My Fiancé Hates Wedding Planning!

You delight in wedding planning, but he hates it. We have solutions for how to deal. (expert advice)

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It's one of the most important occasions in your life and you feel like you're on an island, drifting alone with monogrammed invitations in one hand and cake samples in the other. Why do you feel like this? Simply put, your fiancé hates wedding planning. Perhaps he doesn’t have an organizational bone in his body or doesn’t like to nitpick over details, but this isn’t what you expected. You want him to join in on the fun, but don’t want the wedding planning to become a stressed-out adventure. What can you do?

Take Some of the Pressure Away

Let me start by saying that you can't expect your fiancé to become knowledgeable in choosing the perfect cake frosting overnight. Just utter the word 'fondant' and you'll see what I mean. Many fiancés will also have trouble selecting wedding favors and having an opinion on the floral arrangements. Perhaps your fiancé hates wedding planning because you’ve made him feel that he has to become a part of every single detail. He feels overwhelmed. This means you should focus on enlisting his help with the tasks that most likely appeal to him, such as:

• Choosing the photographer and/or videographer
• Making arrangements for the rehearsal dinner
• Researching all-inclusive honeymoon packages
• Renting time-consuming, yet important wedding planning items (like outdoor tents)
• Hiring a DJ or checking out local bands
• Securing transportation plans

Express Your True Feelings

Having your fiancé become a part of the wedding planning process is important to you and he should know that you want the journey to be one that is traveled together. Tell him that you value his opinion and that it's important that you receive his input. 

"He Doesn’t Like Details"

When it comes to wedding planning, there are hundreds of significant, as well as tedious tasks to complete. Having your fiancé simply free up your time can make life much easier. Tell him to leave the details to you, but delegate some of the responsibilities that put a drain on your time, such as making payments, renting equipment, reserving hotel rooms, checking out the reception hall, and picking up supplies.

Create a Picture in His Mind

Some fiancés have no clue how much work goes into wedding planning. Create a list of tasks, dates, and other important information to illustrate that it is very necessary that he take an active interest. Once he's agreed to help out, make a checklist for him to follow.

Member Comments

8 63 6 fzara

11/11/2009 at 02:52 am my fiance' is so caught up in planning our traditional wedding.he does try to be interested but for now it seems too early according to me, fo him to plan the wedding.so traditon first then white wedding later....hope this will change though.

613 89 47 gregsfuturew..

11/01/2009 at 05:19 pm This article is great! I hear this a lot!

1 5 2 PetalWishes

11/01/2009 at 06:18 am I am lucky to have a very involved fi.  He made sure I knew that he wanted to be included in the planning - and I handed him tasks such as DJ, Photographer, coordination of Honeymoon.  While he has come with my to my Florist/Wedding Planner meetings, I would definitely agree that this was the area he felt out of his realm in.  However, yesterday we picked out our invitations and he had a ball with it.  You just never know what might appeal to them - once you start with the basics, it might light a fire under them.

3243 86 142 Sankofa24

10/09/2009 at 11:03 pm very important article i dont want my fi to feel left out!