The Bachelor Jason Mesnick's Brand New Interview!
Exclusive: We caught up with The Bachelor for his thoughts on love, weddings, women and more! (expert advice)
This season's "The Bachelor" is down to the final two women: Melissa, 25, a sales representative from Dallas, TX; and Molly, 24, a department store buyer from Grand Rapids, MI. So who will Jason Mesnick -- the man in the hot seat -- pick? Unfortunately, we will have to wait until Monday, March 2 to find out who "The Bachelor" chooses as the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with, but in the meantime, projectwedding.com caught up with the handsome single dad to discuss women, weddings and PDAs.
PW: You are down to just two women: Molly and Melissa. When you were going through the process, what were the red flags that would cause you to eliminate someone?
Jason Mesnick: There were different flags that would make me send girls home. One was if I didn't think I was going to end up with them or marry them. That was a huge one. If I just saw them as a friend, or if I saw them not getting along with the other girls, that was big to me. If you can't get along here in this experience -- and I know that it is different -- you aren't going to get along in your real life either.
PW: On the flip side to that, what qualities were you looking for in a woman?
Jason Mesnick: A lot of different qualities. I always thought and I still think that you want somebody who is going to walk into a room and people are going to be attracted to her. But I am also looking for somebody who is also going to walk into a room and be attracted to everybody -- want to get to know people as she is walking around -- and genuinely care about the feelings of other people and want to get to know them.
Also, [they should have already gone] through the personal storm in their life, whether that means that they had to date or travel a lot. [I need somebody who has] experienced something on their own because my life is a little bit different because I have Ty.
PW: You have announced that you are in love. Have you gone so far as to think about what your ideal wedding would be?
Jason Mesnick: No, because that is a whole different conversation that I can't do in my own head. It is a conversation between two people.
PW: Would you consider having a TV wedding like "The Bachelorette"'s Trista Rehn and Ryan Sutter?
Jason Mesnick: I don't know. I have never thought about that really. I guess anything is possible. My life outside of the last two seasons where everybody has seen it has been relatively private, but that is not something that I thought about.
PW: One of the things they show on "The Bachelor" is a lot of the PDA (public displays of affection). How comfortable were you with that? People were thinking you were having sex in the tent and sex in the Fantasy Suite -- and that is possibly with three different women.
Jason Mesnick: All I will say is that the physical part of a relationship is important. I am not talking about sex or anything like that. When two people click and connect, you have to know that. It is not the most important thing, but it is an important part of a relationship. So if you need to figure that out by a kiss or by flirting, just whatever it is, it was important for me to find out.
PW: Now that you have seen almost the entire season of "The Bachelor," how do you feel you were portrayed?
Jason Mesnick: I have said this before: If you don't say it, they can't show it. I feel that what they have shown of me is really me.
PW: Did you have second thoughts about bringing your son Ty into the process? You have said the woman you are with isn't going to be Ty's mother, he has a mother. That said, she still has to have maternal instincts in order to live with the two of you.
Jason Mesnick: I knew I couldn't fully fall in love with somebody unless they have that maternal instinct and they wanted that in their life. I had to see them with Ty, too. The last two girls meet Ty on March 2.
PW: How do you feel about the ratings? You seem to be the most popular Bachelor!
Jason Mesnick: I am happy the show is doing well. It is not just because of me. It is because of everybody who puts so much hard work into the show. This season has been a great season. I had watched it before I was on it. I don't know what makes things different now. I think part of it is they picked some amazing girls to be on it, which makes it a better experience for everybody, including the viewers.
PW: If a friend of yours wanted to do this, what advice would you give him?
Jason Mesnick: I would say if you are going to do this, you have to open yourself up. If you can't open yourself up and be honest, it is not going to work for anybody. Also, you have to come in doing it for the right reasons.
PW: So does that mean that you also want a woman who is open and honest? Can that be added to the list of traits you look for?
Jason Mesnick: Yes. Open and honest. I am not saying not to have a filter, but to say what is on your mind. That is really important to me, as is finding somebody who is going to challenge me. I don't want somebody who is going to roll over and just be there for me for complete support. I want somebody who is going to challenge me all the time, someone who is going to push me for the rest of my life.
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