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The 5 Most Common Wedding Guest Complaints

Find out what most irks guests at a wedding and learn how to avoid these common planning pitfalls (expert advice)

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You’re getting married and your ultimate goal is to make your wedding day 100% perfect. The last thing you want is for your friends and family to have a terrible time and spend the next 50 years whispering about the things that should have been done differently.

 

Most people have attended at least one wedding that was really bad. By knowing the common complaints, you can ensure that your wedding is a beautiful experience for you and your guests.

 

1. Not Knowing Where to Go

 

One of the most common complaints of wedding guests is being unsure of where to go or what to do. This is usually accompanied by awkward moments of looking right and left, hoping that someone will step in and direct them to the correct area. To avoid this problem, enlist help by designating someone as the “point person.”

 

Have your point person greet guests and let them know where to go or what’s happening next. This way, your guests will not be left wondering where they should sit and what they should do.

 

2. Left without a Ride

 

For guests in the wedding, a common complaint is being left without a ride. Many brides and grooms arrange transportation from the hotel to the wedding, but they neglect to provide transportation from the reception back to the hotel. If you can arrange transportation, do so. If not, make sure that there is a way for your wedding guests to call a cab, catch a bus or find some other way to leave the reception.

 

If necessary, print up cards with phone numbers or other important information. You certainly don’t want to leave your guests wondering how in the world they will make it back to the hotel or home.

 

3. The Speech That Never Ends

 

Speeches can be charming, witty, funny and enjoyable for the wedding guests to hear, but they can also be way too long, boring and conducive to fits of dozing. Make sure that your speech conveys the emotions you’re feeling, but keep it as short and sweet as possible. A good speech should only last a few minutes and should be refreshing for guests to hear.

 

Gently pass this information to all those giving speeches at your wedding. While you may appreciate the Maid of Honor’s 15-minute trip down memory lane, your guests probably won’t.

 

4. A Table of Strangers

 

Most wedding planners, brides-to-be or maids of honor decide which guests should sit at which tables. This part of the planning is very important because guests will feel uncomfortable at a table with people they don’t know. Imagine sitting at a table where everyone knows everyone else – except for you. Or worse, imagine if no one knows anyone else at their table!

 

Make sure to plan the seats wisely so that everyone can converse and have a great time at the reception. You should make sure that everyone will know at least one other person at their table well enough to feel comfortable chatting with him or her. This will keep your guests happy and will be one more step toward the perfect wedding!

 

5. Time Between the Wedding and Reception

 

While the bride and groom are extremely busy trying to get their things together, their affairs in order and everything else, they probably aren’t thinking too much about the time between the wedding and the reception. The guests, however, will have to find a way to kill that time, and if it’s a long time, they may be stuck twiddling their thumbs.

 

An hour or two is about the perfect amount of time between the wedding and reception. If you must, have a few helpers who can help you get everything together so that you can be on your way sooner. If you’re unable to hold the events within an hour or two of each other, try to make other accommodations for your guests.

 

Can your reception hall or location be opened for waiting guests? Can you have a light snack prepared for those guests who will be waiting? By making sure that your guests are occupied, entertained and taken care of, you will be ensuring that they have a great time at your wedding!

 

While it’s really difficult to make sure that every single detail is perfect, you can take care of the most common wedding guest complaints. If the major things are under control, things will flow much more easily on your wedding day, and it will be remembered for its beauty and joy rather than for the things that went wrong!

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02/03/2012 at 07:49 am

Great advice!!

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02/03/2012 at 07:43 am

Being the MOB and one that is on a very tight budget, I have been reading all the comments so as to avoid any of them occuring at my daughter's wedding. Thankfully, my daughter and her fiance have decided against any alcohol at her wedding out of respect for my husband and myself, the groom's parents and our church family that will be in attendance. So no worries about a cash bar...LOL

Their guest list started out close to 500, financially that is not possible for us. What we decided to do instead is close friends and family for the ceremony and an after party for their "friends"

Reception is immediately following the ceremony, they are having pictures before, so no gaps between ceremony and reception...so far so good...LOL.

Weddings have changed so much over the years, when I got married the ceremony was at the church, reception in the fellowship hall, mints, nuts, cheese straws, chicken salad or cucumber sandwiches, cake and punch. The wedding was more focused on two people pledging their love for each other and committment to each other for the rest of their lives.

This day and time, weddings have turned into nothing more than a big party, music, entertainment, cocktail reception, elaborate meals etc...If I just shelled out 70K+ for my daughters wedding and people had something to complain about I really think I would lose it...LOL. Yes, they are a guest, you do your best to make your guests comfortable, but some people are never happy. I say plan your wedding as your budget allows and how you would like it to be, if someone complains about something oh well, tell them be glad they weren't paying for it.

 

11/18/2011 at 10:40 pm

I think on the cashbar issue, its ok. If your providing non-alcoholic options for free, then why is it a big deal? You shouldn't have to pay hundreds of dollars for you guests to get plastered. We're providing Champagne for toasting and some different wines, but if they want anything harder, they'll have to get it elsewhere.

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10/30/2011 at 08:27 am

Unfortunately, I will be having a long wait time between my ceremony and the reception dinner (4 hrs... my church only does weddings during noon time). I am trying to figure out something for my OOT guests to do to assuage the situation, like recomend to them yummy places to eat a quick bite or cool places to sight see (it is vegas, after all). I really can't afford to do much else. But where my family is from, this isn't too much of an issue. People take breaks like these to freshen up make up and get dressy for the reception. Actually, the only thing that people will remember from your wedding where I am from is the food. My parents still talk of weddings from their town where, unfortunately, people got sick. (Not the couples fault). They never talk about the music, or what the bride wore, or the party favors.
But the biggest faux pas you can make is running out of food for everyone (which is usually seen as the fault of the couple for bad planning). These are the two complaints I dread, and hope I don't see at my wedding...

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