiquette guide their way. Whether they are having family problems at the time, have already committed to another event or something else, it's always nice to have some reason why they will not be attending.
When left without one, their RSVP can seem really rude and nonchalant. In this case, simply call after the ceremony and let the guest know that they were missed and that it was unfortunate that they weren't able to come. Of course, don't ask why, but it's nice to give a follow up call in any situation.
Although RSVP gripes are plentiful, these are the most common ones - and the best ways to deal with them.